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I wanted to create this thread to clear a few things up.
I self identify as an atheist...and as an anti-theist (henceforth referred to as AT). There's a bad tendency amongst believers to conflate these two. The large majority of atheists on this site are not AT. The large majority of them will claim to respect the religious beliefs of others....a claim which I no longer make. I used to tell people that I respect their religious beliefs, but I realized I was only doing that out of the hope of gaining that same respect for my beliefs back from them. More often than not...I realized that my beliefs weren't respected, so I'm not going to pretend anymore.
That doesn't mean that I cannot engage you in a polite, civil, healthy exchange of ideas...I can certainly do that with religious people. However, I'm not going to concede that any religious beliefs deserve respect. Respect is earned...not handed out to everyone/everything only to be withdrawn in anger. After all, I'm not angry at religious beliefs or people. A more accurate statement would be that I pity the religious. I tend to see them as someone manipulated, someone duped, someone struggling. I hate to drag out an old cliche...but it's akin to someone walking around with a crutch. They've convinced themselves or have been convinced that the crutch helps them in their walk...that they would fall over without it...and that those without one are the ones struggling.
So why do I see things this way? Because truth. Truth is important. Truth can be ugly or beautiful...but it doesn't change according to our whims or based upon our desires/fears. Truth simply is...regardless of whether we accept it...regardless of if we even know it.
When we are faced with a difficult choice, we want truth to guide us. Specifically, we want it to guide us to outcomes that our emotions have made us desire. Truth doesn't do that. Truth guides us to outcomes that may be awful, difficult, or possibly even unbearable. Truth may also guide us to outcomes that we love, are enjoyable, or even beautiful. The point is that truth doesn't care.
Attempting to make difficult choices without truth leads to problems. It may provide a temporary relief...it may even seem to lead to success. Making choices without the truth, or worse in denial of truth, eventually results in conflict. It results in a conflict with reality...and that is a conflict that cannot be won. All you can do once you're faced with reality is accept it....or distort your perception of the truth even further.
Ultimately, that is what religion is to me. A massive distortion of the truth. A desperate attempt to distort reality. The comforts it provides are temporary...it doesn't negotiate one's life past obstacles, it denies they are there.
IMO it helps no one...it only leads to that conflict. It only holds one back. It only holds us all back.
That's why I'm an anti-theist.
I self identify as an atheist...and as an anti-theist (henceforth referred to as AT). There's a bad tendency amongst believers to conflate these two. The large majority of atheists on this site are not AT. The large majority of them will claim to respect the religious beliefs of others....a claim which I no longer make. I used to tell people that I respect their religious beliefs, but I realized I was only doing that out of the hope of gaining that same respect for my beliefs back from them. More often than not...I realized that my beliefs weren't respected, so I'm not going to pretend anymore.
That doesn't mean that I cannot engage you in a polite, civil, healthy exchange of ideas...I can certainly do that with religious people. However, I'm not going to concede that any religious beliefs deserve respect. Respect is earned...not handed out to everyone/everything only to be withdrawn in anger. After all, I'm not angry at religious beliefs or people. A more accurate statement would be that I pity the religious. I tend to see them as someone manipulated, someone duped, someone struggling. I hate to drag out an old cliche...but it's akin to someone walking around with a crutch. They've convinced themselves or have been convinced that the crutch helps them in their walk...that they would fall over without it...and that those without one are the ones struggling.
So why do I see things this way? Because truth. Truth is important. Truth can be ugly or beautiful...but it doesn't change according to our whims or based upon our desires/fears. Truth simply is...regardless of whether we accept it...regardless of if we even know it.
When we are faced with a difficult choice, we want truth to guide us. Specifically, we want it to guide us to outcomes that our emotions have made us desire. Truth doesn't do that. Truth guides us to outcomes that may be awful, difficult, or possibly even unbearable. Truth may also guide us to outcomes that we love, are enjoyable, or even beautiful. The point is that truth doesn't care.
Attempting to make difficult choices without truth leads to problems. It may provide a temporary relief...it may even seem to lead to success. Making choices without the truth, or worse in denial of truth, eventually results in conflict. It results in a conflict with reality...and that is a conflict that cannot be won. All you can do once you're faced with reality is accept it....or distort your perception of the truth even further.
Ultimately, that is what religion is to me. A massive distortion of the truth. A desperate attempt to distort reality. The comforts it provides are temporary...it doesn't negotiate one's life past obstacles, it denies they are there.
IMO it helps no one...it only leads to that conflict. It only holds one back. It only holds us all back.
That's why I'm an anti-theist.