worried pressure will build

[rsfm]

well ive been cutting on and off for around 5 years. however recently ive totally become addicted to it and turn to it whenever i feel slightly anxious/sad.
im trying so hard to stop. i keep promising my partner i wont do it as i dont want to hurt her. but its just so hard as i cant control myself at the time.

right now. i feel like i could easily stop. but just yesterday i felt awful and was sooo tempted.

i really want to stop, im just worried all this pressure will build up in me and i wont be able to.

hmm.

 

[veganbunny]

I started self harming at 11 years old, and have gone months and months without harming within those 7 years (sometimes over a year) but when times get tough sure enough it starts again, and then I seem to be addicted again. Sometimes I get urges or even voices telling me to self harm, but I manage well to ignore them these days.

The best thing I find is to distract myself, or even tell someone so that they can watch over me until the feelings pass. I mainly distract myself by crafts, technology, exersize, company or sleep.

Stay strong, we understand what you are going through!

 

[pockleberry]

I've told other people this and I know that others on here will say the same but take it a day at a time. I know that when I think about things like giving up self harm I look at it as this massive thing I have to get passed and that is bound to make me feel pressured, I don't know if you do the same but alot of people do. If you look at it day by day or hour by hour when things get hard you can see how much you are achieving. It's ok if you fall sometimes just so long as you get up and try again, maybe you could try explaining that to your partner, so they know that if you slip up it's not the end of the world. Hope that helped a bit...

 

[HolyOne87]

well ive been cutting on and off for around 5 years. however recently ive totally become addicted to it and turn to it whenever i feel slightly anxious/sad.
im trying so hard to stop. i keep promising my partner i wont do it as i dont want to hurt her. but its just so hard as i cant control myself at the time.

right now. i feel like i could easily stop. but just yesterday i felt awful and was sooo tempted.

i really want to stop, im just worried all this pressure will build up in me and i wont be able to.

hmm.

try and find alternates to SIing..i know I posted a thread with a site that has alternates..And I know others have posted threads as well(i know veganbunny gave some great suggestions right here). Maybe check the threads out and when you feel the urge, do one (or a few) of the alternates. I know how hard it is(to fight the urges). I made a promise myself to a person whom I love very much as well.
What I do is I ask the person I love to help me and help me push to not cut and use alternate methods.
Maybe your partner can help you with that. Sometimes when we have a person we truly love helping us, it never seems that bad because we always know we arent alone and we always have someone on our side helping us no matter what.
We are also here for you as well! If you ever need us, you know where to find us!

Like pockleberry said, take things one day at a time..because if you take things in waves, it will become too overbearing (i know from experience..i've done it SOO many times)

Many Hugs