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DiscardedTruths said:I agree, if the wife or husband by some psychological deficit enjoys being submissive, then whatever, not my concern. I just have a MAJOR problem with forced submission.
If someone is being pressured into being "submissive", and their psychological illness is used as an excuse or exploited to get the desired effect (submissive partner), then it is forced submission.
Uh, BDSM where both parthers agree is not a deficit, it is a way of sexual expression. Kinda of harsh to call it deficit. You will not recognize them in the street. They are just like you and me.....
Forced submission is hell. I am a survivor of such a relationship.....The problem is that submission is often pressured upon the woman through sex. Man wants to have it, woman has to give it...whether she likes it or not. He was a Christian and I ended up being raped and other wise sexually abused.
So, I tend to be very suspicious about the fact that Christian men think that the woman should submit because the bible says so. They forget the rest of the bible and the way Jesus treated all His followers. He washed the feet of them to show them that He is the teacher but He is equal to them and respects them....
But some people who participate in BDSM relationships may indeed have psychological illnesses that are being exploited for the use of the other partner(s). But that's another topic altogether.
Submission is not so easy to define as "do what he says". It's very complicated, and for someone to be truly submitted to, they must let the other decide, with no pressure, no threats, nothing but respect and kindess and love. And Christianity demands everyone be submissive, everyone be kind and respectful and ready to serve. It's not about beign a slave, but about being parteners in serving each other:
Ephesians 5:21 said:21Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.
Also, let us keep in mind that this we are not longer in the culture, society, or age when these letters were written. What they say are still applicable, yes, but it's not as simple as sticking them in a Google translator and coming up with the real, intended meaning. Context does a lot to show us what something really means.
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