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[bèlla]

This is actually very common. Statistics even show this. When single friends stop being single and get married, they move on. Just like couples with kids stop being friends with couple that don't have kids.
Priorites change depending on what stage people are in.

Sometimes you can bridge the gap when common denominators remain. The 80/20 so to speak. People move in different directions all the time. When similarities wane it takes a lot of effort to keep the bond in place.

Some people segment their connections as a workaround. School friends, work, church, running buddies, etc.

 

[Vinter]

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[DragonFox91]

No not at all. On the contrary. What I am saying is you are not the problem in this situation.
It's just the way things are.

In the articles I have read.
Couples drop single friends because they want to do other things with couples. like going out together and talk about couple stuff.

Couples with kids can't always find a sitter or the kids gets sick and they have to cancel.

Couples with no kids get annoyed when the couples bring their kids ot talk about their kids all the time.

Couples that have a hard time conceiving have an even harder time being around couples with kids because they feel they are missing out.

Okay good. Thanks so much. I don't really talk to my parents about this stuff but they completely understood when I told them I wasn't sure about trying to befriend my coupled neighbors. I can think of other examples as well when I told people 'I'm not sure I want to be friends w/ them, they are married' & who I told completely understood.

I think my issue is it stems from couples I wanted to be w/ & they didn't want to.

 

[DragonFox91]

I am so sorry for raining on this thread btw. Please forgive me all! I remember I'd lurk in this thread occasionally & everyone would be laughing & such & I am ruining that.

 

[Vinter]

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[bèlla]

Sure but is is alot harder as you say. But if the bond is there and it's a good friendship, then the friendship will still be there.

Growth is a bigger impediment than season. Inequity is uncomfortable for most. While you can’t relate on the companionship front there are other places where you align. When that shifts its impossible to surmount without compromise and diminishment (on some level).

Being single doesn’t make you apples and oranges unless the whole of your focus is on that subject. If you’re forward thinking and preparing for future companionship, personal growth, and deepening your relationship with God you’ll be fine.

The reverse holds true for couples. If the bulk of your conversation is marital problems it grows tiresome after awhile. Especially for singles. Consideration is key.

When you get outside your head you realize the world keeps turning. Whether you’re up or down it keeps moving. You discover the wisdom of adjusting your outlook, letting things roll off your shoulders, and redirecting your thoughts.

 

[GodAndChocolateVanilla]

I give up on trying to find a husband. There is no man that would want to be with me.

 

[GodAndChocolateVanilla]

I had Hibachi Noodles and Mango Bubble Tea today!

 

[DragonFox91]

I give up on trying to find a husband. There is no man that would want to be with me.

Why would you say that!! Don't say that!! Cheer up buttercup lol

 

[GodAndChocolateVanilla]

Why would you say that!! Don't say that!!

Because it's true. There is no man that wants to be with me.

 

[GodAndChocolateVanilla]

I feel sad. I wish there was a man that wanted to be with me.

 

[DragonFox91]

Because it's true. There is no man that wants to be with me.

you don't know that!

 

[GodAndChocolateVanilla]

Sorry if I say the same things a lot. I am just venting.

 

[GodAndChocolateVanilla]

Online dating was a disaster. There were only men that wanted to hook up. None of them were looking for a relationship.

 

[mojoboy31]

One associate is going to be gone for two weeks because their daughter is moving across the country with her four boys, and my associate is terrified (understandably) to have them drive it all the way by themselves, so she's decided for the sake of her own sanity, she's going to tag along and then fly herself back. So I will be pulling six day work weeks until she gets back.

My other associate is currently sick and has missed two days and just let me know they aren't going to be able to make it in tomorrow. So I'm gonna also be by myself for a few days at least.

Hoping she's feeling better by the time the doc comes back on Tuesday, otherwise I'm a little doomed here

 

[bèlla]

I feel sad. I wish there was a man that wanted to be with me.

How would being with someone change that?

 

[GodAndChocolateVanilla]

Being single is not fun.

 

[GodAndChocolateVanilla]

How would being with someone change that?

I would feel happy if I was with someone. I wouldn't be lonely anymore.

 

[Saucy]

Because it's true. There is no man that wants to be with me.

Have you talked to all of them or are you just being dramatic?

 

[GodAndChocolateVanilla]

Have you talked to all of them or are you just being dramatic?

I'm not being dramatic. Every man I talk to doesn't want to be with me.