Wait, this is a real thing? About men needing to have sex for the sake of their health? I always thought this was just something that university boys made up in order to get laid... :o I'm not being sarcastic; I'm genuinely confused. I laughed in a lot of boys' faces when they told me we should sleep together for the sake of their health; I'll feel kind of bad if they were actually telling the truth, lol!
I don't think this is entirely true. Women know what sex is! When I want a kiss and a cuddle from my husband I ask for or initiate a kiss and a cuddle; when I want sex I ask for or initiate sex. I don't think many women don a lacy nightie just to indicate to their husbands that they want a hug - most husbands AND WIVES know what it means when the sexy lingerie (or "that look", or "so, are you really tired...?", or whatever device the couple uses to indicate that they're in the mood) comes out
Also, I don't know many happily married women who could have sex a few times a year and be satisfied, though I guess they might exist somewhere.
A different take on the whole scenario - could it be a generational thing? Maybe in previous generations (is the pastor in question significantly older than you, GraceDaily?) a woman's sex drive was something of a myth, and it's only relatively recently that it's become accepted or acceptable for a woman to want or enjoy sex.