What's on your mind?

[TheRealAriel]

I remember some guy who was here for a brief while a year or two ago always complaining about how girls will never want a kissless virgin. He acted like it was utterly hopeless for him just on account of that.

I wanted to say, so what? Apart from one day when I was 11 and was cheered on to kiss a girl named Amy on the cheek by everyone around us, I'm a kissless virgin too, and I will be 40 next month.

Far as I am concerned, nothing any more wrong with that than someone's long having not been a virgin by that age. It's the heart in either case that matters.

For all I know? A lady might find my being a "kissless virgin" at my age endearing or even cute, someday.

I really don't think being inexperienced in love is as much of a shallow turn-off as a few angry incels might insist.

Can confirm it’s untrue. My boyfriend is 37 and had never kissed anybody or had a girlfriend before me and clearly I’m into him. I won’t say the “kissless virgin” fact drew me to him at all, but it also didn’t push me away. Just wasn’t a factor.

 

[SarahsKnight]

Can confirm it’s untrue. My boyfriend is 37 and had never kissed anybody or had a girlfriend before me and clearly I’m into him. I won’t say the “kissless virgin” fact drew me to him at all, but it also didn’t push me away. Just wasn’t a factor.

You're seeing someone right now, Miss Ariel? That's great!

 

[TheRealAriel]

You're seeing someone right now, Miss Ariel? That's great!

Thanks!! The guy I had been going on about on the crush thread and I made it official a couple months back.

 

[SarahsKnight]

Thanks!! The guy I had been going on about on the crush thread and I made it official a couple months back.

He has chosen well. I will pray for you both to get along well.

 

[TheRealAriel]

He has chosen well. I will pray for you both to get along well.

That’s too kind of you to say! And thank you for the prayers! Definitely entering cautiously and slowly but so far so good!

 

[GospelS]

I remember some guy who was here for a brief while a year or two ago always complaining about how girls will never want a kissless virgin. He acted like it was utterly hopeless for him just on account of that.

I wanted to say, so what? Apart from one day when I was 11 and was cheered on to kiss a girl named Amy on the cheek by everyone around us, I'm a kissless virgin too, and I will be 40 next month.

Far as I am concerned, nothing any more wrong with that than someone's long having not been a virgin by that age. It's the heart of a person in either case that matters. Even Scripture hints greatly at this.

For all I know? A lady might find my being a "kissless virgin" at my age endearing or even cute, someday.

I really don't think being inexperienced in love is as much of a shallow turn-off as a few angry incels might insist.

This is not true about girls. You are an angel. Do not conform to the world. Changing oneself to fit in with the values, beliefs, and behavior of the unbelieving world is not necessary.

 

[SarahsKnight]

This is not true about girls.

I know that. I hope you did not misunderstand the feelings behind my post. I have felt very secure in my virginal state for a long time, and know that the ladies aren't as shallow as that. ^-^

 

[SarahsKnight]

You are an angel.

Gee, thanks, Miss Gospel S.

*scratches head sheepishly*

 

[SarahsKnight]

That’s too kind of you to say! And thank you for the prayers! Definitely entering cautiously and slowly but so far so good!
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Hah hah. Guy looks like he's having a bit of an awkward time of it, while you appear radiantly and confidently guiding him through the dance steps. ^-^

Yes, I am romanticizing this more than it is probably meant to be on purpose.

 

[Citanul]

I remember some guy who was here for a brief while a year or two ago always complaining about how girls will never want a kissless virgin. He acted like it was utterly hopeless for him just on account of that.

I wanted to say, so what? Apart from one day when I was 11 and was cheered on to kiss a girl named Amy on the cheek by everyone around us, I'm a kissless virgin too, and I will be 40 next month.

Far as I am concerned, nothing any more wrong with that than someone's long having not been a virgin by that age. It's the heart of a person in either case that matters. Even Scripture hints greatly at this.

For all I know? A lady might find my being a "kissless virgin" at my age endearing or even cute, someday.

I really don't think being inexperienced in love is as much of a shallow turn-off as a few angry incels might insist.

I can't claim to speak with a great deal of authority as I don't have a lot of dating experience, but I've always found it to be the case that discussions about things like being a "kissless virgin" don't come up in the early stages of dating. It's the sort of thing you only start talking about once you've got to know each properly, by which time you've had an opportunity to assess each other and determine whether or not you think a relationship is worth pursuing and history (or lack of) won't be too important at that point.

I've no way of knowing this, but I'm convinced that those guys who claim they get rejected for being virgins are bringing it up way too early, and that's the thing that turns women off.

 

[venksta]

I remember some guy who was here for a brief while a year or two ago always complaining about how girls will never want a kissless virgin. He acted like it was utterly hopeless for him just on account of that.

I wanted to say, so what? Apart from one day when I was 11 and was cheered on to kiss a girl named Amy on the cheek by everyone around us, I'm a kissless virgin too, and I will be 40 next month.

Far as I am concerned, nothing any more wrong with that than someone's long having not been a virgin by that age. It's the heart of a person in either case that matters. Even Scripture hints greatly at this.

For all I know? A lady might find my being a "kissless virgin" at my age endearing or even cute, someday.

I really don't think being inexperienced in love is as much of a shallow turn-off as a few angry incels might insist.

I'm a kissless virgin at 40 like you. And I don't see anything wrong with it. In fact, I'm glad for it. The only person who gets my first kiss is the woman who will get pronounced as my wife on our wedding day. I think for her, knowing that each time I kiss her afterwards, will be a sign of my patience, loyalty, and love, having waited so long to meet her thanks to God's plan for both of us.

 

[.Mikha'el.]

I remember some guy who was here for a brief while a year or two ago always complaining about how girls will never want a kissless virgin. He acted like it was utterly hopeless for him just on account of that.

I wanted to say, so what? Apart from one day when I was 11 and was cheered on to kiss a girl named Amy on the cheek by everyone around us, I'm a kissless virgin too, and I will be 40 next month.

Far as I am concerned, nothing any more wrong with that than someone's long having not been a virgin by that age. It's the heart of a person in either case that matters. Even Scripture hints greatly at this.

For all I know? A lady might find my being a "kissless virgin" at my age endearing or even cute, someday.

I really don't think being inexperienced in love is as much of a shallow turn-off as a few angry incels might insist.

I must admit I have to scratch my head at how you've never found anyone. You seem to have a lot going in your favor, Mr. Knight.

 

[SarahsKnight]

I must admit I have to scratch my head at how you've never found anyone. You seem to have a lot going in your favor, Mr. Knight.

I really appreciate that, Sir Mikha'el.

Oh, I am confident she is out there somewhere, my dear Lady Knight.

But if not, I still have the privilege of having so many non-romantic lady knights (lowercase for distinction, you see ) in my circle of friends. *shoutout to my homegirls @Multifavs and @GodJesusAndChocolate *

 

[SarahsKnight]

I suddenly found myself on a Cardcaptor Sakura binge these last few days while the show is still on Netflix this month before it leaves, and it occurred to me that a scene in an episode I saw last night is really one of the most endearing moments I can remember in anime, and I cannot believe I did not notice it before. So I'd like to share it right quick.
CCS is an innocent world where nearly every single character is very likeable, which is why even at my age it has always appealed to me whereas I am easily annoyed by like 90% of other anime out there.

Perhaps all of you remember that a character from CCS / Tsubasa Chronicle, Li Syaoran, is who has represented me in the avatar I have used for every forum community I have been a part of in the last 18 years. ^-^

 

[GodDoesListen55]

Second-guessing everything!

 

[venksta]

I went to my second church this morning for prayer with my mom. This church is my parent's home church. They have a Thursday morning drop in time for those who need prayer. When we arrived, the prayer warriors were all out praying for others in a different room, except for one lady. She happens to be good friends with my mom, and use to attend my home church. It happened to be God's will she prayed for me, as she had much insight into my church. Shes a powerful prayer warrior, from what I've seen. I wanted to get insight on what God's plan for myself and my church. I spent a lot of time sharing about the state of my home church, and the doors God was opening. However, I wanted to know what role God is preparing me for, from serving behind the scenes, into serving in the open. The lady shared some interesting revelations. One was God is calling me to become a pastor. I've had various signs and feedback about that from others, however, I just didn't see that happening. As she shared this, God brought to mind I could take online classes for it. The other thing, out of the few revelations, was this lady has been praying for me to meet God's chosen women as my wife. She had a vision of me once alongside this woman. I won't get into the details, but if I ever needed confirmation about something God told me about that woman I'm waiting on, this was it.

 

[GodDoesListen55]

Stay busy; keep your mind off of your own thoughts!

 

[peaceful-forest]

I saw the posts about being kissing virgins.

My first kiss was with an ex friend from high school. I did it out of desperation. I don't know how we got on the subject, but he agreed to do it in exchange for other things. I mostly didn't hold up my end of the deal.

I know that was bad for me to do, but like I said, I was desperate. Guys didn't like me and I was motivated to do physical things.

That was before I was saved.

 

[.Mikha'el.]

I remember some guy who was here for a brief while a year or two ago always complaining about how girls will never want a kissless virgin. He acted like it was utterly hopeless for him just on account of that.

I wanted to say, so what? Apart from one day when I was 11 and was cheered on to kiss a girl named Amy on the cheek by everyone around us, I'm a kissless virgin too, and I will be 40 next month.

Far as I am concerned, nothing any more wrong with that than someone's long having not been a virgin by that age. It's the heart of a person in either case that matters. Even Scripture hints greatly at this.

For all I know? A lady might find my being a "kissless virgin" at my age endearing or even cute, someday.

I really don't think being inexperienced in love is as much of a shallow turn-off as a few angry incels might insist.

Obciously I am in the same boat as you. I've long joked that if that ever changes, I'm gonna come back here and post a certain Katy Perry song in this thread.

 

[ReesePiece23]

Being a virgin doesn't carry the stigma that it used to. In the late 90s early 00s you were tarred and feathered for it (hence a certain pointless movie about a 40 year old). Nowadays, I feel most people would just shrug and say "fair enough" - especially in this day and age where personal experiences, life goals, and having a good time, take priority over romance for a lot of people.

If you are a "kissless" virgin, then (on its own) you're really not missing out on much - however the other components to a great romance that tie it all together are definitely going to shape you, define you, and help you grow - and is something that is certainly worth seeking out soon.

You're actually at an advantage in many ways, because you're going to be at a mature age, but with the excitement and passion of an 18 year old. Many people by 40 have been in and out of several relationships, and fall into a routine of going through the motions less than a year in. No one wants that.

When you want someone, and they want you, instinct takes over. It's as straightforward as breathing.