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Respectfully ma'am, this would not be sin on your part because you are not a Christian. The Bible, which teaches us God's will for Christians is very clear: we are not to be unequally yoked with unbelievers. The very fact that you would even consider this is evidence that you are no servant of God. You can only serve one master. Either the Lord Jesus Christ will rule over your life and you will obey Him, or you will live in open, obstinate, and flagrant rebellion and disobedience against Him. You further say that "people are good or bad no matter their faith". The Bible says this is simply false. Romans 1-3 is clear. Nobody does good outside of Christ. The one who is unregenerate cannot obey the law because they are not even able to (Rom. 8:7). You even consider whether Islam is actually true and say, "Also if that thing is true about heaven, then I’d like to be his 71st". For these reasons, ma'am, I do not believe the most urgent question you ought to be asking is whether you ought to marry this man, but rather, you ought to be asking whether you are spiritually married to the Lord Jesus Christ or not. These are hard words, yes. Harsh, even. But they are necessary. These are the most important words anyone will ever tell you. May the Holy Spirit do with them what He wills.
Bitter Lollipop, I second this. Watch the movie, Not Without My Daughter! You will regret it if you marry a Muslim. It’s not a matter of some individuals being controlling vs not, but the expectations of the religion itself. Men are the sole decision makers for their families and are expected to make their spouses subservient (and I believe, mothers). Also, there is a doctrine in Islam called Taqiyya that allows for deception (lying) if it furthers the interests of Islam. So he could be lying to you about how things will be in order for you to become a Muslim and produce Muslim children.
Why am I not surprised this came from an Anglican? The epitome of a dead church that accepts anyone no matter how unbiblical their choices are. Maybe if you went to a God fearing church, a church that really respects what the Bible says, the Word of God, the only thing we have from God really, our only guide from Him, maybe you'd realize this is an unyoked relationship which will cause you great heartache and frustration. Muslims are notorious for putting forth a great front, then the beatings start later. Basically it will be like a prison for you. His allegiance to his family/culture/religion will dwarf his relationship with you. You're nothing in the eyes of a Muslim. Basically a sperm depository. A baby factory for more Muslims. Want to see the real Muslim faith? Look at street photos from Pakistan. Note there are almost NO WOMEN anywhere. Photo after photo is the same. Look at videos of people walking through cities in Pakistan, huge cities. Almost no women are visible. That's them basically imprisoning their women. 99% of the people on the street are male! You think women like that? I don't think so! That's your future world. Have fun. And forget about being a Christian....their tolerance for that will be very short lived. You haven't read about all the Muslim wives that are killed by their tyrannical husbands for petty reasons? It happens all over the world. That's your world now. Enjoy!
The only direction you should be pointed is the Bible. Unfortunately most Anglicans don't spend much time in the Word, hence their diluted faith and low moral standards. Just read the passages about being unyoked and how it talks about this subject. It means one person is yoked to Jesus and the other isn't and all the problems that ensue. Of course maybe you are walking away from God and this facilitates that. It will. But life away from the Lord is a very barren one. Hollow and spiritually stark. There's a reason so many war torn countries are Muslim. The middle east is constantly warring with each other for this very reason. Even Muslims fight a lot with each other. Muslims in western culture are hugely pressured to not show their true face. This is so they can blend in and future immigration is smoother and less restrictive. Look at Dearborn Michigan and see how they've destroyed the city creating no-go zones rife with Sharia law. Your life is worthless in the Muslim world. Rights? Non-existent. Remember that inside your home's walls will be a different world from the facade you will project when you're (rarely) outside.
This was one SUPERB and well balanced reply. Thank you for taking the time.
Well said. The problem is Islam just doesn't give women any credibility at all. Its ingrained in their thinking. So this naturally carries on to the home and the wife pays a dear price for this.
There won't be any red flags before they get married. He'll be the finest example of emotional control imaginable. Then after marriage he'll relax and be himself. Good luck with that.
Muslims often mention the 70 virgins for good Muslim men but curiously never talk about what good Muslim women get in Heaven. I wonder why? Could it be because they don't really matter in the Muslim world?
That was exactly what the movie with Sally Fields was about. His true colors only came out when he knew it was his time. I am not saying this is him but it is always a possibility.
Ok. I’m new here but I feel that you are going about it the wrong way. Only YOU can make you the person you are. You are wanting to marry this guy because you stopped drinking and dress more conservatively? Did you ever stop and think what kind of person you would be if you break up. What would you be like then? He influenced you in a good way, so what would you be if he and you broke up? Would that be his responsibility if you went back to your old ways? ALL of my friends are Muslim and I see a peaceful religion and one of my best friends is Muslim and he has made me THINK about how I dress, how I carry myself, and just my life in general. But in the end, he and I do not hold to the same bond that makes up the foundation of marriage and family. Who comes first? GOD. And when you have kids, what are you going to teach them. The Bible is clear. The way to salvation is baptism in Christ. He doesn’t believe in Christ. And while we worship the same God, they don’t believe Christ is his son and the Holy Spirit. You have a whole lot to think about. But if you are looking to him to make you a better person, you’re looking at the wrong person. Draw near to Christ and find yourself in him.
