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Not doing well today as far as behaving like a knight goes, everyone. I can blame it on the atmosphere of work in the first place all I want, but ultimately it is my responsibility to be better than that just like it would for anyone else. Please pray for me to be far more exemplary in my words and behavior tomorrow.
Good information. I think the apologist and I have something to look forward to when we can see each other in 2 to 3 years. By then he'll be living in a big city in the south. He's tired of mowing 50% of the hundred acres that he shares with his brother from an inheritance. He says he'll have better opportunities for a church since he likes to be intellectually stimulated.One day classes are commonplace. I'd glean from etiquette books and save courses for things that require hands-on assistance or feedback. Image consultants are another option. They cover similar ground and help with appearance and presentation. That may be a better starting point.
That makes sense and I'm sure that I probably will be like that. I read about a guy that's about 90 that has road stopping Delilah's. If anything I would like to be able to continue at least in my '90s creating some kind of built beauty on some level.When you're twenty it's fine. But you have to make accommodations when older. Raised beds (on legs) are a great example. Look at my pointers post on the Tradwife thread. If gardening is a priority get someone who will. Either they're doing it or always wanted to.
I hope he does too. It's good that you can connect with him.Yes. He writes me every day. He wants to marry. I don't know enough to say he's a catch. But he's kindhearted and polite. Hopefully he'll find the right one.
it's good that you could pick up where you left off and that there's been a maturing during that time of separation.Everything's changed. One day I'm single and the next I'm talking to D. We've been on parallel paths over the last year. God was working behind the scenes to bring us to this point. We're planning a future now. Three years have passed. Time apart didn't lessen the connection. God matured us to strengthen the pairing. There's a greater emphasis on the spiritual too.
This is a great quote!There's a quote by Anain Nin that really describes us.
I, with a deeper instinct, choose a man who compels my strength, who makes enormous demands on me, who does not doubt my courage or my toughness, who does not believe me naïve or innocent, who has the courage to treat me like a woman.
this is interesting and good thinking. It reminds me of growth when you have a coma rather than a period.I needed someone who wasn't afraid to challenge me. Who saw my beauty and a comma; not a period. If he's too enthralled he'll assume that's as good as it gets. When you're on a similar trajectory you're not afraid to raise the bar because you've done the same yourself.
Yes I definitely can agree with that. There are guys in my past that I didn't emotionally or spiritually connect with them but I liked the idea of them. My heart was only broken because it was the ideal rather than something on a deeper level that would be long-lasting. The police officer is one example of that and so is another guy that is special forces that I knew in my Army days. He met his dream girl that was a fitness model and turned her into a christian. 10 years later she is still professing her faith on social media and I'm guessing raising her kids in the church. Both examples ended up with women that were good fits for what they were looking for. And I think I've often met guys that were interested in just the idea of me and didn't really know me on a deeper level.When you're vetting someone the number one question is why? Why do they need a man/woman like me? Why do I need them? Never choose someone who likes the idea of you. They'll never utilize your gifts and talents. You'll be bored.
Good information and some perspective.Some people are collectors. They want to boast. My guy/girl looks like this, is doing this, etc. None of it is benefiting them. It feeds their ego.
By then he'll be living in a big city in the south. He's tired of mowing 50% of the hundred acres that he shares with his brother from an inheritance. He says he'll have better opportunities for a church since he likes to be intellectually stimulated.
That makes sense and I'm sure that I probably will be like that.
it's good that you could pick up where you left off and that there's been a maturing during that time of separation.
My heart was only broken because it was the ideal rather than something on a deeper level that would be long-lasting.
And I think I've often met guys that were interested in just the idea of me and didn't really know me on a deeper level.
All logical things that I knew with my mind even when I was in those present moments, but the heart went another direction.
Thanks I screenshot it for possible later use.You might enjoy this
That's great! It's good to have someone who supports you and fits with what you're already doing.On a happy note, he’ll handle my YouTube channel. He has the technical aptitude to manage it and wants to help. I don’t have to worry about photography, video, editing, marketing, etc. He does it all. And he lives near cara. I’ll get to see her.
Agreed! Big time.Everyone should do some housekeeping. Revisit your decisions and see where you went wrong. Including lost opportunities. So you won’t make the same mistakes.
Beautiful pictures. Thanks for sharing.He visited Stockholm and Reykjavík recently before the EU closed. I saw these photos and thought of you. It’s a beautiful place to run and talk to God.
Anyways, I don't understand what the reason is that certain people have been brought into my life that I have fallen for, but I do think that there is something spiritual going on.. and I guess I will find out when I get to heaven.
On another note if you saw this quote on someone's profile page, what would be your first thoughts?
thanks! Yes I've gone through some of the questions and some revelations came to me last year that it had to do with some painful things that I went through in childhood.You can learn a lot about yourself through your attractions. Why is this person appealing? What’s going on within me or in my life that enables my attraction? Would I feel the same in different circumstances? The last question is telling. We realize a lot of our attractions are situational, circumstantial, or the result of the pain. We don’t really like them.
Yes! Agreed.If you’re honest with yourself you’ll realize you’re going through the motions. It looks like a duck and quacks like one but it isn’t a duck. How do you know the difference? You encounter the real thing. That clears away the cobwebs.
Yes! I'm so glad that things are moving and going somewhere.I told him to come and he arrives next month. There’s something behind the words. You’ve put the idea in motion and there’s an end in sight. You’re not killing time or filling a void. You’re going somewhere.
This was the profile of the girl that the guy I spoke of married. She had that as her background photo about the time they met each other and still for many months after. Older photos of her from maybe two years past don't look as polished as what she does today. Her transformation could have been through workouts... Or maybe some other kind of pricey changes to her exterior or both.It depends on the profile. You can read it as motivation or jealousy.
Yes! I'm so glad that things are moving and going somewhere.
I'm not sure where it was but you said something about a guy that was tired of seeing girls in ripped up jeans
A late 20ish year old person said that she's never seen someone dress like she does so young at that age. I think she was referring to revealing a lot of her assets. I dress young but I'm conservative and fun.
Ahhh, makes sense.That was him talking. I shared what he wrote.
I definitely could benefit from a stylist but it also comes with a price. I've been reinventing little by little year by year my style and trying things that might have been out of my comfort zone before. Last year I started with a focus on accessories, since it's a little bit cheaper. This year I've been continuing that a little bit. I was supposed to focus on shoes this year but I can't afford it at this time. And yes, it's not just about how it makes you look but also revealing a little bit of who you are.Some people have a youthful spirit. Everyone doesn't dress conservatively. The majority could benefit from a stylist. We all want to look our best but don't go about it the right way sometimes.
That's very interesting. As much as a part of me would like to experience something like that, I don't think in my environment that will ever happen. Just being realistic but who knows, I never imagined meeting someone like I did last year and they apologist. The internet has definitely opened up my circles.I like elegant glam but he has a defined aesthetic. He nixed the glam. I don't mind because it's not my responsibility. He's taken it on himself. That's one less thing to worry about.
yes I will never forget one day more than 10 years ago I was in the maintenance field with some guys and I was standing in a hole digging that was up over my waist. A Greek woman in a Mercedes came by and noticed the guys standing around watching me dig. I didn't hear the conversation but she told a guy, and it was someone that had a wife that didn't work and was Baptist, "my man has me kept. He'd never have me doing that". She was kind of scolding the man for standing around watching me. They really weren't, it was just my turn to go in the hole and she happened to be going by. After that moment, I often wondered what it would be like to be kept.Most women dress for their man when they're kept, dating high wage earners, or trying to nab one. The change doesn't surprise me. That's the way its done.
I definitely could benefit from a stylist but it also comes with a price.
That's very interesting. As much as a part of me would like to experience something like that, I don't think in my environment that will ever happen. Just being realistic but who knows, I never imagined meeting someone like I did last year and they apologist. The internet has definitely opened up my circles.
I'm glad that the Lord has gifted you with that unique quality that can adapt to someone that is looking for someone to dress a certain way. There's probably fewer people that are like that today.
I'm pretty sure if I had a husband that wanted me to dress a certain way I would. Most likely I imagine it will be simple things like not wearing mini skirts or daisy dukes (except for some yard work or in the house) in public. I can wear short things but I imagine that if I marry someone Christian he wants me to be conservative.
I didn't hear the conversation but she told a guy, and it was someone that had a wife that didn't work and was Baptist, "my man has me kept. He'd never have me doing that". She was kind of scolding the man for standing around watching me.
I've had to pretty much supply my own means and survival mentality.
True. I'm glad that you can adapt and that it seems second nature to you.It makes him happy. Why would I take it from him? He's willing to fund a wardrobe and the help I require. Why would I deny him? Yes, I'm the fashion person and study image consulting. That doesn't matter. It feeds something within him and I
It's good that you do. As you mentioned it so depends on the guy and what he is looking for. A good relationship should be like that, where he has your best interest and you have his.I want to do it. In return, he's simplifying things to allow me to focus on the Lord's work unencumbered. It's a win/win.
Yes, I already like dresses so it probably wouldn't be a problem. Actually I kind of think that some guys as they pass me when I'm running that they appreciate that I'm wearing a dress when I run. I'm pretty much the only runner that I've seen in a sports dress. There's very few makers that make them except for title nine. I can't afford that and was fortunate to find Columbia at about 60 to 70% off. They are actually much more comfortable than running shorts. As fall comes I will probably go to my running skorts. I really enjoy those because it makes me feel like a tennis player or someone who plays golf.You can't imagine. Every man has preferences. What you assume is fine may be unappealing. Wise women pay attention to this. That's a way of communicating he matters. If he likes you in dresses wear them.
Yes, and the guy that told me about it was embarrassed. Because he kind of feels the same way. But on a positive note he has a high respect for me to this day. A few weeks ago I happen to see someone trimming the trees outside of our district. I told my walking partner hold on that I wanted to compliment him and his crew on what they were doing. I introduced myself and found out that it was his son. He shrieked with delight and was surprised that I was still there. He was just a small boy when I knew him and had met him at his church. Now he's at a management position and travels between 13 counties. Last week while I was walking on our path track, he honked his horn as he went by and later I got to chat with him. He said he talked to his father about me and he only had good things to say about me. That was definitely a compliment, his father is known as the preacher and a lot of guys stay clear of him because of that. But he's a hard worker.She implied the job didn't set aside your womanhood. Tasks like those should be performed by them. That's what a gentleman would do.
There's nothing worse than baby sitting a drunk 33 year old on a night out. He already punched a mate in the face, and then he began walking into the road with his hands in his pockets - before ALMOST getting flattened by a bus. *Twice.*
I had to practically herd him to a safe spot and siphon non-alcoholic fluid into him. And if I had to sit there with him until seven in the morning, then I had to sit with him until seven in the morning - what else can you do when he has three kids at home? Let him hit someone else who isn't a mate?
Now I *know* why I'm a maverick and choose to walk alone 99% of the time. Friends are usually a liability.
True. I'm glad that you can adapt and that it seems second nature to you.
It's good that you do. As you mentioned it so depends on the guy and what he is looking for. A good relationship should be like that, where he has your best interest and you have his.
He said he talked to his father about me and he only had good things to say about me. That was definitely a compliment, his father is known as the preacher and a lot of guys stay clear of him because of that. But he's a hard worker.
Thank you again for your insight, it's always very useful and opens my eyes up to possibilities and the world out there.
There's been a bumblebee hanging around some flowers by our house recently. The first day I saw it, it was flying around visiting the flowers. The second day, it was sitting still on one flower with its head inside the flower. I took a walk and when I came back it was still sitting there. The next day, it was flying around again. So on the second day I told my brother it must have fallen asleep in its food.
Not doing well today as far as behaving like a knight goes, everyone. I can blame it on the atmosphere of work in the first place all I want, but ultimately it is my responsibility to be better than that just like it would for anyone else. Please pray for me to be far more exemplary in my words and behavior tomorrow.
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