It really is about parental involvement and knowing your child inside and out (t....
So true. Growing up homeschooled almost EVERY parent thought the kid was an angel, especially as teens. They weren't' sexually active. They knew their kids well! And yet before I graduated I'd say more then half of the teens I knew (especially the guys) had sex or at the least "messed" around in one way or another. Of course this isn't even counting the other things they did like looking at inappropriate content.
Parents as you said need to talk more to their kids. Get to know them. Get to know the REAL them because its not like your childs going to openly say "Yes mom I am having lots of sex!". Their horny teens, they aren't going to tell the parents that, especially christian ones.
It probably bears mentioning that marital sex isn't ALWAYS great, or even close to it lol. Sometimes it's painful, sometimes it's awkward, sometimes you just can't get into it, sometimes it sputters out and you just give up, sometimes it's messy, sometimes one of you wants it and the other doesn't, sometimes your body just won't cooperate... You have to learn to laugh off the awkward moments, and reassure your partner if it just isn't stoking your furnace for some reason, and learn to be OK with the non-events that WILL sometimes occur lol.
Just wanted to say that. Some people think that married sex is constant fireworks and exploding rockets and novel-worthy swooning. And sometimes.. it's NOT lol.
Indeed. If sex was always amazing and perfect then I doubt the divorce rate would be as high as it is (not that people divorce simply because of bad sex). My wife certainly found out on the honeymoon sex while great, had other things you cannot explain that will happen like messiness, things not always working...etc.
One important thing to learn to is what to do in situations like the other half doesn't want it, things don't work and so on. Because being immature during these times will destroy your marriage.
In the US, I think we have historically asked way too little of young men when it comes to the issue of sexual purity. On the day of judgment, "She let me do it." is going to be a valid excuse for the sin of fornication. If you watch American TV or Hollywood movies, the idea seems to be that it is normal that a man would accept sex from a beautiful woman, be it fornication or adultery. Nowadays, women aren't expected to show much restraint either.
I remember somewhere on these boards someone mentioned they lost their virginity but it was the womans fault because she let him. I said thats not an excuse because it takes two for sex to happen. You have a choice. I then mentioned my ex-fiance at the time slept with me in bed, then she got frisky and we had sex. She did lure me into it BUT (i told him) I still choose to let it turn into full on sex. Lure or not. So no one can say "Its the womans fault!".
I think young men see it as "Well she technically initiated it so therefor I didn't sin!" I'm sure God will think thats a legit excuse. lol. In another topic some months ago a guy said "I masturbated her and we did oral things too. But it wans't sex so we did not sin!" Its like um... sex is not just full on contact where a man penetrates a woman.
But still many young men will "mess around" because they really believe sex is one particular way for it to qualify as sex.