The mentality of deception. They've been lying for so long that it is a part of them and she may be trying to be a Christian but will probably also have the little white lie syndrome. Oh that's just a little white lie so that dont matter...
How could a man build a marriage upon that mentality? Most women lie about things that they dont even have to lie about and for stupid reasons.
A man and wife being 100% truthful with each other is the only way that the marriage has any chance whatsoever.
For instance, she messed up and did something wrong. Maybe not a adulterous mistake but she doesnt want to upset me so she lies anyway. Then I waste time trying to solve a problem that doesn't exist. She needs to be truthful even if it is a bad thing. For two reasons. 1. No time is wasted on rabbit trails built out of lies. 2. Even if it is bad, at least they will know that what comes out of her (or his) mouth is something they can count on.
Even if she isnt working the industry anymore she will (probably) still justify a lie/rabbit trail for the small thing she did. Maybe she she splurged too much on herself and spent too much money creating a shortage. How many girls would be like, well I'm sorry but I spent too much....That's not how most women are. They will lie lie lie anyway. So the honesty factor turns out to be a larger issue than her SW trade in her past. If I'm not able to trust her implicitly why would I consider marrying her?
You ever make picked eggs? They turn purple throughout from being soaked in beet juice. The color purple is the residue that it leaves on her soul & spirit from soaking in the SW trade. If she throws off that coat, is she still purple on the inside? You bet she is!
Women shouldnt take offense to being rejected sometimes. So what? There's 4 Billion more fish in the sea. Aint the mans fault if she has baggage from who she used to be. It was her prior poor choices that did this to her, not the man!
There's all sorts of warning signs of this sort of soul damage in a lady even if she is now Born Again and Baptised. When I got born again I wasnt instantly someone else.
Romans
12 I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that ye present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable unto God, which is your reasonable service.
2 And be not conformed to this world:
but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.
3 For I say, through the grace given unto me, to every man that is among you, not to think of himself more highly than he ought to think; but to think soberly, according as God hath dealt to every man the measure of faith.../KJV
By their Fruits you will know them. How do they act? How do they talk? Do you ever catch her studying her Bible? Does she drink? How does she carry herself? These are good questions and for anyone with eyes to see can see who she is right now. Most times I can tell with a single glance their way if they are what I consider to be wife material. If the sweet young lady has had delieverance and was very dedicated to the Lord now....it will show on her. If she's the same old bad girl, that will show too. How many times have people said, I shoulda listened to my instincts!
Is she honest about little things? If a girl will be dishonest about little things then she will be dishonest about big things. I wish her well but I have to go now, lol!
(The dancer girl I dated who would float all over town, I left her sitting in a McDonalds and slipped out the side door!)