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Jonaitis said:
I found this band randomly on facebook, but they are extremely cool (no pun intended). They are a Siberian band.

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They sure are. For some reason the eccentricity reminds me of Bjork.
 
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I see a funeral home in town has a job that looks interesting, but do I really want to work in a place like that, especially with my hypersensitivity towards human mortality?
 
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.Mikha'el. said:
I see a funeral home in town has a job that looks interesting, but do I really want to work in a place like that, especially with my hypersensitivity towards human mortality?
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That's a difficult decision. Some people feel called to that like one that is a chaplain. I think what would bother me the most is the embalming process.
 
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.Mikha'el. said:
I see a funeral home in town has a job that looks interesting, but do I really want to work in a place like that, especially with my hypersensitivity towards human mortality?
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*scratches side of head awkwardly* Actually that's a good question. Every now and again, ever since becoming a conditionalist Christian, I had often pondered if my occupational status would ultimately end up in the funeral home or the graveyard, as an undertaker dressed all in black with the wide brim hat and everything in my twilight years. Human mortality became a more sensitive subject for me than before.
 
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sampa said:
I always wonder if I will be able to be that compliment to someone someday.
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You can become the complement or select one you already complement. The latter is easier.

I don't think that would be for me. I already went through something like that in my upbringing. It was a constant prison for me up no freedom. I'm a very creative individual. A lot to ponder on.
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Sometimes its necessary. Everyone's beginning is different and impacts what follows. Sometimes a tear down is needed to address the damage, promote healing, and develop healthier thoughts and behaviors.

All connections require pruning. The degree of shearing depends on the participants and their willingness to address their shortcomings and its affect on the relationship. Two changeable people willing to face to the truth and do something about it will fare better than a pair that's oblivious or unequal in that respect.

Oftentimes they're trying to change the other instead of changing themselves and their approach to the problem. If you find someone who understands that concept you can overcome anything together.

"Be the change you want to see in others."
 
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.Mikha'el. said:
I see a funeral home in town has a job that looks interesting, but do I really want to work in a place like that, especially with my hypersensitivity towards human mortality?
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It's relatively recession proof unless they go forward with human composting. I say go for it. Use it as an opportunity to strengthen your faith and comfort the hurting. You may bless them more than you realize.
 
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I have started the process! I forgot I had a Christian page already that I created years ago and forgot about. It has almost 3,000 members. I just made a new logo for it and in the next few days buy a domain and get a blog started. Once I have all that started, I will begin planning out the book.
 
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bèlla said:
Sometimes its necessary. Everyone's beginning is different and impacts what follows. Sometimes a tear down is needed to address the damage, promote healing, and develop healthier thoughts and behaviors.
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Interesting perspective. Something to think on. I just have to be careful, my non-negotiable is something that is too stressful on my systemic lupus. I have to have someone that allows me the naps that I need to take and doesn't constantly wear me down. I want someone different, but not so much that they exasperate me as I have seen in the past with some people at work, button pushers.

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Be the change you want to see in others
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I agree.
 
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Good early morning walk for 6 Plus miles with my old running partner. She took her newborn baby with her and we went on paved paths. Her teenage daughter that is a soccer player went with us. We got to witness a gorgeous sunrise. Also her daughter and I raced against a radar detector clock, her Pace was 12 miles per hour mine was more like 7. Still some adjustments need to be made to the sports orthotics. There's no material on them so I have to wear inserts on top of that, and the Brooks running shoes I was wearing are too loose and and try different shoes. I did that short run in merrills that are meant for hiking.

There's an ultra marathoner that I have been getting tips from for running and various life things through a dating app, that has now asked me out but I said it would be best to converse by phone or video first. I'm not interested in this person for a long term, so I will clarify that with them but be open to doing a walk with them and maybe exchanging running tips stories and information. He's friends with David Goggins who wrote Can't Hurt Me Now. If we meet up, it will be the first time through this dating app that I will be getting together with someone. But I've not had much success in the past with that app, and decided this time around to treat it lightly and light conversations without the seriousness of looking for a long-term partner. Thinking about it now, although I think it's great to get down to business at my age and talk about long-term initially, I think it scares some people away and doesn't allow some room for getting to know each other. I really have no initial attraction to this guy, just that we share an interest in activities. He's also local. I've only been on one date that was local or the two and a half years that I have been on dating apps.
 
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sampa said:
I want someone different, but not so much that they exasperate me as I have seen in the past with some people at work, button pushers.
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There's different degrees of brokenness and challenges. We have to find someone who'll relate and assist in a healthy fashion. We're unfinished canvases. But today's mindset is otherwise. They're looking for masterpieces from works in progress and that's unrealistic.

Circumstances should overrule attraction but rarely does in my experience. Many pursue what they find appealing to the detriment of themselves and situation. When modification is best. If you're ill the number one qualities you should be looking for are attentiveness, compassion and care. Someone rich in mercy and empathy. Because the illness isn't burdensome. He wants to look after you.

You should read Joni Eareckson Tada's story. Not because you're in the same boat. But to understand what inspires a man to sacrifice to that degree when he can have otherwise. Because it is a sacrifice.

You're looking for the person who desires to ease your pain and suffering and comfort you. They'll stay the course when things get worse. But when you're dealing with someone who's ambitious or pursuing an ideal life its a question mark. The overriding problem with that type is their reluctance to be held back. They resent it.

The differences between the two is expectation. The former is looking to serve and the latter to be served. I've dated both and prefer a combination of the two. But that puts me in the tail end of the scale. My to-dos are lengthy. I wouldn't subject myself to that in the past. It didn't fit my circumstances.
 
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sampa said:
How has your week gone with your food consumption and meal planning?
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Much better this week. The heat doesn't help but its cooler today. I haven't had a lot energy. It's probably because I'm not taking my vitamins. I'll have them today and see how I feel in a week. That may be the culprit.

How are you?
 
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