Would you date some one younger or older then you?

[NoName12]

My older sister "was" datting a guy in his 30s, She was in her 20s. I was kinda of mad at her because I rember she would tell me that men who dated women older then them were only looking for a motherly figures or some one that would take care of them so they would not have to do any work and that they must stick to women who are there own age, and yet she get involed with a man who is ten years older then her. To tell the truth I do find older women more atractive then the ones who are my age, Dose not mean I wont go out with some one who id my age or younger(I am more looking for some one who I would get along with and so far I felt I got along better with wemon who are ether my age or older). Has any any one here dated some older or yonger then them and could tell me why I should or should not do it? As for those who have not, would you?

Sorry I cant spell.LOL

 

[intricatic]

I've dated* women younger than me, but never more than two years. Never women who are older than me, though.

*Date: General word for relationship in any romantic context.

 

[Miles]

My older sister "was" datting a guy in his 30s, She was in her 20s. I was kinda of mad at her because I rember she would tell me that men who dated women older then them were only looking for a motherly figures or some one that would take care of them so they would not have to do any work and that they must stick to women who are there own age, and yet she get involed with a man who is ten years older then her. To tell the truth I do find older women more atractive then the ones who are my age, Dose not mean I wont go out with some one who id my age or younger(I am more looking for some one who I would get along with and so far I felt I got along better with wemon who are ether my age or older). Has any any one here dated some older or yonger then them and could tell me why I should or should not do it? As for those who have not, would you?

Sorry I cant spell.LOL

I've been on dates with women both a few years younger, and a few years older than me.

Much like you, when I was your age, I was mainly attracted to (slightly) older women. It had nothing to do with looking for a mother figure. They just seemed more wise and low-key about things. When I was 20, most of the girls my own age where too flighty and trendy for me. The mid-20s is where it was at.

I did date one girl that was about two years younger than me (I was 18, and she was 16), but she seemed to be an exception for her age. It wasn't that she was particularly spiritually mature or anything, just that she was more perceptive and aware about things outside of what was common for her age group. I've always been a bit outside of the mainstream, so that kind of thing was (and still is) important to me.

 

[Mrs. Luther073082]

Right now, I wouldn't date anyone, regardless of their age, but if I ever take up dating again there will be a limit on how much older or younger the other person can be.

 

[LALaurie]

I like older men. They treat you better. That is what I have found from experience, 10 years older is perfect.

Now I have dated younger men and found them "needy". I use to have a rule I would not date a man younger than me, then I met him.

 

[spdnet75]

I've dated younger and older women. I think the whole lies within how old the two people are emotionally.

 

[LALaurie]

My daughters step mom is 46 and her dad is 33. I don't think I would want a man that much younger than I am, but ya never know.

 

[Macrina]

This is one of those ultimate "it depends" questions. A lot depends on the age and maturity level of both parties, as well as the relative age difference.

As I mentioned in this thread, my grandmother married a much younger man and was very happy. They went off to live in Africa for several years and had a great time having adventures. People often thought my grandmother was the younger one, actually -- she was a beautiful woman. But part of the thing there was that we weren't talking about teenagers here... I don't remember the exact age difference, but it was probably 10 years or so; the difference between 52 and 62 isn't nearly as big as the difference between 12 and 22, you know?

I think it's possible for some people to look for a parental figure, or for someone they can parent. That's clearly not good. But if for whatever reason people are at the same place in life but not in chronological age, I don't think it's a big deal, as long as the people involved aren't weirded out by it.

For me personally, it's hard to say exactly. At the age of 30, I figure a few years either way is no big deal. But if it gets to someone who is of a whole different generation, then I'm not so comfortable with it. I know it's possible for people to find love that way, but I wouldn't picture it happening for me.

Either way, I'm not going to condemn someone else for their choices... I've seen some age differences and/or other relationship dynamics that I wouldn't prefer for myself, but they seem to work for the people involved, and I can respect that.

 

[HolyOne87]

My older sister "was" datting a guy in his 30s, She was in her 20s. I was kinda of mad at her because I rember she would tell me that men who dated women older then them were only looking for a motherly figures or some one that would take care of them so they would not have to do any work and that they must stick to women who are there own age, and yet she get involed with a man who is ten years older then her. To tell the truth I do find older women more atractive then the ones who are my age, Dose not mean I wont go out with some one who id my age or younger(I am more looking for some one who I would get along with and so far I felt I got along better with wemon who are ether my age or older). Has any any one here dated some older or yonger then them and could tell me why I should or should not do it? As for those who have not, would you?

Sorry I cant spell.LOL

I agree with Macrina..it depends. At first, I said, "I will only date older guys"..But then, I gave an exception to this one guy, who was a year and a half younger than me. I gave it a chance, and it didnt work out..the outcome was the worst(lots of cheating and lying)! So, I am somewhat restricting myself to older males now, but if i find a great guy who is a year younger than I, I will give them a chance. I am not going to judge the general population of males younger than I because I had one bad relationship. Everyone is different.
But, as said, it depends on how you are and how that person is.

 

[Loner]

I dont see anything wrong with it, I like both wemon who are older younger then me, At times I will lean tawords one over the other but I am okey with dating someone older or yonger then me however I have limits to how young and how old.

 

[sherri]

I've always liked younger guys for some reason although the last guy I went out with was older then me. It just depends on the individual.

 

[bogie]

Well simply put,my boundries are about 5 maybe 6 years in either direction and no younger than 18. I believe that maturity level is key and doesn't always go hand in hand with age.

 

[Macrina]

Come to think of it, I've only ever dated guys who were older than me. It wasn't a requirement, though, just the way it turned out. Of course, I haven't dated enough guys to really come up with a good statistical sample, anyway.

 

[intricatic]

Actually, from a highly precise mathematical system that I've developed, I've determined the exact age limitations for those people whom I can date, either above or below my age, to the hour.

 

[Macrina]

Actually, from a highly precise mathematical system that I've developed, I've determined the exact age limitations for those people whom I can date, either above or below my age, to the hour.

Do share your amazing system with us.

 

[intricatic]

Do share your amazing system with us.

Well, it would take too long to extrapolate into a functional explanation, and it would be so complex as to perhaps make people's eyes disintegrate with the sheer mathematical formulation, but the simple version is that I contrast their age with three hundred different criteria for examination based on my own age, and then I put them in those little plastic Easter-Egg shells and juggle them for half an hour, and the first one to drop onto the ground is the precise age limitation +/- my age. Then I repeate the process with the alternating side of the equation.

I have figured that I can date women who are +3 minutes exactly from me, and -12 hours exactly from me.

 

[sherri]

Well, it would take too long to extrapolate into a functional explanation, and it would be so complex as to perhaps make people's eyes disintegrate with the sheer mathematical formulation, but the simple version is that I contrast their age with three hundred different criteria for examination based on my own age, and then I put them in those little plastic Easter-Egg shells and juggle them for half an hour, and the first one to drop onto the ground is the precise age limitation +/- my age. Then I repeate the process with the alternating side of the equation.

I have figured that I can date women who are +3 minutes exactly from me, and -12 hours exactly from me.

lol

 

[Blank123]

I'd have no problem with dating an older guy, well I suppose that would depend on how much older. If he's old enough to be my father then no

I probably wouldn't date a younger guy though just because they're usually not that mature. I suppose if I met some guy who was a real exception to that rule I might reconsider though

 

[Blank123]

Well, it would take too long to extrapolate into a functional explanation, and it would be so complex as to perhaps make people's eyes disintegrate with the sheer mathematical formulation, but the simple version is that I contrast their age with three hundred different criteria for examination based on my own age, and then I put them in those little plastic Easter-Egg shells and juggle them for half an hour, and the first one to drop onto the ground is the precise age limitation +/- my age. Then I repeate the process with the alternating side of the equation.

I have figured that I can date women who are +3 minutes exactly from me, and -12 hours exactly from me.

 

[mwb]

I might consider dating someone older but I doubt there are any single women older than me still around.