What's on your mind?

[bèlla]

Might be useful for a CF movie night or something.

Yeah, Handmaid’s Tale!

 

[bèlla]

Why do men try to get women to chase them? Nothing turns me off more than someone who overestimates his position and fails.

 

[MehGuy]

Yeah, Handmaid’s Tale!

Only if I'm really.. really drunk.. and I don't think anybody wants that.. lol.

Have you tried this Hulu feature before?

 

[bèlla]

Only if I'm really.. really drunk.. and I don't think anybody wants that.. lol.

Have you tried this Hulu feature before?

No.

 

[TenthAveN]

Why do men try to get women to chase them? Nothing turns me off more than someone who overestimates his position and fails.

It might be a need to feel important.

 

[TenthAveN]

Yeah, I'll squeeze it in.

I do like the sound of a soda shop - if there's one thing Americans know it's soda. I'm not regular consumer of the full fat version, but when in Rome NOTHING matters.

The quaint little shops were what fascinated me about Dallas. I bought a longhorn buckled leather belt for $60 which STILL hasn't even begun to show any evidence of wear yet - and I've worn it routinely ever since. I think it might actually go the distance and last thirty years or more.

There’s a couple of antique shops and a pie shop in town square too. Unless they’ve closed by now, though that’s unlikely.

American manufacturing is halfway decent, plus leather is a large part of our culture, historically.

 

[bèlla]

It might be a need to feel important.

Possibly. But it isn’t something I’ll indulge.

 

[TenthAveN]

Possibly. But it isn’t something I’ll indulge.

My counselor and I have determined that I also have a need to feel important, and that’s why I try to do things to make people happy, like working hard and in certain cases pretending to be somebody of not. I think deep down everyone has that need, and it manifests in different ways. It probably would thrill me to know that girls fawn after me, whether I like it or not.

 

[DragonFox91]

Have company coming over. Should keep my mind off my hurting

Well, after a rough morning, my mind cleared when company came over. Then minute company left, started hurting. I hate this. It's never-ending. It's just finding distractions to pretend the pain isn't there.

 

[bèlla]

My counselor and I have determined that I also have a need to feel important, and that’s why I try to do things to make people happy, like working hard and in certain cases pretending to be somebody of not. I think deep down everyone has that need, and it manifests in different ways. It probably would thrill me to know that girls fawn after me, whether I like it or not.

I can’t fawn over someone. Attempts to force my hand will make me turn to men whose self-image compliments my own.

 

[DragonFox91]

I wanted to stay up late, but I'm hurting. IDK, maybe it's best I just go to sleep. It's not a good day

 

[TenthAveN]

I can’t fawn over someone. Attempts to force my hand will make me turn to men whose self-image compliments my own.

As you should. I agree 100%

 

[TenthAveN]

There’s this inexplicable pain in my leg that’s grown over the course of my shift. I don’t believe I’ve done anything to I just myself. Odd.

 

[bèlla]

As you should. I agree 100%

A person will show genuine affection when you’ve earned it and that’s where importance dwells. Adulation is a different spirit. It hails from esteem and is an outgrowth of respect. It takes time to reach that point. Your love and esteem outweighs their failings.

That’s the one you marry.

 

[bèlla]

This looks really entertaining.

Thomas Day, an 18th-century British writer and radical, knew exactly the sort of woman he wanted to marry. Pure and virginal like an English country maid yet tough and hardy like a Spartan heroine, she would live with him in an isolated cottage, completely subservient to his whims.

But after being rejected by a number of spirited young women, Day concluded that the perfect partner he envisioned simply did not exist in frivolous, fashion-obsessed Georgian society. Rather than conceding defeat and giving up his search for the woman of his dreams, however, Day set out to create her.

So begins the extraordinary true story at the heart of How to Create the Perfect Wife, prize-winning historian Wendy Moore’s captivating tale of one man’s mission to groom his ideal mate.

 

[bèlla]

@TenthAveN

Nice pic!

Piggybacking off your comment on the other thread. I don’t think there’s a problem referencing secular sources. I do it myself. But I draw the line at spirituality or teachings that are blatantly against God.

For example, a lot of Christian dating material is written by married people who weren’t searching later in life or attending secular colleges. Many went to Christian schools. Finding a mate in that setting is easier.

They downplay the qualities many are denied for. It presents a faux acceptance which doesn’t pan out in today’s culture. When multiple people acknowledge being turned down over height or weight you can’t ignore it.

The secular book will tell you to hit the gym. The Christian one will give you 1 Peter 3:3. Both are correct but ignoring the first might extend your singleness.

I like practical advice without the isms and slogans. Good stuff that works.

 

[TenthAveN]

@TenthAveN

Nice pic!

Piggybacking off your comment on the other thread. I don’t think there’s a problem referencing secular sources. I do it myself. But I draw the line at spirituality or teachings that are blatantly against God.

For example, a lot of Christian dating material is written by married people who weren’t searching later in life or attending secular colleges. Many went to Christian schools. Finding a mate in that setting is easier.

They downplay the qualities many are denied for. It presents a faux acceptance which doesn’t pan out in today’s culture. When multiple people acknowledge being turned down over height or weight you can’t ignore it.

The secular book will tell you to hit the gym. The Christian one will give you 1 Peter 3:3. Both are correct but ignoring the first might extend your singleness.

I like practical advice without the isms and slogans. Good stuff that works.

Thanks, that’s me back in senior year of high school when I could first dunk. I got my freshman ID stuck in a tree my first year, and told all of my friends that when I was a senior and I could dunk, I’d jump up and get it down...it disappeared at some point.

And yeah, those other personality tests are accurate, and we should be careful about new age spirituality. My bigger problems with the other tests is the answers to the questions seem limited.

 

[bèlla]

Thanks, that’s me back in senior year of high school when I could first dunk. I got my freshman ID stuck in a tree my first year, and told all of my friends that when I was a senior and I could dunk, I’d jump up and get it down...it disappeared at some point.

Are you saying you lost it? Surely you’re still a high flyer.

And yeah, those other personality tests are accurate, and we should be careful about new age spirituality. My bigger problems with the other tests is the answers to the questions seem limited.

I see them as starting points. Like a mirror that provides feedback we’d miss. They can be insightful and help us glimpse our shadow side. You can’t get to the why of behavior without acknowledging its existence.

That’s fascinating to me. If something isn’t working I want to know why. If I’m excelling I want to know the same. To amplify the good and tackle the mistakes. That energizes me.

 

[TenthAveN]

Are you saying you lost it? Surely you’re still a high flyer.



I see them as starting points. Like a mirror that provides feedback we’d miss. They can be insightful and help us glimpse our shadow side. You can’t get to the why of behavior without acknowledging its existence.

That’s fascinating to me. If something isn’t working I want to know why. If I’m excelling I want to know the same. To amplify the good and tackle the mistakes. That energizes me.

I’m 6’4 so it’s not a huge climb to ten feet, but I think I jump considerably high.

It’s always good to know where we can improve. Nobody should remain stagnant.

 

[DragonFox91]

@TenthAveN

Nice pic!

Piggybacking off your comment on the other thread. I don’t think there’s a problem referencing secular sources. I do it myself. But I draw the line at spirituality or teachings that are blatantly against God.

For example, a lot of Christian dating material is written by married people who weren’t searching later in life or attending secular colleges. Many went to Christian schools. Finding a mate in that setting is easier.

They downplay the qualities many are denied for. It presents a faux acceptance which doesn’t pan out in today’s culture. When multiple people acknowledge being turned down over height or weight you can’t ignore it.

The secular book will tell you to hit the gym. The Christian one will give you 1 Peter 3:3. Both are correct but ignoring the first might extend your singleness.

I like practical advice without the isms and slogans. Good stuff that works.

yes yes yes YES YES YES

But I ignore dating advice books entirely. Most spend only a chapter or 2 on actually finding a date & the rest focuses on the actual date or relationship. The one book I found that was all about finding a date was too secular to be worth checking out from the library.