John Wesley had the view of what we can loosely call, freewill. His best friend, George Whitefield, was of the Calvinist persuasion and it caused many arguments between them.
Wesley's Explanatory Notes
What if God, willing to shew his wrath, and to make his power known, endured with much longsuffering the vessels of wrath fitted to destruction:
What if God, being willing — Referring to Romans 9:18,19. That is, although it was now his will, because of their obstinate unbelief, To show his wrath - Which necessarily presupposes sin.
And to make his power known — This is repeated from the seventeenth verse.
Yet endured — As he did Pharaoh.
With much longsuffering — Which should have led them to repentance.
The vessels of wrath — Those who had moved his wrath by still rejecting his mercy.
Fitted for destruction — By their own wilful and final impenitence. Is there any injustice in this ?
Mat 23:37 O Jerusalem, Jerusalem, thou that killest the prophets, and stonest them which are sent unto thee, how often would I have gathered thy children together, even as a hen gathereth her chickens under her wings, and
ye would not!
Jesus says nothing about God hardening their hearts, He didn't say they weren't chosen to believe. He clearly says that they would not believe.
Did He weep over Jerusalem because His Father hadn't chosen them? Or did He weep because He loved them and they chose their own destruction?