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Happy birthday, @Multifavs!
(Just pretend that this is Samus saying happy birthday to you specifically.)
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This community was blessed when you first came around five years ago.
Thank you!!Happy Birthday Multifavorite! I hope you have a blessed day as well and I agree with @SarahsKnight!
prayingIt is projected to be a very difficult next two nights at work in terms of work load. Please pray for me to get through it well enough.
Thanks!Happy birthday Multifavs!
I'm thinking about writing a book about why teens and young adults leave the church, why churches are bleeding dry, and how to fix it.
Thanks!Great topic. I posted stats on the unchurched in the past with a lot of charts. If you search for the term you’ll find them. Good luck on your project!
He is deceased, Chelsea? Or are you just away from him right now?
I find that I myself miss the only cat I ever owned from time to time. Her name was Sneakers, and she was a very chubby Calico. Had her from 4 to 14 years old.
Yes!!!! Do it!!! Now!!! I will buy it!I'm thinking about writing a book about why teens and young adults leave the church, why churches are bleeding dry, and how to fix it.
Thank you!Happy belated birthday, @Multifavs and @public hermit!
I think some of this stems from every relationship is different. What might work in one case is different then the other. Now there are basic rules & traditions, but maybe singles, especially those who struggle getting dates, are just unnecessarily complicating it.Marital preparation is three-fold: parents, church, and the person. When there’s deficiencies in the first two the onus is on the latter. You have to figure it out on your own and that’s increasingly difficult for several reasons.
Yes, that is what the book is kind of doing. One Chapter is teaching you how to live single, & the next chapter is teaching physical boundaries.Unfortunately, they don’t begin at ground zero—the man and woman—and introduce the union from God’s perspective. They begin with the latter which usually assumes the foundation is solid.
The book was teaching how dangerous it can be to get too attached too quick.Men and women aren’t instructed on personal ministry to the opposite sex. They figure it out when things go awry and they’re sitting in the counselor’s office. There are ways you interact with the opposite sex that affects them deeply. Things to be nurtured and avoided. But we don’t tell them that.
There are ways we can pour into another that will prepare us for the next without transgressing boundaries or adopting worldliness. To do so requires each to understand their power to influence the other for good or bad.
yesChristian men require certain things in today’s climate. He needs to hear his difference is evident. He needs opportunities to demonstrate godly masculinity. Which requires a combination of verbal appreciation and encouragement and the willingness to allow him to take the lead.
I see this a lot. Even in 'man is the head' type churches I see it all the time. Where women all sign-up for missionary work & men tend not to. It's an interesting phenomenon.There’s too many superwomen in church. They rush to fill the gaps instead of coaxing the men to step up. That isn’t done through confrontation or shame. You celebrate his essence and invite them to participate. Men want to feel needed and valued. Sometimes that requires women to get out the way, stop competing, and trying to define their manhood.
You're the first one I've heard & read bring it up. Though I've certainly noticed it.Unfortunately, you won’t hear that today. There’s too much masculine energy on the other side and women are overly empowered and more than a few are drunk on the power. They’re unable to help the ones who come behind because they’re out of order.
Not at churches, no. But yes, there is a different kind of it at church.Couple that with his challenges. He’s society’s scapegoat. Men are disempowered, maligned, and encouraged to reject masculinity through shame, humiliation, and effeminate rhetoric. He comes to church seeking relief only to encounter a different iteration of the dilemma.
Could be why a lot want to be missionary warriors.She grapples with notable struggles too. Most women are very insecure. They weren’t affirmed enough at home. Which compels them to seek validation in their appearance, men, friends, work and activities. She needs to hear well done and have frequent reminders of her beauty because she fears she’s not enough. The magazines and billboards make her feel less than. She wants to know he values her as-is.
Underneath the rhetoric and independence lies a woman craving acceptance. Many want protection but they don’t know how to relinquish their guard or let you in. Don’t allow her words to disarm or camouflage her vulnerability. Love is the key. The best way to love a woman is through appreciation
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