That’s the part which confuses me. Why are you sharing so much? You’ve told her you’re not interested. Until she demonstrates the same you need to squash that.
Over sharing is part of my personality. I routinely do it with strangers and even here. My brain doesn't exactly register the same way others do. When I overshare I am not necessarily having any feelings of being closer to someone. This is a complaint I've had people make platonic and romantically. They feel like they're closer to me than I actually do from my end.
If someone expresses interest and I don’t feel the same I’m upfront. I don’t befriend men who like me. It’s a conflict of interest and their wants come first. You end up with a situation where they’re waiting in the wings or being a ‘pal’ for a time.
I have been upfront about not liking her that way. From what I can remember initially I stopped talking to her altogether. She seemed hurt by this and for a while she kept her distance. When she finally did start approaching me again I felt guilty for how I treated her previously.
I honestly thought by then whatever feelings she had for me were vanished or at least severely curtailed. I've always had a hard time understanding exactly why she'd like me so much. She's at least as tall as me (she always thought she was taller), and larger in many ways. Frankly I'd think I wouldn't be masculine enough for her.
A person who regards you as companion worthy will never see you as a friend. If they like you they’ll have the same emotional jerks you’ve seen in her. Maybe not to that degree. But it seeps out.
I never really wanted to be her friend. I just thought we could at least be work mates who casually talk for fun. I guess I made a mistake and should have kept on ignoring her. Never had this problem before. Other women have asked me out but when I declined they respect that and went away. She's just so out of the spectrum for how an average woman behaves that she caught me off guard. Even if someone does have feelings for me I don't really have a problem being their friend as long as they're respectful about it. Which she hasn't been.
Given her behavior, I’d assume the attraction remains and would limit our discussions to work matters and non intimate discourse. She may read more into your conversations than you realize.
Well I've mostly been doing that this week. Even called her out on some of her bad behavior. Felt good actually. Stood up for a few people she was chewing out too. She's not all bad and whatnot, I know she said she had a bad childhood. There is a part of her that cares for others and she even goes out of her way to help others.
There’s the shadow aspect of course. She gives you a lot of attention. Are you certain some part of you doesn’t enjoy it?
The only thing I can think of is that she's gotten me to work in the more desirable parts of the building as of late, but this situation of her liking me was going on way before these uh.. positive sides kicked in. I certainly haven't strung her feelings around for them. As of late I'd rather take the worse jobs as long as I'm not near her.
I don't want to be mean to her or anything, but look wise she isn't anything to brag about. Last year there was a woman there who I believe was into me, and we spent a lot of time together and she was one woman many of the guys at work liked. I enjoyed that attention for superficial reasons. Although she was married and I do sort of feel guilty despite us not doing anything. We did use to eat out during break and take some walks. I remember other co-workers starring at us wondering if anything was going on. I feel bad for that.. even more since learning she did do something with another co-worker when I left the job and was even fired for it.
Although this rumor was first told me by the woman I am dealing with now. Although other people at work I do trust verified it.
In fact this current woman and that woman in the past hated each other. They had quite a feud. I have always gotten the sense that this horrible woman always wanted me to at least treat her as I treated that past woman.
