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You don't really have that much at all. Minimalism why it may sound good it can lead you to being more detached from long term relationships I would think as the idea you can easily just pull up stakes and move on with whoever you are around while it is freeing it also can be a way to escape situations that would force you to mature in ways that can profit you later in life. I think hoarding and minimalism are both somewhat extremes to what the average person should do. Minimalism can be useful to combat hoarding for sure but hoarding is more problematic in the end. People who end up with very little can become more dependent on relationships that often are unhealthy as they can constantly need even simple things to live. I recommend a moderate approach at first that later is fine tuned to match logical life decisions.
Regardless of how much you will have to move those who want drama will likely over dramatize things while those who are concerned more about you will just help you when time comes offering suggestions more than criticism and griping. I've helped move a few people with a lot of stuff and to be honest moving boxes of stuff to me was not a huge deal it was moving large items that were the issue like couches and king size beds and large desks and side by side fridges and large tables they can take a lot more effort than well packed quality boxes of things. In moving having boxes that are the same size for the most part greatly helps in transporting them as they can stack better and higher. I recently had to help unpack a large and small uhaul into a large storage container about 40 feet long and luckily they hired a crew of young men to do most of the work as even though I'm in fairly good shape being a lot older I tend to recover from extreme working conditions a lot slower than a 20 year old does. If your family can't manage a small room full of stuff on your behalf they need to get some counseling for sure..... or a membership to a local gym as unless you got no young men or even middle aged men in decent shape for the big stuff and you aren't a total wimp that can't lift a 35 lb box of stuff and carry it all the way out to a pickup truck there shouldn't be that much of an issue.
For me I guess it's more in the sense that I don't like to feel owned by my possessions, and currently being single and in a situation where I'm still deciding what I'm going to do with my life, I just don't want to be held down by my stuff or be too attached to things that won't matter in 5 years from now. ^_^ I'd rather collect memories with people I care about and have more space for creative energy, since I easily become overwhelmed by clutter which discourages me from doing what I really want to do. I completely agree though that there's nothing wrong with having possessions or a little extra stuff to move with you, which can be especially true if one has family and a larger household and such.

I was out shopping a few weeks ago and I caught myself having an attitude I shouldn't have. I found some cute clothes I wanted to try on and a lady cut me off to the dressing room which upset me and made me feel resentful in my heart, but then I realized if these possessions were causing me to sin in my heart then were they really worth it? At what cost? I realized we both were so absorbed with shopping and accumulating more possessions that we forgot about the basics, love and kindness, so in my mind I'd rather live simply than let these things control me. ^_^ I'm not saying it's this way for everyone since I know we all are different and we each have our own battles we struggle with in different ways, but I feel it's one step that's necessary for me personally. :)
 
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I was just wondering how you have been doing since I haven't seen you around as much! Wow, how exciting and looks like such a nice car!!! :clap: :clap: :clap:
Yeah, I kinda forgot about CF for a bit :( But, trying to login more :) And yes, it is a nice car!
 
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For me I guess it's more in the sense that I don't like to feel owned by my possessions, and currently being single and in a situation where I'm still deciding what I'm going to do with my life, I just don't want to be held down by my stuff or be too attached to things that won't matter in 5 years from now. ^_^ I'd rather collect memories with people I care about and have more space for creative energy, since I easily become overwhelmed by clutter which discourages me from doing what I really want to do. I completely agree though that there's nothing wrong with having possessions or a little extra stuff to move with you, which can be especially true if one has family and a larger household and such.

I was out shopping a few weeks ago and I caught myself having an attitude I shouldn't have. I found some cute clothes I wanted to try on and a lady cut me off to the dressing room which upset me and made me feel resentful in my heart, but then I realized if these possessions were causing me to sin in my heart then were they really worth it? At what cost? I realized we both were so absorbed with shopping and accumulating more possessions that we forgot about the basics, love and kindness, so in my mind I'd rather live simply than let these things control me. ^_^ I'm not saying it's this way for everyone since I know we all are different and we each have our own battles we struggle with in different ways, but I feel it's one step that's necessary for me personally. :)
Things we have can be a gift from God so to speak or a curse, it is our attitude that is the main problem. It is probably better that you deal with yourself and have nice things than not deal with yourself and deprive yourself of them because not trying to improve your life and attitude in the end gets you nowhere. We all have things that we really like that makes our enjoyment of life and confidence and innate beauty shine out more brilliantly and in doing so we can attract bugs that like the light but it is better to have to swat bugs than to trip over things in the dark.

I think society today is such that everything is a lot more instant than it was before computers are faster, technology moves information and entertainment around essentially we are overdosed with it if we don't watch it and in that we find ourselves more and more impatient because of our addiction to it on a level. I find it irritating that I feel like I don't exist at times due to smart phones captivating people and I find a huge amount of people suffering because they cannot take a walk in the park and look at what beauty God has made and instead surf the web for pictures and videos of either the same thing or some thing that they are obsessing about.

I think society in general has become very stressful, almost like everyone is caffeinated from the second they wake up they are bouncing off the walls in their mood. Politeness is less and less the norm and it saddens me but I still try to be polite as many people even though they aren't necessarily polite do like it when people are polite to them and if we are all nice to each other..... it can be contagious.
 
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It seems to kind of be up and down in intensity right now, strangely. Ever since I got out of the care center this morning there are moments where I barely feel anything and offhand think that I would be good to go to work tonight after all, and other moments where various pain and irritation from the symptoms seems just as bad as it was all last night.




Watching a kids' horror show on Netflix called "Creeped Out" right now while getting my rest. Apparently a modern-day equivalent of Goosebumps, but with more emphasis on the slow-burn creep factor over intending to be outright scary. There was actually a really good and thoughtful line at the end of the first episode brought to us by the show's creepy-masked-child narrator who introduces to us each strange and macabre tale, as she reflects on the sad plight of this particular episode's protagonist, who literally lost five years of his adolescent life with no memory whatsoever due to a mysterious force called The Paladin that compelled our hero to join him, The Paladin, on a quest in his favorite online game. You could say that the story is ham-fisted by default on account of being yet another obvious gaming-addiction-scare tale, but I think it had some merit and truth to it in the narrator's final line:
"How many 'one more's' will be one too many (referring to the protagonist's titular line everytime he was compelled to lay off of the game: 'One more minute!')? .... Unfortunately the cold truth is that we will never know until we're past the point of no return."

Well played, I would say, :eheh:and can apply well to our own lives as God's children who constantly need Him to hold us back from going past that point of no return. Thanks to Jesus Christ, I believe that it can never happen. His sacrifice at the Cross once for all time accomplished just that. I can believe in no less.:angel:




..... But then of course they had to go and belch out a much stupider line a few episodes later, with some bratty kid in a hotel lobby looking around with disdain and going, "Ugh .... The air here smells like nostril breath."

WHAT?!:destroy:

Goosebumps and Eerie Indiana were cool back in the day. I don't remember what series this was from or maybe I'm mixing a rd series onto it. But this Psycho son stuffed his mom's dog and made it mechanical, so it moved kinda like a wind up toy.

Then I remmeber this other episode , I think this was from Eerie with this mom who put her two sons into this king size tupperware. The shocker was that the two kids were actually adults but was preserved in this king size tupperware.

That episode from Creeped Out sounds cool. It is a good moral to the story. Too bad they went with "nostril breath" in a later episode. Hopefully they will keep the stupid one liners to a minimum.


Man, I must be special, then, because it felt like Miss @bèlla was coddling me pretty much every time with her words directed toward me. ^_^ .... I like to think they edified rather than weakened me or made me too dependent in any way, though. :)

Edified that's a good word, I agree.
Even though I wasn't coddled as you were (Staff Edit):ahah:

Bella's word's directed at one is a special thing. :)


Part of me wants to be free of too many possessions and live as simply as possible, but it is hard to let go of things sometimes.

I can understand that. There will always be something that have sentimental value.
 
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Well I am a sucker for appearances. Mystery woman is a good example. But I will remember to look for impact.

So was I. I gave up a 10. I may share his pic sometime. He had looks, height, intelligence, charisma, and autonomy. His masculinity was on point. He wanted me but he didn’t grovel.

I wanted him too. He was my match in every way. But he didn’t believe in God. I refused to settle and did many rounds with the Holy Spirit. Rejecting marriage outright.

I told Him I wouldn’t settle and I meant it. He dropped a morsel in my lap that was younger, moneyed, and confident. He knew how to handle me and I loved it.

I found the book on ebay. Shipping was a bit steep, but will be worth it. I will message you when I receive the book and start reading it.

Excellent. You’ll be glad you did. :)
 
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I think I have been overdoing it. My "good" knee is starting to go out. It has been in a lot of pain when I walk like the ligaments are strained or something.
 
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So was I. I gave up a 10. I may share his pic sometime. He had looks, height, intelligence, charisma, and autonomy. His masculinity was on point. He wanted me but he didn’t grovel.

I wanted him too. He was my match in every way. But he didn’t believe in God. I refused to settle and did many rounds with the Holy Spirit. Rejecting marriage outright.

I told Him I wouldn’t settle and I meant it. He dropped a morsel in my lap that was younger, moneyed, and confident. He knew how to handle me and I loved it.



Excellent. You’ll be glad you did. :)
So ditch the hero and go out with a zero :cool1:

Wait...:doh:


^_^ JK! JK!
 
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I think I have been overdoing it. My "good" knee is starting to go out. It has been in a lot of pain when I walk like the ligaments are strained or something.
Hope you feel better soon! God bless +
 
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So ditch the hero and go out with a zero :cool1:

Wait...:doh:
^_^ JK! JK!

I chose a different path. Seven years of prayer and sacrifice to see him bettered. I put my life on hold. I didn’t date. I labored.

He had more belief in his pinky than most I encountered. Devoid of religion and complaints. He was naturally strong.

I will never have a weak man. I make no apologies for that.
 
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I chose a different path. Seven years of prayer and sacrifice to see him bettered. I put my life on hold. I didn’t date. I labored.

He had more belief in his pinky than most I encountered. Devoid of religion and complaints. He was naturally strong.

I will never have a weak man. I make no apologies for that.
Nor should you. Weak men create bad times.
 
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