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Also. The world has gone nuts. The idea of buying a large plot of land out west in WY and getting away from the hysteria is increasingly becoming more likely for me.
I hear you. The place I have in mind is just outside of Asheville, NC.

Lower cost of living, more land, less light polution for stargazing, finding an old farmhouse that's well built and has character, maybe even growing some crops etc. Plus, it wouldn't be too far from civilization. If I want to attend events or get involved with art and music scenes, that would still be an option. It also looks like there are some great mountain bike trails in the area. To pay the bills, I could remote tech support or offer consulting services from home.

None of this is set in stone, but it's fun to think about.
 
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I hear you. The place I have in mind is just outside of Asheville, NC.

Lower cost of living, more land, less light polution for stargazing, finding an old farmhouse that's well built and has character, maybe even growing some crops etc. Plus, it wouldn't be too far from civilization. If I want to attend events or get involved with art and music scenes, that would still be an option. It also looks like there are some great mountain bike trails in the area. To pay the bills, I could remote tech support or offer consulting services from home.

None of this is set in stone, but it's fun to think about.

That sounds idyllic. And ironically I'll be visiting Asheville next week, but I'll be staying just outside the city on a horse ranch. Looking forward to unplugging out in the country for a few days.

Anyway. You just definitely put more thought into that idea. It sounds promising.
 
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I really like Colin Smith's 'Unlocking the Bible' broadcasts that air on the Moody radio network. His Christ-exalting messages are very inspiring. Here is a Christmas time message I edited and uploaded to Youtube a few years ago that he preached.


 
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Happy High Five Day to everyone here!

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I wonder if the reason God wants me single my whole life is to care for my cousin w/ cerebral palsy when my aunt & uncle pass & they no longer can care for him. I just don't understand why I couldn't do that w/ a girl too.
 
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I wonder if the reason God wants me single my whole life is to care for my cousin w/ cerebral palsy when my aunt & uncle pass & they no longer can care for him. I just don't understand why I couldn't do that w/ a girl too.

But why assume your current single state is somehow a guarantee that your future state will be exactly the same? In every single relationship I've been in, I was single before the day that I wasn't. I never saw it coming (alas).

So, you have no idea what the future holds. You could be miserable over nothing. Who knows, you might actually be less miserable now, than you perhaps will be in a future relationship. Trust me, that can happen.

But, yes, you could care for your cousin while in a relationship (assuming your significant other is on board).
 
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But why assume your current single state is somehow a guarantee that your future state will be exactly the same? In every single relationship I've been in, I was single before the day that I wasn't. I never saw it coming (alas).

So, you have no idea what the future holds. You could be miserable over nothing. Who knows, you might actually be less miserable now, than you perhaps will be in a future relationship. Trust me, that can happen.

But, yes, you could care for your cousin while in a relationship (assuming your significant other is on board).
B/c little to nothing to indicate otherwise.
 
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I know it might seem like it will never change, but the future is wide open. It always is. Have you seen some of the couples out there? People of all kinds, shapes, sizes are finding mates. Ugly folks, beautiful folks, folks with six fingers. All of them found somebody for them. I doubt you're the special exception.
 
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I know it might seem like it will never change, but the future is wide open. It always is. Have you seen some of the couples out there? People of all kinds, shapes, sizes are finding mates. Ugly folks, beautiful folks, folks with six fingers. All of them found somebody for them. I doubt you're the special exception.
There are exceptions. I see people 50s+ in same situation as me. That could be me. It seems like it's me.
 
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There are exceptions. I see people 50s+ in same situation as me. That could be me. It seems like it's me.

Okay, fair enough. But don't make it a self-fulfilling prophecy. If you convince yourself you will never be with anyone, you might think and act in ways that contribute to that very outcome.

Think positive. You are going to find someone, and you are the kind of person someone will want to be with. Think that way and act accordingly. You have a lot going for you, I'm sure. Someone out there wants some of that.
 
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Okay, fair enough. But don't make it a self-fulfilling prophecy. If you convince yourself you will never be with anyone, you might think and act in ways that contribute to that very outcome.

Think positive. You are going to find someone, and you are the kind of person someone will want to be with. Think that way and act accordingly. You have a lot going for you, I'm sure. Someone out there wants some of that.
It doesn't work like that.
 
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