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Thank you! I might check this out. I was led by the Holy Spirit yesterday to shut down all online dating accounts.@sampa
This looks right up your alley. I recall we have other runners on the forum. They might enjoy it too.
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As a runner, you want to accomplish your physical goals. But deep down, you long for your training to be a more meaningful experience, engaging your body, mind, soul, and spirit.
Walk, Run, Soar is a 52-week devotional and training journal designed for runners who hope to experience God's presence, purpose, and glory in a deeper way as they run. Dorina Gilmore Young, and her triathlete husband, Shawn, will get you moving with a new motivation: improving your spiritual health.
Along with weekly devotions to inspire you, Walk, Run, Soar includes
- practical running/training tips
- training schedules from a running and triathlon coach
- advice on how to fuel your body well
- reflection questions and action steps
- space to journal and record your running progress
Whether you are new to running or a longtime runner, Walk, Run, Soar will motivate you to hit your fitness goals while strengthening your faith.
Just ordered it and it should arrive tuesday. My Daniel fast will begin I think the 20th and that's probably when I will begin it.
Do you ever find you're following the experts advice but it's not working? Do you ever feel the experts act like it's easy so it should be easy for you too? Do you feel the experts haven't been in your shoes?
Yah, I posted this a long time ago, about time@DragonFox91
In light of the OP’s feelings, I’ll answer here. Sorry I missed it earlier.
I believe relatability begins in childhood and should be positively nurtured at home. If a child exhibits difficulty with peers or demonstrates extreme introversion or social challenges, it’s the parent’s responsibility to address it. Permitting its continuance creates the probability of future handicaps and dejection.
In my experience, most relational issues manifest in our youth, barring injury or exploitation the person experiences at a later date. Thus, the individual who struggles with the opposite sex as an adult often experienced the same as a child, adolescent, or teen. It has a root most can reference.
Relational advice isn’t penned with this person in mind. They aren’t considering mental, emotional, or social impediments. They’re addressing well-adjusted readers with good communication skills and limited barriers inhibiting their interactions with the opposite sex.
I typically broach a subject from three positions. The initial stage is gathering. I’m looking for an overview and listening to different perspectives. Then compare and contrast follows. How does the information line up with my experiences and character? This is the pruning stage.
I go deeper on the keepers and begin applying what I’ve learned and make adjustments where needed. Assessment follows. I look for areas of growth and struggle and determine what’s needed. I’ll take a class or work with a professional to overcome the stumbling blocks and continue progressing.
I work with several coaches for this reason. Classes are nice but behavioral challenges often require more input. God usually nudges me where I need help. It comes up in my quiet time or is on my heart.
I’m not working with a relationship coach right now but I’m in her group. That’s the first step in the process. We learn her philosophy and engage with others who’ve done the same and acquired the companion they’ve sought.
She challenges me where I need to be challenged (as does the team). I can’t get it elsewhere.
I like to fix what I can. I consider it a way of honoring myself (self-love), God (gratitude), and the other person (love). A healthier me makes a healthier us.
@Pavel Mosko
What are my options for an Aramaic bible? It appears many are translations from Syriac. I’d like to explore it and the targum. Suggestions are welcome. Thank you!
Yah, I posted this a long time ago, about time
The bolded is the whole problem.
What kind of classes & coaches?
I see a counselor, he's good, but I don't think he truly 'gets' it.
Right Now I got only a few people I trust. Peshitta.org a defunct site still has some free stuff as far as interlinear Bible and an old web forum where people talk about poetic structures etc. in various Bible passages.
Peshitta Aramaic/English Interlinear New Testament
I will have to PM you when I edit posts now, thenSorry. If you edit the post it doesn’t alert me.
Holy heck, how do you find all those coaches? You pay them & they're professionals, & meet them in-person? I didn't know there were all those kinds!I have classes for all topics of interest. They’re a cheat sheet of sorts. They allow me to speed up the learning process. I use coaches the same way now. They’re a bigger leapfrog.
For instance, I have a business coach, a life coach, a beauty coach, a wellness coach, and a creative coach. They provide instruction, accountability, and access to likeminded people pursuing the same.
That’s my life hack. They help me achieve the results I want. So I’m not wrestling with an issue for years. I can get it off my plate.
Coaching and counseling differ. It requires a significant degree of discipline and self-motivation. They provide the tools for change but won’t force you to do it. You must be committed to the process. Coaches address problems through mental, emotional, and behavioral changes. It isn’t therapy.
YepI don’t think he’s clueless. The desire for companionship was birthed at a young age. It blossomed with you. You’ve longed for more than 20 years. It creates emotional intensity and hunger. Reigning it in is difficult. It’s all you know.
What's at odds? What am I on the outside of?Compare that to your response on the animal thread.
I like birds, but I'm probably most like a cat. Shy, quiet, hard to open up, but very loving once so.
They’re at odds with one another. You’re still on the outside and a tsunami within. You may appear unresponsive or detached to an onlooker. Or they don’t realize you’re interested. How do you communicate it?
I will have to PM you when I edit posts now, then
Holy heck, how do you find all those coaches? You pay them & they're professionals, & meet them in-person? I didn't know there were all those kinds!
I don't think a coach would understand my situation. Relationship coaches strike me as 'it's easy, all you have to do is go to church & meet them!'
What's at odds? What am I on the outside of?
Right now I'm not communicating it b/c I'm not meeting any. Just men, or women too old or too young.
I'm in the middle of getting my house back together but scanned your post quick & wanted to comment on this part a second. I'll reply to the rest later.You’ve probably encountered single women in your interactions outside the church but you’re not connecting. I used to go to Starbucks to work and get out of the house. I met someone. We were side eyeing one another and started talking. Small talk at first. He got me a drink and we introduced ourselves. By the end of the week we shared a lot.
He introduced me to his friends and the regulars. He shared his work and wanted to take me to his favorite haunts. If he wasn’t an atheist I would have dated him. Our connection was genuine.
Interesting. You must really have a drive to improve yourself. You don't think you're good the way you are now? Or are these just areas you're really interested in you'd like to learn from?I’m self-employed. I find a lot of things through word of mouth and personal recommendations. All my friends and associates are the same. We operate in similar circles and share our knowledge. The digital space is pretty tight knit. Someone’s heard of the person, taken a class, or worked with them.
I’d say God led me to them but that sounds super religious. Some I’ve followed for a time and others I stumbled on. My beauty coach was a rare find that came through a rabbit hole. I wanted to connect with others who shared my mindset on dating but I couldn’t find them. One day I found them and it led to her.
I prefer to pay for instruction or assistance. You attract different people when you do. They’re more committed, less combative, and more supportive. We’re in the same boat. The information you encounter on the Internet is tiered. You get level one access. The nuggets come at a price and they’re meted out. Investing in my betterment is good stewardship.
Everyone I talk to about the topic just says keep meeting people until you break thru.That isn’t my experience. If my approach isn’t working there’s probably a flaw in the diagnosis or remedy I devised. I’m willing to scrap both to solve the problem. I’m not looking for someone who sees things my way. I may be wrong and need to change.
Shier men (& shier women I suppose) don't have a shot then. Everyone I talk to about that says that's not true, & point out while it can be challenging for me, I've met many people & have had many friendships & experiences. I think & hope when I find the kind of woman I'm looking for, it won't be a problem, just like it's not when I find the kind of men & older women I look for.If opening up is hard the other must breach the wall to build a connection. That requires a lot of time and patience. It’s work.
Well, I live in a condo & those attract all sorts of demographics. There's a mix of everything in my association. My immediate neighbors are 2 married couples my age. They keep to themselves, which I've found is common w/ married couples my ageDemographics helps. The age range in the area and nearby neighborhoods is my ideal. I’m constantly encountering people who’d be viable candidates as friends or prospects. I’m not in the suburbs or outskirts. Young professionals gravitate to the city.
Local attractions are in walking distance. I don’t need a car. We’re inundated with locals and out of towners. If your neighborhood is more traditional or skews towards families, you may need to venture to areas popular with younger residents.
I'm in the middle of getting my house back together but scanned your post quick & wanted to comment on this part a second. I'll reply to the rest later.
What happened in Starbucks to you & him doesn't happen to everyone. It just doesn't. 2 strangers just going on w/ their lives, you giving him signs & him giving you signs & both acting on it & hitting it off so well.
Consider yourself fortunate. That's most people's fantasy. Probably wasn't the first time for you, either, I imagine.
Yes, I should be more open to strangers. I'll try looking out for those kinds of situations. No one gives me looks, but I've been told women tend not to do that even to hot men b/c it takes interaction w/ men first for them to get attracted.....he must've really caught your eye!
Anyways, my friend & I were talking about something similar a couple weeks ago: most strangers you should just leave alone, but if someone does happen to be giving you signs & appearing to be more than polite, you need to act on it.
I'm convinced cashiers & waitresses are just being polite & friendly b/c it's part of their job or it's part of their personality.
That's what can get me into trouble when I am meeting women my age range btw. ('She's being friendly to me, she's probably friendly to everyone & isn't particularly interested in me', for example)
I want to crush & destroy that thought pattern whenever it is I next meet someone in my dating age range in a situation specifically designed to be social.
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