I am not an emotional person, personally. So, I can only speak for myself. But, revealing even deeper racism is part of the bitter-sweet consequence that I would be willing to go through if it means getting over the lame cowardice and fear, and actually moving forward.
Believe it or not, but in my experience minorities appreciate someone who is blatantly "racist", or prejudiced against them. Any human should appreciate the truth no matter how painful; honesty is a luxury humanity is not afforded in these generations.
If it means violence, then that means no one was ready (mature enough) to get to the point of reconciliation - which, of course, speaks to the individual(s). If you cannot tell someone (in an respectful and honest manner) you hate them because of their skin color, and they cannot accept that without getting violent, then at least one of the parties were too immature to have a dialogue. On the other hand, to luxuriate in a system that favors one person while it is/should be obvious that other groups are suffering under that system - all the while boasting nationalistic cheers of freedom for all, and equal opportunity - is to be complacent in the problem.
As I said, the problem is very simple; humans - namely, ego, are the stumbling block. Cowardice and ignorance are the blinders.