I googled basically the exact question in the title and arrived at this site 9 years after the original poster. I registered to post this
I'll love to know how it has gone over the years.
I am in a very similar situation.
My wife and I got married about 3 years ago (2014), she had gone to a few churches where people had disappointed her and hadn't been to church in years before we met.
Also as a child, her parents weren't really "church-going"
I on the other hand grew up in a Christian home and my faith had built up in recent years.
As we got more serious , we tried to find somewhere to worship and found a lovely church, where the entire focus is more on showing love, family and caring.
She liked it, she chose it, I agreed, we joined, did all the membership classes and things and got married there after about a year and the half.
She would even be the one to wake me on Sunday mornings. About a year later, she got pregnant with our first child. Naturally as the pregnancy progressed, she didn't attend church as much and finally stopped going.
It continued after our lovely daughter came . It was a stressful time for me too and i didn't attend as much either.
Our baby had her church dedication at 4 months old and that was the last time she was in church ( my baby is a year and 5 months now... so it's been over a year).
Like the original poster, i always talked to her about how it was something she loved and it would be nice if we went as a family and that it was important to me . But she closed down and gradually became distant about it.
We have just one car and a few times, i would leave the car since there are two services and she would say she would come with our daughter for the second, but she never did.
It's always challenging as well when friends and people we did pre-marital counselling with ask "how is your wife, we haven't seen her in a long time" and i smile and mumble some excuse.
I was bothered by believed she would come around in her own time .
I confess i never did really put it in prayer but always tried to invite her.
So I was excited when she asked me for a favor a few days ago and i agreed. She came back excited and asked what i wanted in return. It just came to me and i said i'll like her to come to church on Sunday if that's ok. This was on Saturday
She agreed, and wanted to go out,i asked that she pick out her clothes/shoes and my daughter's so i could help iron/clean them so that it's easier on Sunday. She said not to worry, that she'll be back latest 8pm... I asked why not do it now... she insisted she'll be back 8pm .
Long story short, she didn't, i reached out by 8:15pm to ask if she was ok , she sent a message that she was. she called me about 9:30 pm that she was almost at the house and the car had just stopped.
I got there... i couldn't fix it immediately and called a neighbor to come help us tow it.
While waiting for him, i got rather upset and we had a big fight and she said similar things to what the original poster said his wife said, ....that the Bible is a 2000 year old book and how it's just a bunch of people's opinions and she's not even interested in church and all.
It got worse in the fight because i also got upset and said marriage is about understanding and compromises and sometimes things should matter because they are important to the other person and that i do it for her all the time.
She then said yes , then maybe she isn't cut out for marriage at all.
Like he said, it sucks... it was nasty.
But we just talked about it and everything is mostly ok now.
Just before i posted this, we talked again and similar to what people advised, I've let her know it's ok, and i respect her desires, she's always invited to come anytime and i'll begin taking our daughter with me when i head to church
But i have read to all the comments here and will take them to heart...
I'll pray and keep praying about it...
Both for her and for patience/strength for me...
I won't pressure, badger or attempt to bribe her to coming... as that will clearly drive her further
Thanks everyone