What's on your mind?

[bèlla]

Yeah. I mean on the men's side too. Men want attention from women, but many don't think of the downsides of that. There are pluses and negatives for just about everything.

Exactly. I've dealt with my share of fixations and strange ones. I can't be bothered. You'll have to protect me. *lol

I can agree with that. Garbage gender and racial studies. It's getting into elementary and middle school these days.

I love when you talk like this. Disgusting is coming. *laughs r/t

I highly doubt your IQ is low. Lol.

Good girls are smart.

It's 2:30! Bedtime for us. Let's go!
Sweet dreams. I'll talk to you later. Thanks for hanging out. *snogs and flees

 

[MehGuy]

Exactly. I've dealt with my share of fixations and strange ones. I can't be bothered. You'll have to protect me. *lol

Yeah just wait for me to finish those martial arts lessons.. lol.

I love when you talk like this. Disgusting is coming. *laughs r/t

My hate for feminism will never die.. lol.

It's 2:30! Bedtime for us. Let's go!
Sweet dreams. I'll talk to you later. Thanks for hanging out. *snogs and flees

We're in the same time zone aren't we? Going to bed so early? Goodnight. I'll always be the superior night owl.. lol.

 

[Niels]

I'm not really a fan of formal education. A lot of it is indoctrination and regurgitating information. School was mostly a bleak place for me intellectually. I much prefer independent study.

I have mixed feelings about formal education. Those who get the most out of it tend to have average intelligence, as the education system was designed to suit most students. Deviation from the mean can lead to difficulties at either end of the bell curve. Also, preferred learning style and other differences may lead to a mismatch between education and ability. A lot also depends on individual teachers and other factors, but that's the underlying problem.

This has lead me to toy with the idea of starting a school for capable students who might otherwise fall through the cracks. It would be like a program for the gifted, but admission would depend on self-nomination rather than formal grades or test scores. The educational format would be less structured, allow for creativity, and encourage independent study. Remaining in the program would largely depend on intrinsic motivation rather than external pressure.

Yeah creativity is, I just don't subscribe to this feel good "multiple intelligence theory" I hear about. It smacks of egalitarian romanticism. IQ matters the most in my opinion, second with creativity. Still you need at least a baseline of around 115 IQ for creativity to do anything remarkable.. at least beyond an artistic and musical sense.

Multiple intelligence theory is basically another way of saying that people have strengths and weaknesses. While true, it isn't the same thing as general intelligence.

Creativity can be hard to measure, and the evaluation of creative output is largely subjective. An idea isn't necessarily good just because it's popular or praised by a panel of judges. Remarkable according to whom?

In terms of creativity and IQ, I've read that having an IQ over 120 isn't particularly helpful when it comes to most creative endeavors. Not that it hurts, but it stops being advantageous that point.

Even intelligence itself can be difficult to measure. Scores on intelligence tests should be thought of as the floor, rather than the ceiling, of one's intellectual ability. It's unlikely to be lower, but it might be higher.

 

[bèlla]

Yeah just wait for me to finish those martial arts lessons.. lol.

If I'm in distress you'd better start chopping and rescue me! *lol

My hate for feminism will never die.. lol.

You're entertaining when you get going.

We're in the same time zone aren't we? Going to bed so early? Goodnight. I'll always be the superior night owl.. lol.

I need my beauty rest! I wake up early. *pokes

 

[ReesePiece23]

In terms of creativity and IQ, I've read that having an IQ over 120 isn't particularly helpful when it comes to most creative endeavors. Not that it hurts, but it stops being advantageous that point.

There could be something to this.

My IQ is VERY very low. BUT, I've never had a writing block in my entire life, and I produce a new oil painting everyday, on demand, like clockwork. If I don't paint, then I've either run out of materials or I've got something else on. But it's generally everyday.

I feel as if a high IQ would be more crippling than it would be helpful in a creative situation. If you're TOO intelligent then you're more aware of the potential pitfalls - whereas someone like me is far more reckless in their approach. I'll fail for as many times as it takes to find the nuggets; it really doesn't matter to me if I look incompetent or foolish. Because I know that hard work will eventually trump talent.

People call me intelligent, but I've never claimed to be. I just fail a lot. All people really see is the refined 'product' after I've hoovered away all of the waste.

I take the long way - but oddly enough, I'll still get there quicker than the intelligent person.

What I REALLY am is a classic dyslexic. I'm impossible to teach, I need to devise methods that tailor to my brain patterns. Can't do things otherwise.

 

[ReesePiece23]

Reese,

I'm a vessel and like to remain open to God's use in the situations I encounter. Whether they're virtual or face to face. Pointing people to Him brings me joy. Every now and then I get something like this. I feel Him moving through me while I write.

In many respects, I'm an extreme. Superwoman by day and a geisha at night. That's an honest depiction of my disposition. I scale for purpose and descend for companionship. The challenge feeds something within me like nothing does.



That's a different headspace. You don't use it all the time. You have to shift and get in that mode. How long have you been writing fiction?



Just because I'm knowledgeable doesn't mean I'm interested in teaching or becoming an authority on the subject. I broach it from three angles: Is it related to my calling? Is the work anointed? Do I have the required gifts and talents to speak authentically on the topic? Writing without those elements is a slog. I probably would have declined unless the Lord told me to do it.

I've done well-meaning acts and regretted the demands later on. He let me go through it a time or ten (I'm a slow learner at times ) until I got the point. I don't have the latitude in my schedule I did in the past. And I'm unable to counsel to the degree I've done before. It wearies me. I'm a coach and that's my sweet spot.



So you'd shift from chill to high octane? Okay boys and girls, Reese is on the move.

Firstly, that Tony Robbins guy was so American it made my teeth turn a new shade of white. I didn't feel encouraged as much as I felt shouted at. LOL

Ah, geishas - the best thing about my Japan visit was being looked after by geishas. They never let my tea cup go below half full - and y'know, I honestly feel as if I experienced what heaven might be like when I was in those gardens. Oh to be in 2017 again - I have to say, 2020 has really knocked the stuffing out of all of us.

But you know what you are and that's brilliant; self awareness is an art form - not many people ever really have it.

Fiction I've been writing for about seven years - well... Five and a half years for recreation but NOW it's becoming serious. I'll likely never give away my full name on this forum for that reason - wouldn't want an agent finding THESE posts lol. They don't paint me in my best light.

I don't expect to make much money out of it. But you don't get into this game for money - anyway, there are FAR easier ways to achieve that. If money is your desired currency invest in Amazon or something. I personally don't need the distraction. With my 30th next month, I can feel the poles shifting. To be a 'grassroots' friend to everyone is more my scene. Maybe a father too before 35 (should be easy, I used to manage 400 cows.)

I'd actually be a terrible life coach. I could be a half decent shaman though, but THAT isn't really a road I want to put people on. It almost always leads people away from God and onto the path of magic mushrooms and self indulgence.

I joked earlier about the orange juice, but I don't take - and haven't ever taken anything illicit (besides Amsterdam gummy bears). I believe that certain substances can feed you TOO much information (or the perception of it) and will give you the impression of being enlightened. And I don't know anyone who went down that road and came back and said "I've found Christ" - it's always Wicca or something equally as asinine. Shame, because I do think when used accordingly, those substances CAN be very powerful. Especially if you're backsliding and need a different frequency. (That's an opinion, NOT a fact.)

I'm a lot like you when it comes to faith, it HAS to be genuine and of God's work if you're going to relay it. Unfortunately, I talk in way that gives people the wrong idea. My pastor understands my spiritual outlook completely, but to a layman I sound pioneering and 'new age'. They don't know that the primary focus of my mediation and contemplation is Jesus. And that my practises are very monk-like.

I don't know, maybe in a few years from now I'll be able to make a better job of it. At the moment, I'm still working it out.

 

[ReesePiece23]

In other events, I manged to snare out an original pressing of The Beatles White Album with all of the original posters and postcards. The only thing I'm missing is the black sleeves, BUT for the price it was an absolute steal. It'll be worth a fortune one day. When I'm 78 it'll be 100 years old.

 

[bèlla]

Firstly, that Tony Robbins guy was so American it made my teeth turn a new shade of white. I didn't feel encouraged as much as I felt shouted at. LOL

LOL He's high octane. There's a podcast with James Altucher that's hilarious. "I realize you’re high energy," the audio engineer says, looking at Tony, "but when you bang the table it sounds like the whole room is shaking."

Ah, geishas - the best thing about my Japan visit was being looked after by geishas. They never let my tea cup go below half full - and y'know, I honestly feel as if I experienced what heaven might be like when I was in those gardens.

Their artistry is beautiful. It exemplifies what I'm implying when I speak of service and attentiveness. Elegance and genteelness are important aspects of male/female relationships. Maintaining the hard and soft balance is a must. As you've noted, men respond to it.

But you know what you are and that's brilliant; self awareness is an art form - not many people ever really have it.

True. My greatest fear is losing that part of myself to ordinary living. Finding someone who feeds that is rare.

Fiction I've been writing for about seven years - well... Five and a half years for recreation but NOW it's becoming serious. I'll likely never give away my full name on this forum for that reason - wouldn't want an agent finding THESE posts lol. They don't paint me in my best light.

Yeah, I don't blame you. *lol What's the most enjoyable and challenging parts of your work?

I don't expect to make much money out of it. But you don't get into this game for money - anyway, there are FAR easier ways to achieve that. If money is your desired currency invest in Amazon or something. I personally don't need the distraction. With my 30th next month, I can feel the poles shifting. To be a 'grassroots' friend to everyone is more my scene. Maybe a father too before 35 (should be easy, I used to manage 400 cows.)

It opens doors to other opportunities. How many kids do you want?

I'd actually be a terrible life coach. I could be a half decent shaman though, but THAT isn't really a road I want to put people on. It almost always leads people away from God and onto the path of magic mushrooms and self indulgence.

Yeah, that's a little trippy. I knew a few who walked similar roads. One went to sweat lodges and wanted to do the Sun Dance. But her mother said she'd disown her if she did.

The nice thing about coaching is their willingness to change. They recognize their limitations and seek assistance. You don't have to convince them there's a stumbling block. Whereas counseling is a lot of talking and less action. Sometimes none. I couldn't listen to problems every day. I'd be morbidly depressed.

And I don't know anyone who went down that road and came back and said "I've found Christ" - it's always Wicca or something equally as asinine. Shame, because I do think when used accordingly, those substances CAN be very powerful. Especially if you're backsliding and need a different frequency. (That's an opinion, NOT a fact.)

I've never used them. But I've heard a few speak about their experiences with peyote.

I'm a lot like you when it comes to faith, it HAS to be genuine and of God's work if you're going to relay it. Unfortunately, I talk in way that gives people the wrong idea. My pastor understands my spiritual outlook completely, but to a layman I sound pioneering and 'new age'. They don't know that the primary focus of my mediation and contemplation is Jesus. And that my practises are very monk-like.

Your expression may be applicable for New Agers and provide an opportunity for sharing your faith. You may be able to reach them in a manner others can't. You speak their language.

I enjoy conversing with Jews, atheists and the wealthy. I get them and enjoy our discourse. My approach to faith is simple. It's relational. I rarely quote scripture in my interactions. I don't need to. Living it is my calling card. I let that do the talking and infuse our discussions with love and kindness. Genuine regard can't be faked. Its a testimony of the heart. They feel my concern because its real.

Oftentimes that's what's needed. Encountering someone who loves the Lord without hearing it from them. Seeing it up close and experiencing God through their person. That's powerful.

 

[somebodysangel_88]

My shoulder is still bothering me... praying it’s not my rotator cuff

 

[( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)]

The amount of intimate details spouses share about one another's partners is shocking on this site. What happened to honor, loyalty, and discretion. Sheez. I would be ashamed.

 

[MehGuy]

If I'm in distress you'd better start chopping and rescue me! *lol

Just don't be in distress for 6 months to a year and you should be good. Think that's how long it takes to become decent at karate or whatever.. lol.

You're entertaining when you get going.

Lol, this is nothing.. I used to get real going with feminism. This is like my most toned down state.

I need my beauty rest! I wake up early. *pokes

How early do you get up?

 

[bèlla]

Just don't be in distress for 6 months to a year and you should be good. Think that's how long it takes to become decent at karate or whatever.. lol.

That doesn't sound very promising. Guess I'll need a 'no trespassing' sign for the interim. You'd better get me a pet too! I'm precious cargo.

Lol, this is nothing.. I used to get real going with feminism. This is like my most toned down state.

I have one for you. Different subject. I had to bleach my eyes. For the love!

How early do you get up?

Between 3 and 5AM.

 

[MehGuy]

That doesn't sound very promising. Guess I'll need a 'no trespassing' sign for the interim. You'd better get me a pet too! I'm precious cargo.

You want a lion?

I have one for you. Different subject. I had to bleach my eyes. For the love!

What a feminist article?

Between 3 and 5AM.

Yikes that's early. When do you typically go to bed?

 

[bèlla]

You want a lion?

You're the bodyguard dagnabit! I don't need details. *huffs

What a feminist article?

I'll send you the link.

Yikes that's early. When do you typically go to bed?

I sleep 5-6 hours max. You keep up.

 

[MehGuy]

You're the bodyguard dagnabit! I don't need details. *huffs

Alright I think a pack of lions will do the trick.

I'll send you the link.

Better not be an Everyday Feminism article.

I sleep 5-6 hours max. You keep up.

I usually need 8-9.. yet often only get about 6.

 

[bèlla]

Alright I think a pack of lions will do the trick.

They're lazy! Send the lionesses instead.

Better not be an Everyday Feminism article.

Nah, this is a different scale of disgusting.

I usually need 8-9.. yet often only get about 6.

Gosh, that's a long time. You'll sleep half the day away when you're old!

 

[MehGuy]

They're lazy! Send the lionesses instead.

Nah, we need the heavy duty cats. Not the frail female ones, lol.

Nah, this is a different scale of disgusting.

I think they're about even.. lol.

Gosh, that's a long time. You'll sleep half the day away when you're old!

I love sleep. So peaceful.

 

[bèlla]

Nah, we need the heavy duty cats. Not the frail female ones, lol.

He eats and goes to sleep! Bring the girls in.

I think they're about even.. lol.

That's messed!

I love sleep. So peaceful.

I don't need much. Four was my norm in the past.

 

[MehGuy]

He eats and goes to sleep! Bring the girls in.

No, he's the perfect example of how a man should live. Women do all the work and once in a while the large male throws his weight around to intimate outside threats. Lol.

That's messed!

Lol.. some creepy feminist mindsets on that site.. lol.

I don't need much. Four was my norm in the past.

You must have one of those genetic mutations.

 

[bèlla]

No, he's the perfect example of how a man should live. Women do all the work and once in a while the large male throws his weight around to intimate outside threats. Lol.

You sound like someone I know. *sniffs

I wrote him a little while ago about you.

Lol.. some creepy feminist mindsets on that site.. lol.

I suspect you attract the interesting sort. *lol

You must have one of those genetic mutations.

I'm an anomaly. I had an interesting conversation with an MRA a few years ago. He was trying to figure me out. I got cleared for hypergamy. But he was disturbed nonetheless. *laughs