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@DragonFox91 I subscribe to this through the library via the Libby app and thought of you. It has a nostalgic vibe and wholesome content. You might enjoy it. ;-)

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Thank you for thinking of me, that makes me feel happy.
I'm sure some of it I would like. But I also see that & feel like I got saved from that lifestyle.

I concur but sometimes I find ideas that are useful. Most notably the ones for gatherings and family time. I read a book along those lines years ago that focused on the victorian period and we’re rekindling those practices at home.
 
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I had such a good time yesterday. I've been doing so well & thinking so well.

Now I am sad. It's just not the reality I got. It comes w/ being sad. The reality I got is like you lost (I do not get married)
 
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I had such a good time yesterday. I've been doing so well & thinking so well.

Now I am sad. It's just not the reality I got. It comes w/ being sad. The reality I got is like you lost (I do not get married)

You haven’t lost but you’ve built your future around a want and tied it to your happiness which isn’t sustainable. Because life is full of uncertainties that can alter our plans or delay them. Right now you’re feeling the pinch on relationships but that isn’t the only hurdle and bigger ones are on the way that may impact you as well. We have to be willing to adapt and make peace with the probability our timeline may change.

I’ve been posting policy initiatives from the Heritage Foundation that weren’t included in Project 2025 that are meant to be implemented between 2023-2032. That period may not mean a lot to you personally but the social security reserves will be gone by 2033 as of today. But the date isn’t fixed and it’s dropping fast. They’re not planning to replace it. All benefits will be reduced by 24% across the board. Which is a 48% reduction for a couple. We’re moving to a flat benefit system for social security and disability and everyone will be paid the same. Which means a lot of people may be sharing a home with their parents or needing to support them financially.

Job losses are underway because of Ai and will be the theme next year. It’s not the little guy anymore. Executives are being replaced and they’re reducing positions in every industry. I posted a video the other day about Harvard graduates struggling to find a job and that applies to grad school too. Amazon is reducing their workforce by 600k and they’re the second largest employer in America. I saw a video about Deloitte using Ai for a report they prepared for the government. The information was wrong and they received $400k for the project and have 50 others in the pipeline and none were cancelled. Which means accountants and consultants are next.

I share that to demonstrate the unexpected. Many of you want families and would probably send your children to college. But did you expect to pay it all out of pocket or anticipate the removal of loans for parents? Did you expect the government to reverse their policy on interest rates for student loans and let them mirror the market? Did you think you’d have to supplement the costs with private lenders? That’s the plan. If you’re familiar with our history you’ll know higher education wasn’t always funded by the government. You only went if you could pay.

When you’re looking at the future you have to consider the whole and don’t get fixated on one detail at expense of the others. Your plans can’t be rigid because tomorrow is uncertain and we make adjustments as we go along. You intended to marry and have a stay at home wife who didn’t work. But that may not be possible because of the uncertainty and you may decide a second income would be best just in case.

This is the era of upsets that’s why everything is topsy turvy. A new structure is being erected and the old is being destroyed. You have to keep an eye on your plan and the other on the elements impacting it. There’s too much change in the air. While you’re lamenting your condition you should be glad you’re single and have time to put in place what others haven’t. So you won’t have their stress and wish you’d done otherwise.

Sometimes setbacks are blessings. It doesn’t seem that way in the beginning but hindsight is golden. When you purchased your home you didn’t expect private equity firms and hedge funds to buy up the supply and utilize technology that would inflate the prices and make them out of reach for most but here we are. When you bought your car you didn’t expect the manufacturer to monetize standard features and put them on a subscription plan to generate income. But BMW tried it and rest assured its coming.

When most people graduated from school they believed that a good job + good income + family = a happy life. That might be the case in a righteous society but when wickedness rules its otherwise. In the space from your departure from the university until today. It’s no school + no jobs + no relationships = ?

You didn’t see that coming but He did. Trust His timing and make use of this season while you can. Most of you need to go back to the drawing board. Your ideal is based on a reality that’s departing. Now what? How do you get there? That’s your challenge.
 
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I stumbled upon this YouTube channel today. If you know anyone who receives social security, disability benefits or ssi for their children please pass it along. The cuts I’ve posted elsewhere are underway. He’s a former social manager and well informed. This is an image from one of his videos and he’s counting down the checks.


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You haven’t lost but you’ve built your future around a want and tied it to your happiness which isn’t sustainable. Because life is full of uncertainties that can alter our plans or delay them. Right now you’re feeling the pinch on relationships but that isn’t the only hurdle and bigger ones are on the way that may impact you as well. We have to be willing to adapt and make peace with the probability our timeline may change.

I’ve been posting policy initiatives from the Heritage Foundation that weren’t included in Project 2025 that are meant to be implemented between 2023-2032. That period may not mean a lot to you personally but the social security reserves will be gone by 2033 as of today. But the date isn’t fixed and it’s dropping fast. They’re not planning to replace it. All benefits will be reduced by 24% across the board. Which is a 48% reduction for a couple. We’re moving to a flat benefit system for social security and disability and everyone will be paid the same. Which means a lot of people may be sharing a home with their parents or needing to support them financially.

Job losses are underway because of Ai and will be the theme next year. It’s not the little guy anymore. Executives are being replaced and they’re reducing positions in every industry. I posted a video the other day about Harvard graduates struggling to find a job and that applies to grad school too. Amazon is reducing their workforce by 600k and they’re the second largest employer in America. I saw a video about Deloitte using Ai for a report they prepared for the government. The information was wrong and they received $400k for the project and have 50 others in the pipeline and none were cancelled. Which means accountants and consultants are next.

I share that to demonstrate the unexpected. Many of you want families and would probably send your children to college. But did you expect to pay it all out of pocket or anticipate the removal of loans for parents? Did you expect the government to reverse their policy on interest rates for student loans and let them mirror the market? Did you think you’d have to supplement the costs with private lenders? That’s the plan. If you’re familiar with our history you’ll know higher education wasn’t always funded by the government. You only went if you could pay.

When you’re looking at the future you have to consider the whole and don’t get fixated on one detail at expense of the others. Your plans can’t be rigid because tomorrow is uncertain and we make adjustments as we go along. You intended to marry and have a stay at home wife who didn’t work. But that may not be possible because of the uncertainty and you may decide a second income would be best just in case.

This is the era of upsets that’s why everything is topsy turvy. A new structure is being erected and the old is being destroyed. You have to keep an eye on your plan and the other on the elements impacting it. There’s too much change in the air. While you’re lamenting your condition you should be glad you’re single and have time to put in place what others haven’t. So you won’t have their stress and wish you’d done otherwise.

Sometimes setbacks are blessings. It doesn’t seem that way in the beginning but hindsight is golden. When you purchased your home you didn’t expect private equity firms and hedge funds to buy up the supply and utilize technology that would inflate the prices and make them out of reach for most but here we are. When you bought your car you didn’t expect the manufacturer to monetize standard features and put them on a subscription plan to generate income. But BMW tried it and rest assured its coming.

When most people graduated from school they believed that a good job + good income + family = a happy life. That might be the case in a righteous society but when wickedness rules its otherwise. In the space from your departure from the university until today. It’s no school + no jobs + no relationships = ?

You didn’t see that coming but He did. Trust His timing and make use of this season while you can. Most of you need to go back to the drawing board. Your ideal is based on a reality that’s departing. Now what? How do you get there? That’s your challenge.
No, I am not concerned about that. The problem at this point it's to the point where it's almost like you'd say no b/c you've convinced yourself you can't.

But yeah, people struggling w/ money #1 issue I've seen, & they'll just pass it on. I've thought in the past 'those couples just making ends meet', that will lead to those people I encountered in college for example, upset at the world & everything in it b/c they don't have any money. It's like I was saying, everything produces fruit. In the same way I've wanted to get married, I've seen people think like that talk about money.

Everything produces fruit.......I wonder about those couples who didn't have the Foundation (maybe as well as they thought they), what will their children's foundation be?

Here is the reality: it's very hard to change once you're married.

Going back to the picture of that magazine you shared, that's a ritzy life style. The people I encountered didn't have the ritz. I was welcomed to reality.

I saw a clip 'Jesus says it's easier for a camel to go thru an eye of a needle then a rich man to enter heaven. People, it's impossible for a camel to go thru the eye of a needle.' It was usually taught to me Jesus still doesn't exclude them & the rich people in the Bible who were still saved, but does someone who has the world care for the world to come? That's what I saw when I went into the world. & I don't want to knock on the rich, I've seen a lot of that too, almost too much, & that's wrong too, "the world's problems are due to the rich & it's time for them to pay", but I also saw the well-off are almost too comfortable too

That's what I see in the magazine picture.
 
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Sorry I don't post more often here. My introvertness extends to my online activities as well. The begining of this year was a huge fall for me, due to struggles in mental health, with home life and my church life. I shared before I ended up leaving my home church. I had guilt in doing so, thinking I had betrayed my brethren there. God had then reminded me about my prayers late last year, how I asked Him to remove me, if I was not suitable for the roles I had taken on, some of which was in a form of pastoral roles. My main issue came with how the elders where limiting God from working within the church. I had become aware they lacked much faith in God, especially when I would be given a chance to show how God was willing to use the church to reach out to thousands of people who went by the church each day.

I haven't rescinded my membership yet, so I get the weekly newsletter still. On Friday, I decided to take a look if they had found a new senior pastor finally, as it has been several years they've had one. I saw they had not. Then as I looked at the board of elders, I noticed there was a change. One of the new elders is a recent member in the recent years, who helped me with the live stream service once a month. There are things I had noticed about him, which I brought up to my friend, who is the music director. I recall clearly, my friend saying this person wasn't suited to be in a spiritual role for the church. I had originally thought about becoming an elder myself last year. I saw this as a clear sign, as my old church rejecting God's direction, especially His wisdom. I feel I'm at peace now, for leaving this church behind. I'm still seeking God for healing, and seeing where He wants me to serve with the gifts He has revealed to me last year.
 
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No, I am not concerned about that. The problem at this point it's to the point where it's almost like you'd say no b/c you've convinced yourself you can't.

What are you afraid of?

But yeah, people struggling w/ money #1 issue I've seen, & they'll just pass it on. I've thought in the past 'those couples just making ends meet', that will lead to those people I encountered in college for example, upset at the world & everything in it b/c they don't have any money. It's like I was saying, everything produces fruit. In the same way I've wanted to get married, I've seen people think like that talk about money.

If that’s your starting point you have to begin with Horace Mann and public education. Although the example for its establishment hailed from a different place. The intention for its institution was never designed for the reasons we were told. It’s like the ad for the ginzu knife and the numerous benefits they promise. But when you get it home you can’t do the same. That’s not to suggest that knowledge isn’t acquired in school. But a system designed to produce workers will yield different fruit from one another created for tomorrow’s leaders. There‘s no comparison.

This is a school in Switzerland. They’re known for their boarding schools and international student body. We have similar places in America too but the Swiss do it on a different level. Although we‘re sold the merits of college and people compete to gain access to the Ivy League. It will never yield the fruit you’ll acquire by placing your emphasis on boarding school instead. But no one tells you that and they’re not supposed to.


Everything produces fruit.......I wonder about those couples who didn't have the Foundation (maybe as well as they thought they), what will their children's foundation be?

It isn’t enough to know the Lord. We must be ever seeking the truth in light of His presence. We should be cognizant of the devil’s devices and aware of its impact on society. We shouldn’t be following a script he designed and get upset when it doesn’t work. You can’t build tomorrow on a lie because the structure will collapse eventually.

Here is the reality: it's very hard to change once you're married.

It’s different for a person who didn’t live with the principle beforehand. If you enter a union with two people committed to growth and maturity change is welcomed and celebrated.

Going back to the picture of that magazine you shared, that's a ritzy life style. The people I encountered didn't have the ritz. I was welcomed to reality.

That isn’t a depiction of wealth. It may appear so in light of our economy. But things were different then and less expensive. I wasn’t born in that period but our home looked the same as did my grandparents. People lived within their means and it wasn’t uncommon for gifts to be acquired throughout the year.

I lived near a Toys R Us store and discovered their markdown policy through an impromptu visit. It was the end of summer and there were a few aisles devoted to clearance items for popular brands and I was shocked. I asked someone about it and they told me when it starts. I picked up a few things that day and came back every week. The bulk of my shopping was done before November.

I used to build relationships wherever I shopped and continue to do so. I buy exclusively from that person and if they’re not in I’ll put it on hold. They benefit from my loyalty and I get better deals and management is pleased. That’s an outgrowth of shopping in department stores where client books were the norm. It taught me the value of relationships, recognition and appreciation. Oftentimes employees go unseen and I endeavored to do otherwise.

I saw a clip 'Jesus says it's easier for a camel to go thru an eye of a needle then a rich man to enter heaven. People, it's impossible for a camel to go thru the eye of a needle.' It was usually taught to me Jesus still doesn't exclude them & the rich people in the Bible who were still saved, but does someone who has the world care for the world to come? That's what I saw when I went into the world. & I don't want to knock on the rich, I've seen a lot of that too, almost too much, & that's wrong too, "the world's problems are due to the rich & it's time for them to pay", but I also saw the well-off are almost too comfortable too

That's what I see in the magazine picture.

If you fail to instruct the populace on the rudiments of wealth and what they should develop within themselves and their offspring they won’t be equipped. They’ll be forced to rely on what’s bestowed and their earnings will be repressed. No matter what the number says on your paycheck you’re underpaid. The system isn’t designed to reward our labor honestly.

But a righteous man wants everyone to thrive and use the gifts and talents God bestowed as He intended. In most instances that isn’t your employer. You’re a means to an end in his eyes. I remember a conversation my grandfather shared about the home they purchased. He met with his boss and asked for a raise because he needed the money to buy a home. He acknowledged his work and commitment to the company and told him the truth and he got it. That probably wouldn’t happen today because numbers are more important than the lives it impacts.

When love is lacking problems ensue. Whether you have means or not. Everything under the heavens belongs to God including wealth. But many of the people who possess it don’t belong to Him. Their perspective on plenty serves the other and society suffers.

The lamp must shine wherever it’s placed. If the Lord has enriched you financially you’re meant to show Christ in that position as a sign for the world. And the same holds true for our talents, gifts and intelligence. There should be no place within our culture that’s dim if we’re present.

Wealth devoid of love is dangerous. As is knowledge, giftedness, talents and intelligence. The impacts may differ to the naked eye but the results can be costly as we’ve seen with education. In all things and all ways we must look above for guidance.

The general principle of alleviating poverty by facilitating self-sufficiency has a long history. The 12th-century philosopher Maimonides wrote about eight degrees in the duty of charity. In 1826 an explication of the eighth degree was published in a journal called “The Religious Intelligencer”.

Lastly, the eighth and the most meritorious of all, is to anticipate charity by preventing poverty, namely, to assist the reduced brother, either by a considerable gift or loan of money, or by teaching him a trade, or by putting him in the way of business, so that he may earn an honest livelihood and not be forced to the dreadful alternative of holding up his hand for charity.
 
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