Why are you Single?

[Swan7]

yeah I know, my bad, just lonely days is all.

I can certainly relate. I've had those bouts too and sometimes not easy to handle. Thankfully, CF Singles helped me out with it and, of course, praying about it helps tremendously.

 

[CodyFaith]

I can certainly relate. I've had those bouts too and sometimes not easy to handle. Thankfully, CF Singles helped me out with it and, of course, praying about it helps tremendously.

Yeah, joining CF has certainly made me less lonely. Apartment's less colder now, that's for sure.

 

[James of Arc]

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[Toro]

I don't know, I just know that the first one is good and after that they kind of are not very good.

Kind of like hostess cupcakes.

 

[James of Arc]

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[CCHIPSS]

OMgoodness, my twin sister. I am going to try that title of serial dater, its way better then what I use to use.

I have learned that the reason I use to date so much without committing is because I liked the company but did not want them in my everyday personal life.

I liked spending $600 every two weeks on a new gun. I liked spending $5000 a year on a new motor. I liked having my own money that was mine only but I wanted company on the weekends and only the weekends.

I liked doing my thing all week and then on the weekend I wanted to pick up a pretty woman and go to the races and hit a party and hangout all weekend but I want to be free on Monday with no commitments. Two or three weeks was all I wanted to know you because after that it starts to get serious and I did not want that.

I also did not want to have to go through the heart break of another love relationship, love hurts when the relationship is over and I never want to go through that again.

But all in all I just like to have dinner with a pretty woman and then I am happy.

Thanks for sharing. The serial dating can be done for a while. And assuming you are handsome, there are pretty ladies that you can date.

But I think it is fair to say that as you age, it will get harder and harder to find pretty ladies to date. And during your serial dating, you will certainly date but pass by many ladies who would have made an awesome wife for you.

If you continue like this, in your old age you will be single and alone. All those toys that you buy can only bring you so much joy. We humans (according to the bible) are built for relationships and love. True joy is there.

Do not miss out on true joy through relationships and love.

 

[Deidre32]

God is having trouble finding just the right person for me because I am so awesome!(LOL-then fall off your chair!)

Aw! This comment made me smile.

 

[SarahsKnight]

Aw! This comment made me smile.

But the same reason can likely be applied to you for your still being single (or not married, in your case, since you mentioned you are kind of seeing that one guy who came forward), Miss Deidre, eh? *wink wink, nudge nudge*

 

[Deidre32]

But the same reason can likely be applied to you for your still being single (or not married, in your case, since you mentioned you are kind of seeing that one guy who came forward), Miss Deidre, eh? *wink wink, nudge nudge*

lol maybe

Or maybe, it's me. Maybe my fear of commitment only let things go so far with a guy. Maybe definitely. lol Working on it. I like this guy I'm seeing, and he's so different than what I'm accustomed to dating, he's a police officer, has a southern accent, and hunts. But, he's a solid Christian and we both just 'get' each other. That's the thing about chemistry, it starts out with physical attraction, but if there's nothing beyond that, it won't go anywhere.

 

[Sir Robbins]

I am single because of my way of thinking, my cold heart and despair of pain I am in from ongoing medical issues that keep me at home a lot so I don't get out much...

 

[Deidre32]

I am single because of my way of thinking, my cold heart and despair of pain I am in from ongoing medical issues that keep me at home a lot so I don't get out much...

((hugs)) Sorry to hear of your medical issues.

 

[Goodbook]

You not going to be single and alone if you live in a retirement village. Heaps of ppl there.
Plus if you marry and your spouse dies and all your children move away and dont like you then you WILL be single and alone.
So marriage isnt a guarantee you wont be alone when you are old.

 

[Goodbook]

I know plenty of christians married to unbelievers, end up being alone in their marriages. Its criminal. Actually its worse than staying single because you sleeping with the enemy. Thats actually a frightening thought.

They didnt marry in Gods will they just went ahead without really thinking. On the other hand those that were already married and then became christian and their spouse didnt, have a really hard time of it. They could be living in a mansion, yet have nothing, no real joy when their spouse is deaf to the gospel.

 

[Noxot]

lots of Christians are just like normal everyday people in the world and so if all Christianity is to you is a social construct then it is just accidental Christianity, not deeply authentic Christianity. plenty of human beings do acts of Christ no matter what label they take upon themselves and it is more of a confession of Christ to live like he wills than it is to say you believe in him.

judging why a christian would marry an atheist really comes down to that unique circumstance. to try to express humanity in a few words does not do it justice at all.

 

[Goodbook]

A christian puts their faith in Jesus not their spouse.
I go by the Bible. To put ones faith solely in ones spouse is trusting in idolatry. If your other half isnt a believer, thats dangerous, God says we arent to be unequally yoked.

Yes, lots of people make mistakes, but they reap what they sow. I know, Ive seen it. It affects everyone, esp counselled and talked to many unhappily married people who wished they had stayed single. God forgives, yet so many of these marriages are not peaceful and end up in divorce. I had to go to a funeral of a believer whos husband didnt believe and he cut short the ceremony and burned his wifes body. I was shocked. The more she tried to show him Christs love, the more he rejected it. He felt he had lost his wife to someone he couldnt understand.

 

[Goodbook]

A lady in my bible study, became a christian after she married, said that even now, after many years of marriage, and three children, her unsaved husband could just up and leave her. Thats very sad that she does not feel secure in her marriage.

 

[yeshuaslavejeff]

A lady in my bible study, became a christian after she married, said that even now, after many years of marriage, and three children, her unsaved husband could just up and leave her. Thats very sad that she does not feel secure in her marriage.

Perhaps she has secure Faith, Trust, and is Relying on Jesus (what we are called to do).
(as you just posted previously: )

A christian puts their faith in Jesus not their spouse.
I go by the Bible.

As far as her husband ,
remember Scripture:
1 Corinthians 7:15 ►
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"But if the unbeliever leaves, let it be so. ... ..."

Some versions point out : "don't even try to prevent them". (for a reason God makes clear)

 

[Peace Keeper]

I want to wait for the right person to date and marry, it is hard sometimes to wait since I have been alone a lot, due to not being able to go out and do much because of my physical limitations. I sometimes think that people wouldn't want to hang out with me much because of that fact, but I could be totally wrong. I personally would just like a true friend, someone who would like talking with me and spending time with me and just doing fun stuff like taking pictures together (I like nature photography) and maybe art or something else. I am hoping someday I will be able to have good friends that love and follow God and help me to grow in my faith, I have some online friends that way but life gets busy and they don't have much time to talk I suppose. I am thankful God is always there for me and with me, He is a great comfort to me during this time.

 

[GQ Chris]

There is not a high demand in the market for a guy like me.

 

[GQ Chris]

I'm a Calvinist, which makes it tougher because I am not part of the more 'liberal friendly' denominations within Christianity. Usually most women within the Reformed camp are already all snatched up and I got to the party late.