What's on your mind?

[bèlla]

I am not well

Are you feeling better today? I hope so.

 

[bèlla]

Almost to the end of my long string of work days. Starting tomorrow morning, there are only 2 left. Please pray for me to make it through without trouble, especially with, well, Nel around, as he has been on the rampage as of late (more so than average, I mean =/ ).

I hope all goes well and he remains quiet. How he continues to be surly is beyond me. I'm sure you'll do fine.

 

[DragonFox91]

Are you feeling better today? I hope so.

not really

Physically, or ... well ... you know ... bad times have fallen on you?

mentally

 

[bèlla]

not really

I'm sorry. I pray the Lord gives you peace and the desire of your heart.

 

[bèlla]

Stability, above all, I guess.

Someone who doesn't need their partner to be completely tuned into their frequency, all the time.

I don't enjoy the "walking on eggshells" trip...nothing gets accomplished.

Understandable. That gets tiresome. Orbit types are like that. They want everything to revolve around them. They're too demanding.

 

[DragonFox91]

Nashville would be fun, or Florida, but honestly, if I were to leave this area, I think about the northern part of my state too. Only problem is I imagine hunting is very big there & I don't hunt & have no interest to. My friend's trying to get me into fishing so maybe after I learn how to fish good?

 

[bèlla]

Nashville would be fun, or Florida, but honestly, if I were to leave this area, I think about the northern part of my state too. Only problem is I imagine hunting is very big there & I don't hunt & have no interest to. My friend's trying to get me into fishing so maybe after I learn how to fish good?

Nashville has a nice Christian culture from what I've heard. Younger singles and families. It could be a good place to build connections.

Fishing is fun. Some love fly fishing. You should give it a go. Don't worry about hunting. You don't have to do that.

 

[bèlla]

Agape makes all the difference. When you're loving from flesh you'll have problems. Agape covers a multitude of sins.

 

[Tone]

Understandable. That gets tiresome. Orbit types are like that. They want everything to revolve around them. They're too demanding.

Yeah, it was understood that one of my love languages is touch, so I enjoy cuddling and such. It turns out that she is also a toucher (ha ha), so we enjoyed that thoroughly.

It kind of seemed like it was keeping us from accomplishing some tasks though, so I told her that we should condition ourselves to getting things done during the day and come together later on, and she was like yeah, but she also needed some of that kind of loving throughout the day as well, which I didn't mind...you know, like a quick hug session.

However, this seemed to spill over into other areas, like whenever she had any kind of concern that I was maybe out of tune, or something. I guess it pretty much boiled down to whenever she didn't like something. Then, it was like, she wanted everything to stop so we could sit down and talk...well, I should say, so she could...

I was like, what are we doing, we just made plans to do something else! It even got to the point where she was like, everything should stop if she had an issue, until we sat down and she expressed it and I...obeyed...I guess, ha ha.

 

[bèlla]

I was like, what are we doing, we just made plans to do something else! It even got to the point where she was like, everything should stop if she had an issue, until we sat down and she expressed it and I...obeyed...I guess, ha ha.

Wow. You're good. That wouldn't fly with me.

I'd be curious about her upbringing. That level of neediness isn't the norm. Something's lacking. It could due to loneliness, too much isolation, lack of attention or affection, not being heard, etc.

It's a combination of clinginess and brattiness. Girls like that usually want a daddy. Not a real daddy. They're looking for some of the qualities you'd associate with the bond. The spoiled princess...apple of his eye...and so on.

ETA: And tantrums. Lots and LOTS of tantrums.

I was friends with someone who had a girl like that. We became friends too. I told him to break her from it and stop feeding it. I said you'll regret it later on. They dated 4 years l/d and married when he graduated. Sure enough, it became a problem. He started putting his foot down. But she was bucking. He allowed it too long.

 

[LonelyAdams]

Honestly lately Ive just been thinking about my life a lot. I'm 28, I always figured I would be married and starting to think about having children by now. Instead I just finished college last year, still don't have a job, and my life has been one of constant pain do to recurring health problems. I'm starting to think I"ll never get out of my moms house. Ive worked here or there but its hard to hold down a job with my health problems and of course that means its hard to have my own place.

It could be a lot worse, I'm lucky to have family to help support me while I go through this stuff but its still really depressing. I mean how can you even think of starting a family if you can't even take care of yourself? Ive worked my butt off and have nothing to show for it. I'm not exactly a catch when it comes to dating either. An unemployed guy with a lot of health problems, yeah women are really lining up for that one.

 

[Tone]

Wow. You're good. That wouldn't fly with me.

I'd be curious about her upbringing. That level of neediness isn't the norm. Something's lacking. It could due to loneliness, too much isolation, lack of attention or affection, not being heard, etc.

It's a combination of clinginess and brattiness. Girls like that usually want a daddy. Not a real daddy. They're looking for some of the qualities you'd associate with the bond. The spoiled princess...apple of his eye...and so on.

ETA: And tantrums. Lots and LOTS of tantrums.

I was friends with someone who had a girl like that. We became friends too. I told him to break her from it and stop feeding it. I said you'll regret it later on. They dated 4 years l/d and married when he graduated. Sure enough, it became a problem. He started putting his foot down. But she was bucking. He allowed it too long.

Still married?

I figure things will have to be worked out either way.

Say everything is in place before marriage...both checklists are beautifully precise.

There's all kinds of unexpected challenges that may still arise. In fact, these ones that you don't even see coming may be even more devastating, because they just came out of the blue. The stuff that's known about at the beginning aren't some rude awakening.

So, I think it's all the same in the rinse.

 

[GospelS]

Honestly lately Ive just been thinking about my life a lot. I'm 28, I always figured I would be married and starting to think about having children by now. Instead I just finished college last year, still don't have a job, and my life has been one of constant pain do to recurring health problems. I'm starting to think I"ll never get out of my moms house. Ive worked here or there but its hard to hold down a job with my health problems and of course that means its hard to have my own place.

It could be a lot worse, I'm lucky to have family to help support me while I go through this stuff but its still really depressing. I mean how can you even think of starting a family if you can't even take care of yourself? Ive worked my butt off and have nothing to show for it. I'm not exactly a catch when it comes to dating either. An unemployed guy with a lot of health problems, yeah women are really lining up for that one.

Take heart @LonelyAdams

Psalm 116
Gracious is the Lord, and righteous; our God is merciful.
The Lord preserves the simple; when I was brought low, He saved me.
Return, O my soul, to your rest; for the Lord Has dealt bountifully with you.

 

[bèlla]

Still married?

Yes they are.

I figure things will have to be worked out either way.

You’ll always have things to work on as a pair.

The point is simple. Don’t marry people with qualities you can’t live with. A lot of marital problems stem from behavior that was already present. That’s why people ask what they were like while dating. There’s usually a sign.

The consequence may be unexpected as you’ve mentioned. But when you go under the hood you usually find a preexisting issue. Especially with serious stuff.

I believe in total honesty and the right to make informed decisions. I don’t agree with hiding things “under the blood.” But that perspective isn’t common. People hide a lot.

I recall an incident along these lines. A guy expressed interest in me. He shared his feelings and desire for a future together. But the Holy Spirit pulled his card. He said, he hasn’t told you everything. He was holding something back. I’m uncertain if he planned to tell me later or down the road.

But the Lord wasn’t having it. Whatever he was holding back was serious. I had an increasing uneasiness and an ominous feeling that wouldn’t abate. My spirit was disturbed and wouldn’t settle. When I stepped back it stopped. That only happens when someone tries to deceive me. I have a physical reaction and internal alarm that goes telling me to beware.

Staying close Him is important. But you know that.

 

[sampa]

Lunchtime thoughts: Thinking about the good fellowship I had yesterday on a run with a long time friend. And how she has influenced me in that conversation with striving for that alone time with the Lord. Thinking about spiritual warfare and all the distractions.

Also thinking a lot about the reunion I went to and how superficial it seemed compared to the 25 informal. I think it's because we had to shout over a loud music. I really didn't give much time for connection and catch up.

Also been discussing today about all the changes that are happening with fast food employment shortage, rising cost, wage increase and bonuses and restricted hours with shopping. With the employees shortage and what the future may look like with stores possibly closing down or possibly going back to the 1960s type of hours. Also heard in the news that Amazon is planning on hiring by 2024 a huge amount of veterans because they like the way the military is run. It made me wonder if Amazon will become a superpower where there are less stores to go into, and what that could mean in the future. I got into a conversation about how supply chains when we go overseas with our military are the first targets. I don't want to go into it all here, but I hope that we don't get stuck with only online options. The changes we have experienced in this past year and a half is just mind-boggling and where we're headed at record speed.

 

[Tone]

Lunchtime thoughts: Thinking about the good fellowship I had yesterday on a run with a long time friend. And how she has influenced me in that conversation with striving for that alone time with the Lord. Thinking about spiritual warfare and all the distractions.

Also thinking a lot about the reunion I went to and how superficial it seemed compared to the 25 informal. I think it's because we had to shout over a loud music. I really didn't give much time for connection and catch up.

Also been discussing today about all the changes that are happening with fast food employment shortage, rising cost, wage increase and bonuses and restricted hours with shopping. With the employees shortage and what the future may look like with stores possibly closing down or possibly going back to the 1960s type of hours. Also heard in the news that Amazon is planning on hiring by 2024 a huge amount of veterans because they like the way the military is run. It made me wonder if Amazon will become a superpower where there are less stores to go into, and what that could mean in the future. I got into a conversation about how supply chains when we go overseas with our military are the first targets. I don't want to go into it all here, but I hope that we don't get stuck with only online options. The changes we have experienced in this past year and a half is just mind-boggling and where we're headed at record speed.

I was just thinking at work today as well...!

I wondered about two economies developing. One that caters to the vaxed, and the other that caters to the non-vaxed.

As I've shared here before, the word "economy" stems from the Greek for "household", so maybe we'll see two separate households coming out of all this hoopla.

Because what's to stop the have nots (vaccination) from trading with each other if they can't do business as is?

This reminds me of what a sister shared recently...she wrote a story about the country folk battling with the city folk, ha ha.

There's are all kinds of new business opportunities if you think about it...

 

[sampa]

I was just thinking at work today as well...!

I wondered about two economies developing. One that caters to the vaxed, and the other that caters to the non-vaxed.

As I've shared here before, the word "economy" stems from the Greek for "household", so maybe we'll see two separate households coming out of all this hoopla.

Because what's to stop the have nots (vaccination) from trading with each other if they can't do business as is?

This reminds me of what a sister shared recently...she wrote a story about the country folk battling with the city folk, ha ha.

There's are all kinds of new business opportunities if you think about it...

Wow! Those are some interesting ponderings, two economies. Hadn't thought of that.

 

[bèlla]

I wondered about two economies developing. One that caters to the vaxed, and the other that caters to the non-vaxed.

Already heading in that direction. The division is for the masses.

France Sees Rush To Get Vaccinated After Mandating Passports To Enter Restaurants, Malls, Airplanes

 

[VanillaLion]

I just got home from the hospital =] is there a chat room on this website?

 

[Multifavs]

I just got home from the hospital =] is there a chat room on this website?

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Aww hospitals are no fun. I'm glad you're home now, hope you're doing all right!