Would you date me...?

[country woman]

I know that

 

[Inkachu]

Ok Silver,

You have had a number of guys respond and we're waiting for your selection.

Mark,
I've had kind and honest responses, but nobody has expressed interest, lol.

I appreciate everyone's time and honesty in answering my question Thank you all.

 

[country woman]

I will pray for you Sprite to find the right person. pm if like.' Have paitence

 

[country woman]

I am a single mom over 40 I can't have more kids but I love kids. I take care of 2 kids

 

[Inkachu]

I will pray for you Sprite to find the right person. pm if like.' Have paitence

Thanks You're a sweetheart.

 

[country woman]

if you ever need to talk pm me ok.

 

[Mark2010]

Mark,
I've had kind and honest responses, but nobody has expressed interest, lol.

I appreciate everyone's time and honesty in answering my question Thank you all.

I'm interested. (Being "not so subtle".)

BTW, why do you think (as your subtitle says) that "no one will ever capture your heart".

 

[country woman]

cause no one has yet.

 

[Inkachu]

I'm interested. (Being "not so subtle".)

BTW, why do you think (as your subtitle says) that "no one will ever capture your heart".

You are?!

My, my, my

I say that no one will capture my heart because...no one has of yet, and I can't imagine anyone doing it.

 

[country woman]

I think I will back out gracefully

 

[AirForceTeacher]

No, I'm not asking anyone out, lol.

My question is to the men: Would you date a 30 year old single mother?

Sometimes I think to myself "Nobody's going to want you...why would they want you when they could find someone younger, with no kids...just give it up".

I'll try to keep my chin up, even if some of you say you wouldn't. I would really like some honest answers, though. Just be kind, please.

Wouldn't bother me at all, but I already have four of my own.

 

[GQ Chris]

If I meet a single mom, age not that important (to a degree) I will date her.

 

[penNpaper]

No, I'm not asking anyone out, lol.

My question is to the men: Would you date a 30 year old single mother?

Someone needs a

Regards,
Drew

 

[Inkachu]

Thanks, Drew lol.

 

[penNpaper]

 

[overit]

Date yes, get serious no. Don't want the responsibility of someone else's kid.

Ok, this may come as a real shocker, but I actually respect this man for being honest. REALLY I do!!!! I'm quite convinced myself that the majority of cases, this is the actual truth-for MOST guys. there might be some exceptions, but for the most part I've found this outlook to be true. Try beign a single mother of TWO boys lol.I have found that 99% of the guys I've run into were into dating, fun, etc...but not up to the package deal. Adn the only ones UP to the package deal weren't a match for me and had serious problems that would have made a good relationship VERY difficult.I have heard men say, and quite honestly-that most of them DO have a problem with us having children from another man-something about having their own seed I guess. And as much as we thing "oh how awful to think like this not all guys do"...in my own personal life I have found this to be VERY true.That said, I have given up. I also realize that becaue of our full plate and responsibilities, having the time and dedication to find the precious few that DON'T think this way, add all the list of things that you would like to find in a partner, and well, the possibilities/chances of finding someone-well, better to find a needle in a haystack of an acre. I just don't bother....I'm ok with being single and quite happy...so I'll just live the rest of my life solo...oh wait that's right when my kids are grown and out of the house and I have no responsbilities THEN you might have guys wanting companionship....my thoughts are oh you finally grow up now? Well, why even bother? There are other ways of staying somewhat satisfied in one aspect of my life and being happy single, so it's just not frikking worth the bother with guys.Sorry if that sounds bitter but I like to think of it as being realistic. It's just my true honest opinion based on many guys opinions as ulu as stated.

 

[eatenbylocusts]

Ok, this may come as a real shocker, but I actually respect this man for being honest. REALLY I do!!!! I'm quite convinced myself that the majority of cases, this is the actual truth-for MOST guys. there might be some exceptions, but for the most part I've found this outlook to be true. Try beign a single mother of TWO boys lol.I have found that 99% of the guys I've run into were into dating, fun, etc...but not up to the package deal. Adn the only ones UP to the package deal weren't a match for me and had serious problems that would have made a good relationship VERY difficult.I have heard men say, and quite honestly-that most of them DO have a problem with us having children from another man-something about having their own seed I guess. And as much as we thing "oh how awful to think like this not all guys do"...in my own personal life I have found this to be VERY true.That said, I have given up. I also realize that becaue of our full plate and responsibilities, having the time and dedication to find the precious few that DON'T think this way, add all the list of things that you would like to find in a partner, and well, the possibilities/chances of finding someone-well, better to find a needle in a haystack of an acre. I just don't bother....I'm ok with being single and quite happy...so I'll just live the rest of my life solo...oh wait that's right when my kids are grown and out of the house and I have no responsbilities THEN you might have guys wanting companionship....my thoughts are oh you finally grow up now? Well, why even bother? There are other ways of staying somewhat satisfied in one aspect of my life and being happy single, so it's just not frikking worth the bother with guys.Sorry if that sounds bitter but I like to think of it as being realistic. It's just my true honest opinion based on many guys opinions as ulu as stated.

I think it has a lot to do with the age of the guy. I'm a bit older, but most of the guys I've met are in their 40's and they realize that the vast majority of women in their 40's have kids. Actually 98% of the men have kids and that probably makes a big difference. They either aren't scared of kids or because of the problems with their kids, they're terrified and just quickly run. Only one guy has run and the look on his face after I answered his question about kids was, um, interesting to say the least.

I did the online thing for the most part and my kid status was right there so there wasn't any surprises.

 

[Deliberatetourist]

I think it has a lot to do with the age of the guy. I'm a bit older, but most of the guys I've met are in their 40's and they realize that the vast majority of women in their 40's have kids. Actually 98% of the men have kids and that probably makes a big difference. They either aren't scared of kids or because of the problems with their kids, they're terrified and just quickly run. Only one guy has run and the look on his face after I answered his question about kids was, um, interesting to say the least.

I did the online thing for the most part and my kid status was right there so there wasn't any surprises.

The only criteria that I could think of from a personal standpoint is what the situation is with the boy and his real father. If the real father was a complete jerk and spent nearly every waking hour using the kid as a barganing chip to cause trouble for his ex then I would say no way no how. Lots of people have kids nowadays myself included and I don't think it is a big issue for the majority of people but if someone says no kids no way then that is their perocgative no further questions needed.

 

[Inkachu]

Ok, this may come as a real shocker, but I actually respect this man for being honest. REALLY I do!!!! I'm quite convinced myself that the majority of cases, this is the actual truth-for MOST guys. there might be some exceptions, but for the most part I've found this outlook to be true. Try beign a single mother of TWO boys lol.I have found that 99% of the guys I've run into were into dating, fun, etc...but not up to the package deal. Adn the only ones UP to the package deal weren't a match for me and had serious problems that would have made a good relationship VERY difficult.I have heard men say, and quite honestly-that most of them DO have a problem with us having children from another man-something about having their own seed I guess. And as much as we thing "oh how awful to think like this not all guys do"...in my own personal life I have found this to be VERY true.That said, I have given up. I also realize that becaue of our full plate and responsibilities, having the time and dedication to find the precious few that DON'T think this way, add all the list of things that you would like to find in a partner, and well, the possibilities/chances of finding someone-well, better to find a needle in a haystack of an acre. I just don't bother....I'm ok with being single and quite happy...so I'll just live the rest of my life solo...oh wait that's right when my kids are grown and out of the house and I have no responsbilities THEN you might have guys wanting companionship....my thoughts are oh you finally grow up now? Well, why even bother? There are other ways of staying somewhat satisfied in one aspect of my life and being happy single, so it's just not frikking worth the bother with guys.Sorry if that sounds bitter but I like to think of it as being realistic. It's just my true honest opinion based on many guys opinions as ulu as stated.

I would never, ever, ever date a man who didn't LOVE children. By the same token, I would never, ever, ever try to MAKE some guy want to be a father if it wasn't already in his heart. I've met many men who didn't want children, and I have never been offended or upset; I wish them well and go on my way!

 

[Inkachu]

Ok, this may come as a real shocker, but I actually respect this man for being honest. REALLY I do!!!! I'm quite convinced myself that the majority of cases, this is the actual truth-for MOST guys. there might be some exceptions, but for the most part I've found this outlook to be true. Try beign a single mother of TWO boys lol.I have found that 99% of the guys I've run into were into dating, fun, etc...but not up to the package deal. Adn the only ones UP to the package deal weren't a match for me and had serious problems that would have made a good relationship VERY difficult.I have heard men say, and quite honestly-that most of them DO have a problem with us having children from another man-something about having their own seed I guess. And as much as we thing "oh how awful to think like this not all guys do"...in my own personal life I have found this to be VERY true.That said, I have given up. I also realize that becaue of our full plate and responsibilities, having the time and dedication to find the precious few that DON'T think this way, add all the list of things that you would like to find in a partner, and well, the possibilities/chances of finding someone-well, better to find a needle in a haystack of an acre. I just don't bother....I'm ok with being single and quite happy...so I'll just live the rest of my life solo...oh wait that's right when my kids are grown and out of the house and I have no responsbilities THEN you might have guys wanting companionship....my thoughts are oh you finally grow up now? Well, why even bother? There are other ways of staying somewhat satisfied in one aspect of my life and being happy single, so it's just not frikking worth the bother with guys.Sorry if that sounds bitter but I like to think of it as being realistic. It's just my true honest opinion based on many guys opinions as ulu as stated.

Oh, I've heard that a million times too..."I want my OWN child...not somebody else's"...what a horrid, selfish outlook, in my opinion. As if you OWN your children...WRONG! God owns them! HE creates them, not you! And while they may carry your genes, they are not YOURS. To refuse to become a stepparent solely based on that is disgusting to me.

Now, if you just don't WANT kids at all...that's fine. But to demand that you have to BE the impregnator, and that a fatherless child just isn't WORTHY of you...please, just keep on walking.