John Macarthur has a great message:
Twin Truths: God’s Sovereignty and Man’s Responsibility
It explains that both God is soverign in election, and man is also responsible. To me it seems both Calvinism and Arminianism are true.
Why can they both not be true?
http://www.gty.org/resources/sermons/43-15/twin-truths-gods-sovereignty-and-mans-responsibility
Greetings Andy,
I think you are making a category error. You described Calvinism as "God's sovereignty" and you described Arminianism as "Man's responsibility", when the truth is, Calvinism affirms both of these ideas. Thus, the two are not exclusive.
In other words, the dividing line between Calvinism and Arminianism
is not which one affirms man's responsibility, because they both do.
The reason Calvinism is able to affirm both of these truths is because it affirms the concept of "compatibilism" (look it up sometime). The short of it is this: God sovereignly works out His own will while at the same time man is held responsible for his actions, and yet we cannot understand this mystery with our finite minds. However, since the Bible teaches both of those truths (I can give examples if you'd like), the Bible believing Christian is obligated to believe them, even if they cannot completely understand or reconcile them.
Some examples of doctrines that we are obligated to believe, even if we can't fully understand them, is the Trinity, or the fact that Christ was fully God yet fully human. I'll be the first to admit that I cannot fathom these things with my puny brain, but I see that the Bible teaches them and therefore expects me to believe them.
Compatibilism is the same way
Arminianism denies compatibilism, and therefore, the two concepts [1) God's sovereignty 2) mans' responsibility] cannot co-exist together, therefore Arminianism is forced to throw out one doctrine in order to retain the other. Sadly, Arminianism throws out the doctrine of God's sovereignty in favor of man's responsibility.
Arminianism concludes that since man is held responsible for his actions, that must mean God cannot have decreed such actions to take place.
This is an error that Calvinism denies. As said above, Calvinism affirms
both that God decrees all things, and also that man is responsible for his actions.
That is the picture painted in the Bible, thus Calvinism has no problem affirming it and defending it.