Your last date

[Toro]

 

[Travelers.Soul]

I would think it would be good to get to know someone before getting alone with someone or going out. If I don't trust someone enough to talk about things I am concerned about, why trust the person for a date?

My lady friend and I discovered each other at our church. I was already there. I observed her for a year while also sharing with her. And then we started meeting in the grocery store. After a while, she was asking me if I would be at the store, after church. Then I got her number and we did phone prayer and Bible. Then that big storm came, a couple of years ago. I "had" to know if she was ok. But I knew she had only a rechargeable cell; so I immediately said I only wanted to see if she was all right and I would hang right up so she could use her phone charge for an emergency or her family or anyone special to her. She said, oh that's all right and we talked some. Then I realized we might have something going. When she said call her the next day, while the electricity would likely still be out . . . oh boy was I in "heaven"

So, I call the date of that storm our "anniversary", and she and others hear about it during different times of the year.

But I am not saying this is the magic method. I don't think there is a really sure method to make sure about someone.

But I prayed and sought to submit to God to guide me about her, and correct me so I would obey Him about her. And guess what? We're not perfect!! So, there are problems. If god puts us with someone, it includes so we can help each other get real correction and find out how to love the way Jesus wants and the Bible says. There is a "reason" "why" Ephesians 4:2 says for us Jesus people to relate "with longsuffering". Our Father expects us to stay with each other who are His children, not to pick and choose who we can use and who is good enough for us to love. But we need to make sure with God about who we really belong with, and be committed to helping each other get real correction and His love's perfection.

It's true that I didn't know the guy but the date was arranged by someone I completely trusted and still do. They had known the guy for a while (through church and ministry) and thought he was a Godly guy or they would have never set us up. You have a lovely testimony though, thanks for sharing it.

 

[Goodbook]

Blind dates don't usually work in my experience. You have to both want to see each other or met before to go out together alone I reckon.

 

[Toro]

Blind dates don't usually work in my experience. You have to both want to see each other or met before to go out together alone I reckon.

Yeah, blind dates don't work for me. I have a hard time trying to think of a restaurant with braille menus. I mean I don't MIND if the woman is blind, but she will have to tell me where to take her or accept that I will have to read the menu to her.

 

[Goodbook]

If I don't wear my glasses, I suppose I could be blind. I wouldn't be able to drive anyway. I guess he'd have to pick me up.

hmm

 

[TheGirlOnFire]

Yeah, blind dates don't work for me. I have a hard time trying to think of a restaurant with braille menus. I mean I don't MIND if the woman is blind, but she will have to tell me where to take her or accept that I will have to read the menu to her.

My mum was going to set me up,,, this is why I declined ha ha

 

[toastface_grillah]

He was a "no conversationalist". I did the vast majority of the taking to keep from having an awkward silence. He interrupted me mid-sentence twice, stared at the waitress's boobs and was just generally miserable company. And no, this wasn't an online date. We were set up by a mutual friend.

Oh, that's awkward to the tenth degree. You have earned your respite from dating! What'd your mutual friend think once you told her/him how it all went down?

Yes there is an art to conversation that I admit Im still learning as I tend to interrupt people and want to say things. For example if someone is ranting on about stuff I cant just let them rant I have to either stop them or ignore them as dont know what they on about half the time.

Mmmhm. I'm still slowly learning that art of conversation as it pertains to not being drowned out/getting a word or two in. It doesn't get easier; and the more people in the conversation, the tougher it gets. Yay groups!

 

[leothelioness]

Oh, that's awkward to the tenth degree. You have earned your respite from dating! What'd your mutual friend think once you told her/him how it all went down?

She couldn't believe it. He made himself out to be a different person to her.

 

[scraparcs]

I can often just sit and listen to him talk so a guy who likes to talk works well. Drives me bonkers when I can't get a word in edgewise but in a fiftieth conversation, that's just part of life.

 

[Goodbook]

Talk to the hand...

If he starts going on about the rugby or cricket I switch off. Its either that or maybe I should actually sit down and watch a match and become a fan myself.

 

[leothelioness]

Talk to the hand...

If he starts going on about the rugby or cricket I switch off. Its either that or maybe I should actually sit down and watch a match and become a fan myself.

If you saw some of the guys that play, you'd become a fan. Lol

 

[TheGirlOnFire]

If you saw some of the guys that play, you'd become a fan. Lol

Very much so the rugby

 

[Goodbook]

Dad just told me we won the rugby!!!!

I slept in and didnt watch it, im not getting up at 5am to watch a match. Beauty sleep is more important.
So, its probably what everyones talking about in church today.

 

[Cute Tink]

The last thing I did as an official date was probably having a BBQ where she cooked (Don't judge, she LOVED to BBQ and be the one cooking)


The last "date" I had where it was me and a woman was probably a couple weeks ago when I went to a little carnival type thing over the ocean.



I intentionally scared the woman half to death. I screamed "Wait, why are we spinning like this? No one else is turning like this!!!" while she had her eyes closed. I kept screaming "We are in sooooooo much danger, I think we are going to die!" etc. While riding that thing sticking up between the ferris wheel and the roller coaster in this picture. Its a swing set that goes all the way to the top, spins you out and around over the ocean.

Hahahaha. Sounds like fun to me.

 

[Goodbook]

I haven't been to an amusement park in years. I think I'd only go there on a date if the guy took some kids along with us.

 

[Goodbook]

I mean, it would probably be wasted on just me...and then I could see his child wrangling skills.

 

[Sketcher]

We went to a movie, checked out the shops around the theater beforehand. This was . . . a long time ago.

 

[sundewgrower]

Would it be one if it was out with a friend, I took her out, and we did a lot of random fun things?

 

[sundewgrower]

I mean, it would probably be wasted on just me...and then I could see his child wrangling skills.

Have enough siblings and such skills are innate.
I think that's a good idea, you can see how comfortable he works around kids, and if he was fudgingt he truth about liking them. You'd need some kids though... not sure where you could borrow them from lol!

 

[Toro]

Very much so the rugby

Id make fun of rugby players, but unless the game has gone soft I got nothin but mad respect for rugby players.

I didn't have a problem taking pad less hits..... what "killed me" were the amount of hits and lack of rest between them.
I played one full game and after that I swore to myself never again...... Im sure I could have gotten used to it and all..... but why do that to myself. Playing football I felt like I was accomplishing something. Playing rugby, I felt like I was just there to get the tar beat out of me.


Takes a special kind of crazy to play rugby.

Hahahaha. Sounds like fun to me.

Me too..... people are weird. They will pay to have someone scare them.... but someone does it for free and they get all "AHHHHHHHH STOP!!"