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Your view on birth control?

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e=mv^2 said:
Are you telling me now that no woman has ever died as a result of pregnancy or childbirth?
Actually, yes. Pregnancy doesn't kill. If a woman has complications or bleeds to death during birth, it is the bleeding that kills her, not the baby, not the pregnancy, not the labor. If someone dies from choking on a hotdog it was the lack of air that killed, not the hotdog. It's like saying that if a pregnant woman dies in a car crash that the fetus is at fault, when it is actually the car crash that caused death. Pregnancy is a normal function of the body. Women die IN childbirth not OF childbirth.
 
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Ecclesiastes 1:13 And I gave my heart to seek and search out by wisdom concerning all things that are done under heaven: this sore travail hath God given to the sons of man to be exercised therewith.
 
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Would you agree that pregnancy places added stress on the cardiovascular system? Would you agree that when a woman is pregnant they can not take certain medications?


Actually, yes. Pregnancy doesn't kill. If a woman has complications or bleeds to death during birth, it is the bleeding that kills her, not the baby, not the pregnancy, not the labor. If someone dies from choking on a hotdog it was the lack of air that killed, not the hotdog. It's like saying that if a pregnant woman dies in a car crash that the fetus is at fault, when it is actually the car crash that caused death. Pregnancy is a normal function of the body. Women die IN childbirth not OF childbirth.
Twin you are being silly now.

If someone shoves a knife in your heart what kills you? Loss of blood? If someone stangles you it is the lack of air that kills you?

Weak argument TwinCrier - not the quality of post that I expect from you.
 
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TwinCrier said:
Are you saying that BC is sinful, but acceptable in YOUR case because God will kill your wife if she conceives?


No I am saying that birth control is not sinful. At least not those methods that do not abort a child already conceived.

If you were defending the use of birth control in situations where birth is deadly, though I cannot see how such a thing can exist, but giving that your truthful, then you could say that it only applies in such a case and agree that the bible supports the historic position of the church that contraception is not God's will, than that would be one thing. I might actually believe this had you not spent so much time saying that children are not a blessing, unless I presume, they are planned and wanted by the couple.

Again I am not saying that Birth Control is a sin and I never have. Additionally I did not say that children are not a blessing. I said that I do not believe ALL children to be a blessing. Both of my children are very much blessings.

The real puzzler is if you're so convinced that God wants you to chemically or surgically alter your body to avoid His blessings for you, why do you want to convince me that this sin is now okay? Do you stand to gain monetarily if I use some latex device? Does it ease your guilt to have my consent?


I NEVER said that it is a sin. The only birth control that I believe to be sinful are abortifacients, thus far these are not being discussed.

I have no guilt in this matter. I have sinned in various areas of my life, but using birth control is not a sin.

You still have not answered my question, nor have you admitted that I could not have possibly contrived a lie for the convenience of this debate.
 
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TwinCrier said:
Actually, yes. Pregnancy doesn't kill. If a woman has complications or bleeds to death during birth, it is the bleeding that kills her, not the baby, not the pregnancy, not the labor. If someone dies from choking on a hotdog it was the lack of air that killed, not the hotdog. It's like saying that if a pregnant woman dies in a car crash that the fetus is at fault, when it is actually the car crash that caused death. Pregnancy is a normal function of the body. Women die IN childbirth not OF childbirth.


This is like saying that it wasn't the bullet that killed but the brains leaving the skull and that killed.
 
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e=mv^2 said:
Would you agree that pregnancy places added stress on the cardiovascular system? Would you agree that when a woman is pregnant they can not take certain medications?



Twin you are being silly now.

If someone shoves a knife in your heart what kills you? Loss of blood? If someone stangles you it is the lack of air that kills you?

Weak argument TwinCrier - not the quality of post that I expect from you.
You compare pregnancy to crimes of murder and you call MY argument weak?
You know, sex places added stress on the cardio vasular sytem, and unlike giving birth, the woman isn't constantly monitored in a hospital. Weak argument e, weak argument.
 
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jtbdad said:
This is like saying that it wasn't the bullet that killed but the brains leaving the skull and that killed.
Again, comparing giving birth to a violent crime. Why can't we address having babies as opposed to crime and disease. Pregnancy is a natural function of the body, it is what God designed the reproductive system for. This idea that children are a curse is the world view, a world that values money over humanity.

And I still think that whole "childbirth will kill my wife" thing is hogwash.
 
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Again, comparing giving birth to a violent crime.
No. He is showing you that your last argument was very weak.

And I still think that whole "childbirth will kill my wife" thing is hogwash.

Then you are saying that I am a liar.

You know, sex places added stress on the cardio vasular sytem, and unlike giving birth, the woman isn't constantly monitored in a hospital. Weak argument e, weak argument.
You are right. The difference is that while not pregnant my wife can take all of her normal medications that calm her heartrate. And sex does not last 9 months.

It is not really the moment of birth that would do it - you could use cesarean section for that. It is the 9 months of added stress without medication.

So just for a moment assume that I am not a liar. Assume that a pregnancy would kill my wife.

What should I do?

go celebate
risk killing my wife
use BC
another option?
 
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TwinCrier said:
Again, comparing giving birth to a violent crime.

No actually when I posted this I was thinking of a man I knew as a child that was killed while hunting.

Why can't we address having babies as opposed to crime and disease.

I have not addressed crime or disease, my wife's condition is not a disease.

Pregnancy is a natural function of the body,

So is eating, but what you eat can kill you.



it is what God designed the reproductive system for.

Most 15 year old girls have a fully functional reproductive system, is it your contention that they should all breed?

This idea that children are a curse is the world view, a world that values money over humanity.

Doesn't fit my situation at all.

And I still think that whole "childbirth will kill my wife" thing is hogwash.

I have already directed you to a post that predates this thread where I made the same assertion as I have here. You have yet to acknowledge the truth of this. I am more than willing to debate in a mannerly and Christlike manner, but to accuse me of telling a lie for the sake of a debate is over the line. I have treated you in a Christlike manner since you entered this thread, you know nothing about me, you have no scriptural or moral right to question my honesty. You are simply trying to avoid answering a question.
 
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TwinCrier said:
Ummm, how about obeying God?

You have yet to provide scripture that says that we all should have children or that we should not control the number of children we have in order to be responsible. Just because YOU believe the passages you have referenced mean these things doesn't make it so.
 
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TwinCrier said:
Are you saying your [bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse] is more valuable than your wife's life?

No matter what your view is on this issue, I feel that this statement is uncalled for, and devalues women by implying that the only thing that matters is the husband's sexual pleasure.

It's not just HIS sexual pleasure that is in question; it is his wife's, too. God designed the sex act to be pleasurable for BOTH men and women! I enjoy sex with my husband just as much as he enjoys it with me, and to abstain for the rest of our lives because we "might" get pregnant would not be a happy thought for either of us.

I personally feel that the primary purpose of sex is to intimately knit together the husband and wife - after my husband and I were married and had sex for the first time, we felt a special bond that had not been there before, even though we had known each other for 10 years. It brought our relationship to a whole new place. God intended it as an intimate, pleasurable expression of love between a husband and wife. And yes, it happens to be the way we procreate, too. But if that was the primary purpose, don't you think He could have come up with something else?

And yes, I have known many women who have been told by their doctors not to conceive - for physical or mental health reasons. I believe in trusting God, but I also believe that He has given us doctors and their wisdom to advise us. There is nothing inherently wrong with pregnancy in and of itself, but if it is going to cause a chain reaction that will lead to poor health or death, then yes, it should be avoided. Just like there is nothing wrong in and of itself with eating sugar, but if one has a medical condition like diabetes, then the act of eating sugar paired with that medical condition is what causes complications.
 
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I think this is one issue we will just have to disagree on.

Can we agree that this is not one of the fundamental issues of our faith? Can we go forward embracing that which we have in common rather than pushing each other away for our petty differences?

I am going to leave the thread. I do not feel that further discussion would be profitable.
 
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jtbdad said:
No actually when I posted this I was thinking of a man I knew as a child that was killed while hunting.



I have not addressed crime or disease, my wife's condition is not a disease.



So is eating, but what you eat can kill you.





Most 15 year old girls have a fully functional reproductive system, is it your contention that they should all breed?



Doesn't fit my situation at all.



I have already directed you to a post that predates this thread where I made the same assertion as I have here. You have yet to acknowledge the truth of this. I am more than willing to debate in a mannerly and Christlike manner, but to accuse me of telling a lie for the sake of a debate is over the line. I have treated you in a Christlike manner since you entered this thread, you know nothing about me, you have no scriptural or moral right to question my honesty. You are simply trying to avoid answering a question.
And someone killed during a hunting accident is related to this how?

Your wife's condition is not a disease.... but pregnancy is?

Mark 7:15 There is nothing from without a man, that entering into him can defile him: but the things which come out of him, those are they that defile the man.

Only married people are commanded to reproduced, and to refer to it as breeding like we are some beasts is again degrading to pregnancy and procreation. It is sad that the sex act has been exalted but having babies is looked on with disgust.

If your story is in fact true, certainly you will share this condition that causes your wife to die upon pregnancy so that other woman can be warned and not lose their own lives in an attempt to have children.
 
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jtbdad said:
You have yet to provide scripture that says that we all should have children or that we should not control the number of children we have in order to be responsible. Just because YOU believe the passages you have referenced mean these things doesn't make it so.
And just because you desire to use birth control doesn't make it less a sin. I'm sorry you are unable to see what those verses say. If there were a verse that flat out said :Thou shalt not use any type of birth control." it would simply be countered with claims that the original Greek said such and such and that is a mistranslation, etc, etc,
I once believed as you do, and only when I abandoned my wants and preconceived modern notions did I find the truth. If the bible agree with you 100% either you're not open to it, or you're God.
 
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TwinCrier said:
And someone killed during a hunting accident is related to this how?

#1You were attempting to assert that it is not pregnancy that kills sometimes but the results of that pregnancy (not pregnancy but bleeding remember?)

#2 I was showing the fallacy of your argument by making an analogy with someone who lost their life as a result of being shot in the head.

#3The point I made was that, if your contention was true that pregnancy was not responsible for the deaths of those who die in childbirth, then the same logic would mean that a bullet did not kill a person who had been shot in the head, but that the persons brain matter exiting the skull is what killed them.

#4Then you accused me of equating pregnancy with a violent crime.

#5 I pointed out that I was not even thinking of a violent crime at the time I made the analogy, Instead I was thinking of a man who died as the result of a hunting accident. Thus could not possibly be equating pregnancy with a violent crime.

Your wife's condition is not a disease.... but pregnancy is?

My wife's condition is more appropriately called an injury. I suppose if you want to use the most broad definition of disease it fits but most of those involved in healthcare would not.

I never said that pregnancy was a disease. Now there is another strawman argument.

Mark 7:15 There is nothing from without a man, that entering into him can defile him: but the things which come out of him, those are they that defile the man.

This applies to birth control how?

Only married people are commanded to reproduced, and to refer to it as breeding like we are some beasts is again degrading to pregnancy and procreation. It is sad that the sex act has been exalted but having babies is looked on with disgust.

#1 No where in scripture does it say that ALL married people are to reproduce.

#2 Breeding is a clinical term if you don't like it, I can avoid it. No offense was intended.

#3 I never said the sex act was to be exalted.

#4 I never said that I looked upon having babies with disgust and there is nothing that I have posted that would lead any reasonable person to believe I do.

If your story is in fact true, certainly you will share this condition that causes your wife to die upon pregnancy so that other woman can be warned and not lose their own lives in an attempt to have children.

Nice try but my wife's personal medical history is not mine to share. Any woman who has the same condition (suffered the same injury with the same results) most likely would be told by their physician the same thing my wife was told.

As a closer I would point out to you that a presumption of honesty is necessary in debate. No where have I questioned your honesty. When you implied that I had been dishonest I pointed out to you (and provided evidence) that I had previously posted the same information about my circumstance before I came to this thread and, I believe, even before this thread began; a fact you have yet to acknowledge even though it is easily verified. There is no benefit for me to contrive some made up condition. I have done nothing here to deserve being accused of deception. Why do you have to resort to an ad hominem tactic? We disagree, you believe scripture says something that I do not believe is says. There are a number of different Christians on this board that I have disagreed with in the past, I have not contrived some "circumstance" in order to make a point with them. Why would you believe I would do so with you? To be honest it isn't that important to me that you agree. This is not, in my opinion, a matter of saving faith so what possible reason would I have to lie?
 
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TwinCrier said:
And just because you desire to use birth control doesn't make it less a sin.

If it were a sin I would agree with you that my desire would not make it less sinful. But as pointed out many times you have not provided scripture that it is a sin.

I'm sorry you are unable to see what those verses say.

I am just as sorry that you see something in these verses that isn't there.


If there were a verse that flat out said :Thou shalt not use any type of birth control." it would simply be countered with claims that the original Greek said such and such and that is a mistranslation, etc, etc,

I guess that would depend on what the original words were. I know for sure that neither Jesus nor the Apostles spoke, or wrote English, as it did not exist as a language at the time.

I once believed as you do, and only when I abandoned my wants and preconceived modern notions did I find the truth. If the bible agree with you 100% either you're not open to it, or you're God.

And I could make the same argument to you. Again it is not the Bible I disagree with but what TwinCrier believes the Bible says. I don't disagree with
God, I disagree with you. Do you contend that the two are the same?
 
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TwinCrier said:
So..... if your birth control method, whatever device, chemical or surgery that may be, fails and the Mrs. has a bun in the oven, then what? :scratch:

I chose to have a Vasectomy.

As abortion would never be an issue, she would attempt to carry the child to the point that it is viable and then undergo a C-section.(which is what caused her injury in the first place)
This is truly a sad situation for us however as every physician we consulted told us that she would most likely die before that time.

And if I can't refer to conception and delivery as breeding, why can you refer to a child as a Bun? Don't you see that you are comparing a child to a mound of bacteria laden wheat paste?

(That was actually just a joke, I know you didn't mean this, "bun in the oven" is an often used colloquialism. I was just hoping to lighten the mood)
 
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