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[Saucy]

At church last night the couple sitting in front of us was VERY cuddly. I felt so horrible. @VCR-2000 I know that's something that frustrates you too. When you go to church & all the couples so cuddly & loving, like God is trying to rub it in our faces. I tried to think of the community on here offering me hugs when I whine here & that helped some. I thought of (was it an article I was reading or someone posted here?) how couples control & make up the majority of chuches even tho Paul hi-lighted all the virtues of being single.

This morning I found out my cousins are having another baby. It feels like my heart got ripped out. I wish I hadn't been told. I've never even been on a date. What am I going to do when I'm 40-50-60?


I want to be married so much! But I want to elope too! If she wants a big wedding w/ 1000 guests she's probably not the one for me!


EDIT: a wedding w/ just immediate family would be okay too!

I don't know brother, I'd kind of find a way to work on that animosity you have towards other couples. It's not something you will be able to escape. Instead, celebrate them and rejoice in it. Marriage is important to God and to the church. This would fall under coveting.

 

[DragonFox91]

I feel so horrible. Is something wrong w/ me?

I don't know brother, I'd kind of find a way to work on that animosity you have towards other couples. It's not something you will be able to escape. Instead, celebrate them and rejoice in it. Marriage is important to God and to the church. This would fall under coveting.

Right & no kidding

 

[DragonFox91]

What's it mean when you're 30 & never dated but have always wanted to? Does it mean something's wrong w/ you?

 

[DragonFox91]

It's quiet on here this morning! I got today off! I wish the library would say my DVD is in!

 

[angelsaroundme]

What's it mean when you're 30 & never dated but have always wanted to? Does it mean something's wrong w/ you?

There are a couple reasons that might happen. Such as a person who moves a lot when they are young, so it is difficult to get close to people. Or they passed up opportunities for one reason or another, like thinking God wants them to wait for their twenties, or they're just not ready yet, or the people that might have given them a shot are wrong for them. Then sometimes luck plays a part. Someone with a small social circle could wind up in a spot where they are the only single person. These are just a few of the potential causes.

 

[Saucy]

What's it mean when you're 30 & never dated but have always wanted to? Does it mean something's wrong w/ you?

I don't think there's anything wrong with that or anything wrong with you. It's almost a sign of the times. I know a lot of Christians in their 30s and 40s who are single. As @angelsaroundme said, some people just find themselves in the right place at the right time and meet the love of their life. Others might date for years and just not find the one they're looking for.

Everyone is different. It's best not to compare yourself to others. You're on your own journey. If you're eager to start dating, put yourself out there more.

 

[Vinter]

Can't believe it will be one and a half week from now that I will be taking my long break from social media and CF during the lent season till Easter.

Unfortunately by that time all my notifications will disappear as they did last year. There are four people on CF with birthdays that I will be missing out on wishing a happy birthday till then.

I have never heard of this before. I googled it and I get that it's to replicate Jesus 40 day fasting in the desert. I find that very interesting.

Are there other things apart from not being on social media and CF to hold back from?
what are the does and don'ts?

I found this list.
What to give up for Lent:

• Don't buy anything that you don't NEED.
• 2- Throw Away 40 things for 40 days.
• 3- 40 Days of home Organization.
• 4- No Gossiping.
• Work out daily to take care of the body God gave you.
• 6- Don't Eat After Dinner.
• 7- Give Up Soda for Lent.
• Say 3 Nice Things to Your Spouse & Kids Daily.

Are there other things? Does the does and don't differ from person to person?

 

[Rene Loup]

Interesting times we live in, eh? Sending prayers.

Thank you. God bless!

Yep, that Chinese curse: "May you live in interesting times." The Book of Revelation is certainly one of the most interesting books of The Holy Bible, eh?

Praying brother!

Thank you. I appreciate this. God bless!

 

[Somber]

I feel so horrible. Is something wrong w/ me?


Right & no kidding

What's it mean when you're 30 & never dated but have always wanted to? Does it mean something's wrong w/ you?

I think we are all humans with different struggles in life and such. I don't think there's anything wrong with you!!! Don't be too hard on yourself!!! I will be 30 soon and I've never really been in a real relationship. I've had people tell me that they can't believe I'm still single or similar things, but I don't think it's always that simple, haha! I could say that I have bad luck when it comes to dating, but I like to think that God is protecting me from relationships that I'm not meant to be in. So much involves the right timing and our relationship with ourselves and such i think.

 

[Saucy]

I think we are all humans with different struggles in life and such. I don't think there's anything wrong with you!!! Don't be too hard on yourself!!! I will be 30 soon and I've never really been in a real relationship. I've had people tell me that they can't believe I'm still single or similar things, but I don't think it's always that simple, haha! I could say that I have bad luck when it comes to dating, but I like to think that God is protecting me from relationships that I'm not meant to be in. So much involves the right timing and our relationship with ourselves and such i think.

I think of it that way as well. Either I'm not ready or the person I'm meant to be with isn't ready or whatever it is. I may THINK I'm ready because it's what I desire, but I thought I was ready years ago at a time when I was at my worst and certainly wasn't marriage material by any means. I stopped looking at it from that point of view and now I'm content with whatever state I'm in. Sure, I want a relationship, but I'd rather be in the right relationship with the right person at the right time instead of just dating around until something sticks.

 

[Vinter]

I think we are all humans with different struggles in life and such. I don't think there's anything wrong with you!!! Don't be too hard on yourself!!! I will be 30 soon and I've never really been in a real relationship. I've had people tell me that they can't believe I'm still single or similar things, but I don't think it's always that simple, haha! I could say that I have bad luck when it comes to dating, but I like to think that God is protecting me from relationships that I'm not meant to be in. So much involves the right timing and our relationship with ourselves and such i think.

If you don't mind me asking something personal?
It says "Other religion" to the left under your avatar. What religion are you part of?

 

[DragonFox91]

I don't think there's anything wrong with that or anything wrong with you. It's almost a sign of the times. I know a lot of Christians in their 30s and 40s who are single. As @angelsaroundme said, some people just find themselves in the right place at the right time and meet the love of their life. Others might date for years and just not find the one they're looking for.

Everyone is different. It's best not to compare yourself to others. You're on your own journey. If you're eager to start dating, put yourself out there more.

It seems the opposite - lots of Christians I know are married, non-believers stay single. It makes it hard for a believer like me to date. & the believers married young. Did I sin too much & that's why they got married & I don't even get dates?

 

[Somber]

Today I woke up and was determined to have a positive morning. Sometimes between both my parents it's a little hard. I feel like they don't respect me and it really came out over the weekend....completely ignored my wishes and such. This morning some more things happened so i feel a bit discouraged. I regret my decision to move back, but I feel so responsible for my little niece. Part of me wants to just get rid of everything and move across the world now, idk.

 

[Saucy]

It seems the opposite - lots of Christians I know are married, non-believers stay single. It makes it hard for a believer like me to date. & the believers married young. Did I sin too much & that's why they got married & I don't even get dates?

Yeah my area might just be a bit different. I know A TON of single Christians, and many of them were attractive and you'd wonder why in the world they're single, but again, it goes beyond just being attractive. My best friend is single. He's a good-looking guy, makes great money, lives on a lake, and is one of the best people I know. He's our church's children's director and the kids love him. Why is he single? I don't know, but he's in his mid-40s now and is just busy living his life.

Again, just because you're single doesn't mean there's anything wrong with you or that you sinned. You just have to channel that anger and frustration.

 

[Cute Peonies]

What's it mean when you're 30 & never dated but have always wanted to? Does it mean something's wrong w/ you?

There's nothing wrong with you. Hang in there! You'll meet your person at the right time. Keep praying. ^^

I think we are all humans with different struggles in life and such. I don't think there's anything wrong with you!!! Don't be too hard on yourself!!! I will be 30 soon and I've never really been in a real relationship. I've had people tell me that they can't believe I'm still single or similar things, but I don't think it's always that simple, haha! I could say that I have bad luck when it comes to dating, but I like to think that God is protecting me from relationships that I'm not meant to be in. So much involves the right timing and our relationship with ourselves and such i think.

I'm approaching 30 too Sometimes it scares me because I don't feel like the "responsible adult" I'm supposed to be.

Today I woke up and was determined to have a positive morning. Sometimes between both my parents it's a little hard. I feel like they don't respect me and it really came out over the weekend....completely ignored my wishes and such. This morning some more things happened so i feel a bit discouraged. I regret my decision to move back, but I feel so responsible for my little niece. Part of me wants to just get rid of everything and move across the world now, idk.

I moved back too and it was a good idea at first but now I need to move out lol

Hope everything's fine with your parents

 

[DragonFox91]

I wonder why God doesn't want me to date. What does he know I don't?

Yeah my area might just be a bit different. I know A TON of single Christians, and many of them were attractive and you'd wonder why in the world they're single, but again, it goes beyond just being attractive. My best friend is single. He's a good-looking guy, makes great money, lives on a lake, and is one of the best people I know. He's our church's children's director and the kids love him. Why is he single? I don't know, but he's in his mid-40s now and is just busy living his life.

Again, just because you're single doesn't mean there's anything wrong with you or that you sinned. You just have to channel that anger and frustration.

Wowzers! How on earth is he single?!?!?!?!? A children's director who lives on a lake?!?!?!?!?!?!? I bet he at least goes on dates tho?

 

[Saucy]

I wonder why God doesn't want me to date. What does he know I don't?

Wowzers! How on earth is he single?!?!?!?!? A children's director who lives on a lake?!?!?!?!?!?!? I bet he at least goes on dates tho?

He hasn't in a very long time. I think there's something to getting older and so those hormones slow down a bit and you get stuck in your ways. I've been single so long it would be hard for me to suddenly change my whole life around to accommodate someone, like sharing my bed (I'm not talking about the fun part, but dealing with someone hogging the covers, etc). Maybe my future wife won't like football. Would I have to give up my Sunday afternoons watching my Broncos? I'd rather be single! Lol

 

[Somber]

There's nothing wrong with you. Hang in there! You'll meet your person at the right time. Keep praying. ^^



I'm approaching 30 too Sometimes it scares me because I don't feel like the "responsible adult" I'm supposed to be.



I moved back too and it was a good idea at first but now I need to move out lol

Hope everything's fine with your parents

I feel you completely there!!!! I still feel like a big child at heart!!! I don't think we ever really grow up, we just gain experience with age. I think most adults are just big kids in denial!

Aww, yeah, I feel you!!! Family is good, but also our independence and such are important too!!!

Thank you kindly!!!

 

[DragonFox91]

How come no one helps? (not on here, people I know in person)

 

[DragonFox91]

I want to cry