What's on your mind?

[bèlla]

This last one called herself my "fiancee" though.

Did you propose?

 

[Tone]

Did you propose?

Yeah!

 

[sampa]

@sampa

I received an email about a one day sale on prayer plaanners and thought of you. They’re half price and come in daily and weekly versions.

Thanks for thinking of me. I have found some cheaper ways over time to buy journals that I turn into prayer journals. I usually stay at the price point of $3-5. I have a specific type that I have bought over time that is specific type of paper and hardback. It has to be lined a certain way and no spiral bound. Every once in awhile I will find a deal on Amazon. But lately I've been finding a local overstock store that has good prices. I guess I do have a few variations. Some of it was trial and error. My prayer journals go back to 1996. You have a good memory.

 

[bèlla]

Yeah!

Perhaps delaying would have been better.

 

[sampa]

Has ever anyone ever had a day where a co-worker or someone relationally you thought things weren't going to work out... Maybe they had some attitude or something, and the Holy Spirit told you things would work out and gave you wisdom or discernment about the situation that you could have peace, before the person apologized for their behavior or an explanation?

 

[Tone]

Perhaps delaying would have been better.

Well, she did say yes...

 

[bèlla]

Has ever anyone ever had a day where a co-worker or someone relationally you thought things weren't going to work out... Maybe they had some attitude or something, and the Holy Spirit told you things would work out and gave you wisdom or discernment about the situation that you could have peace, before the person apologized for their behavior or an explanation?

Yes. Many times. One situation stands out. I parted ways with someone. Reconciliation seemed impossible. I had a lot of guilt and regret. I kept my feelings within. That was part of the problem.

But one of my friends said something I never forgot. She said lovely, it isn’t done. You’ll find your way back to one another. She was the lone one who felt that and she affirmed it many times.

I was in the synagogue then. I don’t know. But there was something about her certainty that calmed my heart and gave me hope. Two years later it came to pass just as she said. And he apologized.

 

[bèlla]

Well, she did say yes...

But you’re apart. She wasn’t all-in yet.

cara and I made a vow years ago. One day I may share what we said. The promise was enough and all.

If the person could agree and walk away the yoke wasn’t set. The manacle wasn’t in. They weren’t etched just yet. When you are bolting is painful. You find your way home and reach the point where departing isn’t an option.

You’re stuck.

 

[Tone]

But you’re apart. She wasn’t all-in yet.

cara and I made a vow years ago. One day I may share what we said. The promise was enough and all.

If the person could agree and walk away the yoke wasn’t set. The manacle wasn’t in. They weren’t etched just yet. When you are bolting is painful. You find your way home and reach the point where departing isn’t an option.

You’re stuck.

Yeah, I believe this is why I couldn't seem to reengage when she reached out again (after she said it was a mistake and sent me away once when she didn't like my tone...).

She had already wavered.

 

[Tone]

Perhaps delaying would have been better.

Yeah, at this point, I'm not playing around...I asked her like two or three days after we met.

*First time I ever proposed

 

[Tone]

First time I ever proposed

I might hold records for fastest proposal and disengagement.

 

[bèlla]

Yeah, I believe this is why I couldn't seem to reengage when she reached out again (after she said it was a mistake and sent me away once when she didn't like my tone...).

She had already wavered.

However….

You’ve spent awhile addressing this. Are you sure you made the right decision? You can’t expect lifelong devotion in early days. That happens as the years pass.

 

[bèlla]

I might hold records for fastest proposal and disengagement.

That’s too fast in my opinion. Unless you’ve known her a long time beforehand.

 

[Tone]

I don't really consider it a mistake though.

Not everybody can put their money where their mouth is so to speak.

 

[Tone]

However….

You’ve spent awhile addressing this. Are you sure you made the right decision? You can’t expect lifelong devotion in early days. That happens as the years pass.

Right decision about what?

 

[bèlla]

I don't really consider it a mistake though.

Not everybody can put their money where their mouth is so to speak.

No they can’t. But swift unions can have painful downsides. If you want forever it’s good to know what you’re getting. You can’t gauge that in a few days or weeks for that matter.

Right decision about what?

Not reconciling. Relationships break. But the best are rekindled in a better state than the original.

 

[Tone]

Not reconciling. Relationships break. But the best are rekindled in a better state than the original.

I would marry her and remain with her for life.

 

[bèlla]

I would marry her and remain with her for life.

Is she unwilling? Have you known her less than a year? Less than 6 months?

 

[Tone]

Is she unwilling? Have you known her less than a year? Less than 6 months?

Ha ha, I proposed after we'd known each other less than a week.

Know this though...

It wasn't as though I was going off nothing...she did her part to draw it out.

She was really aggressive in getting it started and to that point.

I obliged her, because I was like let's go...let's take the land in faith, but she turned back.

 

[Tone]

There is one important detail that I don't want to speak on publicly though...