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Part of me wants to be free of too many possessions and live as simply as possible, but it is hard to let go of things sometimes.
Just don't be a hoarder and you will be fine. My mom was a hoarder and when she died it was a 2 year long nightmare dealing with the huge mess. Too much stuff can help distract you from time thinking about your life at times and not enough stuff. It is better to have less really nice stuff than more mediocre stuff IMO.
 
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Just don't be a hoarder and you will be fine. My mom was a hoarder and when she died it was a 2 year long nightmare dealing with the huge mess. Too much stuff can help distract you from time thinking about your life at times and not enough stuff. It is better to have less really nice stuff than more mediocre stuff IMO.
Oh yeah, that would be especially difficult!! I am sorry that you went through that, sounds really hard! :( :hug: I always have had that thought at the back of my mind, "what if something happened to me, I don't want to leave a bunch of stuff for my family to sort through and feel sad about." Fortunately I don't have as much stuff as I used to. Most of my possessions are in one small bedroom, and with moving everything up more recently, it is a bit cluttered, and there was a bit of family drama over moving my things too, so I am just really craving freedom from my possessions. ^_^ I want to be able to have just enough so that if I ever decided I wanted to up and leave I could throw everything I possess into my car and go. That way I wouldn't feel held down by anything! I have too many books and craft items. I have a lot of pretty dresses and outfits too that I don't wear as much as I'd like. It can be hard to decide what's important and what can go. I was just watching a video about minimalism and one of the most important mindsets to develop is an attitude of contentment for what one already has, so this is my goal. ^_^

I am so sorry for not replying back to people! I feel terrible!! I will do better, I promise!
No need to be sorry! It is always nice to see you when you stop by! :) :hug:

Goodnight, ChocolateVanillaLion!! :) :hug:
 
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Man, I must be special, then, because it felt like Miss @bèlla was coddling me pretty much every time with her words directed toward me. ^_^ .... I like to think they edified rather than weakened me or made me too dependent in any way, though. :)

You needed it and made the shift when required. A new horizon awaits. :)
 
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Just that one sentence that I'll attract her too. It gives me an inner joy and contentment. I know God will take care of it. :)

Your commitment to the truth and growth will draw her. It’s hard to help someone when you have to tiptoe around your words and sidestep their ego. They tie your hands and remain in a rut longer than necessary.

True. I have never considered myself coddled or weakened by your words, on the contrary, your words have given me the encouragement that I needed to handle things head on and it's made a big difference.

Your progress is pleasing. You shouldn’t be in the same place you were six months ago. Telling you what you want to hear is counterproductive. Betterment is the goal. Not appeasement.

Meeting someone who says you’re wonderful isn’t hard. Encountering someone who aids in that quest is best. Don’t be swayed by appearances. Look for impact.

How am I bettered by this person? What has she done on my behalf? If you can’t answer that she’s not a contender. You won’t thrive with the other. You’ll recognize the same as time passes. :)

I won’t be around much. I’m wrapping up projects at home. Message me when you start the book.
 
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I am so sorry for not replying back to people! I feel terrible!! I will do better, I promise!

That's cool, Chelsea. It's nice that you are even being conscientious about that. :)
 
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I can't eat late because of my Acid Reflux! :(:(:(:(

Don't you just hate that when you have an acid relux spell? It feels like you're somehow being strangled ... from the inside. Ugh ....

Omeprazole has done pretty well in lowering the instances of this happening to me, personally, Miss Lion. If it happens to you a lot, you may want to seek out a GI specialist and see if omeprazole would be good for you as well, if you haven't already. :)
 
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Oh, I am relieved to hear it is nothing serious!! :hug: I hope that you feel better very soon!!

Still feel pretty bad, unfortunately, but I think so far it's better than the last two days. :) I may tough it up and just come in to work tonight. I'll the ask the others to steer clear of my area and try not to get me to talk too much since my throat hurts enough as it is. ^_^
 
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I bought Italian Roast Coffee with hints of chocolate in it! It tastes good! I add cream and sugar and caramel flavor. :):):):)^_^^_^^_^^_^ My Mom said we can keep buying the Italian Roast Coffee! :ebil::ebil::ebil::ebil::cheer::cheer::cheer::cheer:
 
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Still feel pretty bad, unfortunately, but I think so far it's better than the last two days. :) I may tough it up and just come in to work tonight. I'll the ask the others to steer clear of my area and try not to get me to talk too much since my throat hurts enough as it is. ^_^
Aww, that's no fun!!! Sore throats can be the worst!!! I hope you feel better soon! :hug:

I bought Italian Roast Coffee with hints of chocolate in it! It tastes good! I add cream and sugar and caramel flavor. :):):):)^_^^_^^_^^_^ My Mom said we can keep buying the Italian Roast Coffee! :ebil::ebil::ebil::ebil::cheer::cheer::cheer::cheer:
Sounds delicious!!! :)

I hope everyone has a blessed Sunday! God bless you all!
Many blessings to you as well today, Saucy! :hug:
 
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Oh yeah, that would be especially difficult!! I am sorry that you went through that, sounds really hard! :( :hug: I always have had that thought at the back of my mind, "what if something happened to me, I don't want to leave a bunch of stuff for my family to sort through and feel sad about." Fortunately I don't have as much stuff as I used to. Most of my possessions are in one small bedroom, and with moving everything up more recently, it is a bit cluttered, and there was a bit of family drama over moving my things too, so I am just really craving freedom from my possessions. ^_^ I want to be able to have just enough so that if I ever decided I wanted to up and leave I could throw everything I possess into my car and go. That way I wouldn't feel held down by anything! I have too many books and craft items. I have a lot of pretty dresses and outfits too that I don't wear as much as I'd like. It can be hard to decide what's important and what can go. I was just watching a video about minimalism and one of the most important mindsets to develop is an attitude of contentment for what one already has, so this is my goal. ^_^


No need to be sorry! It is always nice to see you when you stop by! :) :hug:


Goodnight, ChocolateVanillaLion!! :) :hug:

You don't really have that much at all. Minimalism why it may sound good it can lead you to being more detached from long term relationships I would think as the idea you can easily just pull up stakes and move on with whoever you are around while it is freeing it also can be a way to escape situations that would force you to mature in ways that can profit you later in life. I think hoarding and minimalism are both somewhat extremes to what the average person should do. Minimalism can be useful to combat hoarding for sure but hoarding is more problematic in the end. People who end up with very little can become more dependent on relationships that often are unhealthy as they can constantly need even simple things to live. I recommend a moderate approach at first that later is fine tuned to match logical life decisions.
Regardless of how much you will have to move those who want drama will likely over dramatize things while those who are concerned more about you will just help you when time comes offering suggestions more than criticism and griping. I've helped move a few people with a lot of stuff and to be honest moving boxes of stuff to me was not a huge deal it was moving large items that were the issue like couches and king size beds and large desks and side by side fridges and large tables they can take a lot more effort than well packed quality boxes of things. In moving having boxes that are the same size for the most part greatly helps in transporting them as they can stack better and higher. I recently had to help unpack a large and small uhaul into a large storage container about 40 feet long and luckily they hired a crew of young men to do most of the work as even though I'm in fairly good shape being a lot older I tend to recover from extreme working conditions a lot slower than a 20 year old does. If your family can't manage a small room full of stuff on your behalf they need to get some counseling for sure..... or a membership to a local gym as unless you got no young men or even middle aged men in decent shape for the big stuff and you aren't a total wimp that can't lift a 35 lb box of stuff and carry it all the way out to a pickup truck there shouldn't be that much of an issue.
 
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