Would you date me...?

[overit]

You can be sure that the feeling is mutual. My unlenghthy and off the cuff analysis of your posting is that you are too emotionally involved to make a rational assessment one way or another.
You are a single mother feeling insecure because of what you truly percieve to be a liability in your relationship success. I can sympathize with that. Your child needs a father and for whatever reason your social life is probably in the dumps being mid 30ish (don't be offended most people's social life is in the dump in their 30's). But directing your anger at those people who reject you for one reason or another just lends credence to the fact that you are bitter.
Bitter people make lousy significant others, believe me I know.
Instead of lashing out at those who would consider your situation to be less than ideal why not earnestly begin seeking God and let him solve your problems? So your praying and that isn't working. Well try fasting and praying. Nothing yet? Well why not try a three day fast and prayer. Believe me when you reach out to God he reaches out to you. I had a similar dilemna a few years back and when I began earnestly showing God that I was seeking him things began to change.

I swear sometimes you can be the rudest, most disrespectful person on these forums. That is just plain out disgusting, and from what I read of alleycat, NOT true. Take your fancy self and pick your mail order bride and quit criticizing these ladies. May God have mercy on you-geesh!

 

[Inkachu]

I swear sometimes you can be the rudest, most disrespectful person on these forums. That is just plain out disgusting, and from what I read of alleycat, NOT true. Take your fancy self and pick your mail order bride and quit criticizing these ladies. May God have mercy on you-geesh!

Oh dear, Overit...lol. Thanks for backing me up, hon, but don't let this man or anyone else get you so upset!

I'm going to close this thread. It's only going to get uglier.

 

[GQ Chris]

I swear sometimes you can be the rudest, most disrespectful person on these forums. That is just plain out disgusting, and from what I read of alleycat, NOT true. Take your fancy self and pick your mail order bride and quit criticizing these ladies. May God have mercy on you-geesh!

Granted he could've been a little more loving, but what he said had some Truth in it.

 

[GQ Chris]

The truth is, not all Men will reject a woman with kids from another relationship, if I like a person enough, I am willing to accept the whole package.. but I will really have to like her though to take the whole package.

 

[overit]

Granted he could've been a little more loving, but what he said had some Truth in it.

Alley, yeah go ahead and close it...I can see it now, the brothers unite to bash the single moms as bitter, contemptous and top it off with spawn of another man-oh heavens! I'm so done with these forums, seriously.The more "christian" men are, the more disgusting their mindset is honestly.

 

[GQ Chris]

Alley, yeah go ahead and close it...I can see it now, the brothers unite to bash the single moms as bitter, contemptous and top it off with spawn of another man-oh heavens! I'm so done with these forums, seriously.The more "christian" men are, the more disgusting their mindset is honestly.

I don' t think that single moms are bitter and contemptuous... sheesh, relax and don't be so reactionary. I honestly don't think some of you have actually been loved by a Man and so I understand that is frustrating, but maybe it helps to Reframe your thoughts. I don't mean any harm.

 

[Inkachu]

Alley, yeah go ahead and close it...I can see it now, the brothers unite to bash the single moms as bitter, contemptous and top it off with spawn of another man-oh heavens! I'm so done with these forums, seriously.The more "christian" men are, the more disgusting their mindset is honestly.

C'mere Over...you need a hug, hon! *squeeze*...don't leave, either!

 

[GQ Chris]

<<<<<<<<<<<relegated again to the category of evil Males *shrugs** LOL

 

[GQ Chris]

last girl I was dating and falling in love with had a son from a previous marriage, and I would've loved her and stayed except for the Small detail that she was Mormon.

 

[Inkachu]

last girl I was dating and falling in love with had a son from a previous marriage, and I would've loved her and stayed except for the Small detail that she was Mormon.

Nobody called you an evil male, and nobody said all males were evil. Honestly now! Everybody breathe and calm down!

I think you're being very sweet, Chris. I asked the mods to close this thread, so hopefully they will do that very soon.

And the "Mormon" factor is a BIG one, if you ask me.

 

[moicherie]

Isn't everyone permitted their own opinion and belief? You're free to disagree with me. I have a heart for unwanted children, and I think it's sad that more Christians don't. It's that simple. It's nothing deeper or more controversial than that. If you think about it - if every newlywed Christian couple decided to adopt one child (and have as many of their own as they wanted, if they wanted to)...how quickly would the number of unwanted children vanish! Am I saying that every Christian couple is evil and horrible for not doing so? Of course not. I'm only stating a theory, that I would gladly partake in someday, if the Lord allows it.

Again...this thread is not for a debate...if it continues as such, I'll have to close it.

I did not say you were not entitled to your opinion so I do not understand the need for the question. I'm trying to present the view that just as there are men who would have no problem dating a single mother there are also men who would have a problem because they want their own kids for whatever reason. IMO this makes them no more selfish than people including single parents who already have kids.

 

[Inkachu]

I did not say you were not entitled to your opinion so I do not understand the need for the question. I'm trying to present the view that just as there are men who would have no problem dating a single mother there are also men who would have a problem because they want their own kids for whatever reason. IMO this makes them no more selfish than people including single parents who already have kids.

Not sure where the "selfish" factor plays into a single parent with children. Many of them didn't ask for their single parent status! Some of them are victims of rape or other unfortunate circumstances. Some of them were married and abandoned.

 

[moicherie]

Not sure where the "selfish" factor plays into a single parent with children. Many of them didn't ask for their single parent status! Some of them are victims of rape or other unfortunate circumstances. Some of them were married and abandoned.

That is why I said single parent and not single mother. I know of no single man who had kids due to begin raped. And some single parents choose to be single parents so lets not miss that category either.

 

[overit]

I don' t think that single moms are bitter and contemptuous... sheesh, relax and don't be so reactionary. I honestly don't think some of you have actually been loved by a Man and so I understand that is frustrating, but maybe it helps to Reframe your thoughts. I don't mean any harm.

More insults-"don't think you have actually been loved by a man"I have no more comments. Don't mean any harm...yeah, ok.

 

[Inkachu]

That is why I said single parent and not single mother. I know of no single man who had kids due to begin raped. And some single parents choose to be single parents so lets not miss that category either.

Sorry, but you're so busy trying to include all the minority situations, that you're missing the bigger picture.

I'm done with this thread...no one can keep on topic. It'll be closed presently.

 

[MrsSeptemberPenguin]

Closed by request of OP