What's on your mind?

[shineyourlight]

Someone make me breakfast.

 

[Multifavs]

I do not have much friends at all, none really, IRL , which is why I am here all the time. I am rather socially awkward

Same here!

 

[Niels]

I'm not sure if anyone knows, but to those who do not, I must report that one of our brothers has passed away. Anthony Saucedo, better known as our resident Italian "Rigatoni" has gone home to be with the Lord. It happened back on October 1st, but those of us who were really close to him just found out last night. Please pray for us and his family.

Sorry to hear that. I was wondering what he was up to. We briefly talked about collaborating on video game development. Maybe after my current project wrapped up. He was more experienced in the field, but I've been working with Unity and C# in a research environment and we both had ideas. I don't know many Christian developers, and it was encouraging to meet somebody on here with these interests.

Prayers for his family and friends.

 

[VMaeLove]

A true Good Friend is very hard to find.
I had my job, clothes, money, romantic partner taken by people I thought are friends.

There is a Honour and Respect a lot of people do not have, it is important for Friendship.

 

[shineyourlight]

I'm not sure if anyone knows, but to those who do not, I must report that one of our brothers has passed away. Anthony Saucedo, better known as our resident Italian "Rigatoni" has gone home to be with the Lord. It happened back on October 1st, but those of us who were really close to him just found out last night. Please pray for us and his family.

I am BAWLING. WE've corresponded through messages quite frequently.

That is so incredibly sad

 

[.Mikha'el.]

I am BAWLING. WE've corresponded through messages quite frequently.

That is so incredibly sad

 

[Multifavs]

Sorry to hear that. I was wondering what he was up to. We briefly talked about collaborating on video game development. Maybe after my current project wrapped up. He was more experienced in the field, but I've been working with Unity and C# in a research environment and we both had ideas. I don't know many Christian developers, and it was encouraging to meet somebody on here with these interests.

Prayers for his family and friends.

I loved seeing his game development work and 3D models and stuff. He was so talented. We were collaborating on a game but it never got very far.

I am BAWLING. WE've corresponded through messages quite frequently.

That is so incredibly sad

Same here.

 

[Mr. Bultitude]

God's sense of humor is demonstrated very well with the Sun Bear.

 

[bèlla]

A true Good Friend is very hard to find.
I had my job, clothes, money, romantic partner taken by people I thought are friends.

There is a Honour and Respect a lot of people do not have, it is important for Friendship.

I’m sorry for your losses. Some people are covetous and don’t consider the ramifications of their actions. I’ve learned from experience to keep a lot of things to myself. It keeps the green-eyed monster at bay.

In respect to men, its common to share with friends. But oftentimes we say too much. Especially when it comes to their merits. And what we deem difficult could be a goldmine for the next.

That’s not to say you must walk alone and can’t unburden yourself. But its important to build connections with genuine people. Pay attention to their response when things are good. How often are you encouraged? Do they reinforce your merits and offer advice when needed? When you question yourself do they refute the doubt or agree?

In other words, you need an asset. That’s what real friends are. They’re not fair weather or situational. They walk with you in all seasons.

Ask for godly companions. Mutually loving and edifying friends. Someone to laugh and pray with whose support is a constant. You deserve nothing less.

 

[SIMPLE IS GOOD]

A Worship CD on my CD player.

 

[SarahsKnight]

God's sense of humor is demonstrated very well with the Sun Bear.

Ah, a newcomer. *bows* Welcome.


Also, .... Sun Bear.

 

[Sophrosyne]

Someone make me breakfast.

I can microwave some scrambled eggs at 5am tomorow

 

[VMaeLove]

I’m sorry for your losses. Some people are covetous and don’t consider the ramifications of their actions. I’ve learned from experience to keep a lot of things to myself. It keeps the green-eyed monster at bay.

In respect to men, its common to share with friends. But oftentimes we say too much. Especially when it comes to their merits. And what we deem difficult could be a goldmine for the next.

That’s not to say you must walk alone and can’t unburden yourself. But its important to build connections with genuine people. Pay attention to their response when things are good. How often are you encouraged? Do they reinforce your merits and offer advice when needed? When you question yourself do they refute the doubt or agree?

In other words, you need an asset. That’s what real friends are. They’re not fair weather or situational. They walk with you in all seasons.

Ask for godly companions. Mutually loving and edifying friends. Someone to laugh and pray with whose support is a constant. You deserve nothing less.

You are very right and speak every thing I am learning.
I have 1 good friend left. She matches every thing you say. We live far apart now but we know we would fly tomorrow if it is needed. A friendship made on love, not material or selfish.

I think what changed me when realizing being alone and loneliness are not the same.

Now I am meeting new people for right reasons. I try to keep my social to people with focus on God. And doing good and positivity.
Already 3 years now, I am rebuilding my life and those I let in it.

 

[GodDoesListen55]

Exactly. Love is always a risk. But you don't have to settle. If they aren't good to you. Forget it. Be free but strong.

Yes, I agree 100%, thank you!

 

[bèlla]

You are very right and speak every thing I am learning.

I’ve had my share of bumps and bruises in that area. They were largely due to violations in boundaries, choices, or emotions. When you trespass those principles it never ends well.

I’m not a fan of 2x4s. I don’t need a lot of drama or hardship to realize something’s wrong. The results speak for themself. Changing direction required a willingness to own the mistake. It doesn’t matter what they did, said, or promised. The error’s in my lap. I should have known better.

Sometimes you have to take the hit for the greater good of yourself. Never mind what you wanted, believed, or hoped to have. If its the wrong fit you’ll get more of the same and you must be willing to cut the chord when required.

There’s a lot of soul searching involved. It’s important to determine what led you to that point. How did they get in? What were they speaking to inside of you that compelled your agreement or embrace?

When you find the answer look for the skeletons. The uncomfortable consequence of its presence. What have you done or failed to do because of it? That’s how you face the music and relinquish harmful things or behaviors that no longer serve you.

The better you are with the scalpel the freer you’ll become. You’ll avoid the pitfalls that once ensnared you and attract better connections. The differences between the two are obvious and can’t be missed.

Be intentional in your relationships. Where are you now and where do you want to go? You need people doing the same or already there. Look for people who’ve overcome the things you struggle with. Pouring is reciprocal. Both parties should benefit from the pairing.

I believe in having a multitude of counselors. That isn’t possible without scrutiny. Some of the worst advice I've received came from friends. They meant well but it was foolish. I can’t have that in my ear.

When I encounter believers I look for evidence of the same. I want to know how their love for God transformed them and their circumstances. What I’m trying to determine is whether they have an ear to hear and followthrough on His directives.

When you do what He says there’s forward movement. When you operate from flesh you get stuck. And I need to know their trouble spots beforehand. Are they speaking from experience or a victory they’ve attained through the Lord or sharing an opinion.

It’s one thing to advise this and that and another to walk someone through the process. I look for the latter and address my inquiries specifically. I don’t discuss everything with everyone and that was an important turning point.

It set the stage for intentional living and mutually fulfilling relationships. I don’t forge connections on emotions anymore. There must be a greater reason for our togetherness. Because feelings are fleeting. People change and disappoint us. You need a tangible anchor.

There’s no one in my life whose presence I can’t explain. Be it family or friend. I know why they’re here. I see His hand throughout and the bond was forged by Him. That’s important.

We tell ourselves God is glorified in numerous circumstances. But when I ask myself how the pairing brings me nearer to my purpose or an objective He wants me to accomplish the conversation shifts.

I see what I miss when viewing the situation through feelings, bias, etc. I’ve averted wrong alliances by doing so. Without fail, every misalignment was my doing. He didn’t tell me to draw them to my bosom. Or nudge me towards them. Or lay them on my heart in prayer.

I chose to do so and paid a price. I’ve learned (and continue to learn) to do otherwise. I had to bring bella under subjection. Rein in her heart and wait for His signal. Denying myself and the other.

He’s not talking to me about them or mentioning me to them either. But when two are on one accord that’s when He shows up. That’s when you can accomplish great things together.

I’ve seen it and live it and would never do otherwise. I brought myself unnecessary pain by being in places I didn’t belong. We don’t have to endure every hardship to choose differently. We must learn from our mistakes and glean from others by learning from their missteps too. That’s how we grow.

I don’t know you personally but I sense you have a tender heart. It’s important to protect her. Because the world despises beauty. They’ll eat her alive if you let them. And you don’t want to lose that essence. It’s precious. The hidden secret of your husband’s betterment.

You want to keep it soft and pliable. That’s where walls are beneficial. I have my share. People would use me like a rag doll if I permitted it. They’d take and demand with no regard of their imposition and expect my compliance. They’re driven by want and need with little concern for my welfare.

They never ask, what about you bella? How can I aid or be a blessing to you? That’s why He builds my friendships. I’d be treated like a never-ending resource. And that’s not what He designed me for.

Trust the path He has you on and remember the past no more. Your latter days will be greater than the former. Rest in that.

 

[VMaeLove]

I’ve had my share of bumps and bruises in that area. They were largely due to violations in boundaries, choices, or emotions. When you trespass those principles it never ends well.

I’m not a fan of 2x4s. I don’t need a lot of drama or hardship to realize something’s wrong. The results speak for themself. Changing direction required a willingness to own the mistake. It doesn’t matter what they did, said, or promised. The error’s in my lap. I should have known better.

Sometimes you have to take the hit for the greater good of yourself. Never mind what you wanted, believed, or hoped to have. If its the wrong fit you’ll get more of the same and you must be willing to cut the chord when required.

There’s a lot of soul searching involved. It’s important to determine what led you to that point. How did they get in? What were they speaking to inside of you that compelled your agreement or embrace?

When you find the answer look for the skeletons. The uncomfortable consequence of its presence. What have you done or failed to do because of it? That’s how you face the music and relinquish harmful things or behaviors that no longer serve you.

The better you are with the scalpel the freer you’ll become. You’ll avoid the pitfalls that once ensnared you and attract better connections. The differences between the two are obvious and can’t be missed.

Be intentional in your relationships. Where are you now and where do you want to go? You need people doing the same or already there. Look for people who’ve overcome the things you struggle with. Pouring is reciprocal. Both parties should benefit from the pairing.

I believe in having a multitude of counselors. That isn’t possible without scrutiny. Some of the worst advice I've received came from friends. They meant well but it was foolish. I can’t have that in my ear.

When I encounter believers I look for evidence of the same. I want to know how their love for God transformed them and their circumstances. What I’m trying to determine is whether they have an ear to hear and followthrough on His directives.

When you do what He says there’s forward movement. When you operate from flesh you get stuck. And I need to know their trouble spots beforehand. Are they speaking from experience or a victory they’ve attained through the Lord or sharing an opinion.

It’s one thing to advise this and that and another to walk someone through the process. I look for the latter and address my inquiries specifically. I don’t discuss everything with everyone and that was an important turning point.

It set the stage for intentional living and mutually fulfilling relationships. I don’t forge connections on emotions anymore. There must be a greater reason for our togetherness. Because feelings are fleeting. People change and disappoint us. You need a tangible anchor.

There’s no one in my life whose presence I can’t explain. Be it family or friend. I know why they’re here. I see His hand throughout and the bond was forged by Him. That’s important.

We tell ourselves God is glorified in numerous circumstances. But when I ask myself how the pairing brings me nearer to my purpose or an objective He wants me to accomplish the conversation shifts.

I see what I miss when viewing the situation through feelings, bias, etc. I’ve averted wrong alliances by doing so. Without fail, every misalignment was my doing. He didn’t tell me to draw them to my bosom. Or nudge me towards them. Or lay them on my heart in prayer.

I chose to do so and paid a price. I’ve learned (and continue to learn) to do otherwise. I had to bring bella under subjection. Rein in her heart and wait for His signal. Denying myself and the other.

He’s not talking to me about them or mentioning me to them either. But when two are on one accord that’s when He shows up. That’s when you can accomplish great things together.

I’ve seen it and live it and would never do otherwise. I brought myself unnecessary pain by being in places I didn’t belong. We don’t have to endure every hardship to choose differently. We must learn from our mistakes and glean from others by learning from their missteps too. That’s how we grow.

I don’t know you personally but I sense you have a tender heart. It’s important to protect her. Because the world despises beauty. They’ll eat her alive if you let them. And you don’t want to lose that essence. It’s precious. The hidden secret of your husband’s betterment.

You want to keep it soft and pliable. That’s where walls are beneficial. I have my share. People would use me like a rag doll if I permitted it. They’d take and demand with no regard of their imposition and expect my compliance. They’re driven by want and need with little concern for my welfare.

They never ask, what about you bella? How can I aid or be a blessing to you? That’s why He builds my friendships. I’d be treated like a never-ending resource. And that’s not what He designed me for.

Trust the path He has you on and remember the past no more. Your latter days will be greater than the former. Rest in that.

I am sorry you have seen it too.
I work on Self Awareness and going with His Flow and not People or Worldly. And building the Right walls.

I want you to know you have affect me personally though. I take what you said to heart. I have screenshot of your posts sometimes to read again.
I have learn a lot from you the past years. I do not know if you know that. I have no idea how I can give back. But I pray for you that only good will come to you. I know God will reward you for your selfless work.
If we never meet in this life I look forward Heaven.

 

[bèlla]

I am sorry you have seen it too.
I work on Self Awareness and going with His Flow and not People or Worldly. And building the Right walls.

We all have growing pains. They build character and wisdom if we learn our lesson. I’m not surprised to hear that. You exude a steadiness. It isn’t a frantic energy or heavy laden.

I want you to know you have affect me personally though. I take what you said to heart. I have screenshot of your posts sometimes to read again.

I know. That’s why I speak the way I do to you. I want you to be bettered. Sometimes we need a reminder that we’re heard, it’s not the end of the world, or a nugget that helps us take the next step. And I know you will.

I have learn a lot from you the past years. I do not know if you know that.

I would never say it but your countenance and spirit tell me so. You listen. Really listen. Not to argue or debate. Because you understand what’s behind it even when its hard to swallow. Much like @Vinter. When I encounter someone like you I’m delighted. I know I can be of assistance, a blessing, etc.

I have no idea how I can give back. But I pray for you that only good will come to you. I know God will reward you for your selfless work.
If we never meet in this life I look forward Heaven.

Your receptivity is my reward. The seed will yield a harvest. I see your progression from our first hello. I hear the change in your words. You’ve grown a lot.

Thank you for your kindness. You’ve blessed me much today.

 

[SarahsKnight]

It's nice to see such love passed between sisters here, today. ^-^

 

[public hermit]

Garden pic.

 

[bèlla]

Garden pic.

Wonderful! You have more woodland than I realized. You’re really a hermit.

PS. You have to tell us what you’re growing so we swoon, put in requests, etc.