What Does the Bible Say About Marrying a Muslim?

[IceJad]

I want to marry a Muslim man. Please do not send me any hateful, racial or culturally bigoted messages. I have spent time getting to know the Islamic faith and they are extremely devout, God-fearing people. Yes, they have some differences on Jesus but when it comes to their practices, I have seen nothing but good.

For the last almost 2 years, I have been friends with a Muslim guy. We met at college and he’s truly amazing. I love him very much. I’ve become a better person since meeting him. I’ve had a wild past. I used to go drinking and partying. I used to go to the beach. I used to do a lot of things I’m not proud of. Since meeting him, I’ve changed. I stopped drinking (almost), I’ve started dressing more modestly (like Elsa in Frozen), I’ve started spending most of my free time studying instead of posting endless selfies. I feel like I’ve gotten closer to God.

Christian guys are much different. I’ve been around them also and I have to say he is way better. This year, I also fasted when he was fasting. We did it to remember the poor and hungry who have much less than us. It humbled me. I don’t waste food nearly as much as I used to.

I want to marry him. I feel I’ve become a much better person because of him, and I want to continue to live this way. Is it allowed?

Legally yes it is allowed. No one can stop you.

However if you're asking whether God allows it, there is no answer. I'm quite sure there will be Christians in your life that will quote 2 Corinthians 6:14.

Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?

I find it unhelpful as it is more of a judgement than advise.

As to your statement that marrying a Muslim will make you a better Christian, sorry to disappoint you - You will not be a better Christian, you will be a better Muslim. Muslims are not allowed to marry non-believers you will have to convert. Even if there is no legal obligation, theologically you're required to. If he allows you to remain Christian then he is not as religious as you describe him as. This is not to say he is not a great person.

I leave you will only one advise: No servant can serve two masters. He will love one and hate the other. So let your yes be yes and no be no.

Everyone has their own choices to make in life. Let no one stop you from your choices. All choices have their benefits and consequences. Accepting that in totality is what you have to do for yourself. Be honest with yourself.

 

[BitterLollipop]

I would never advise anyone to do what you want to do. What might appear to be good leading today, may turn out to be controlling behaviour in marriage.

So Christian guys aren't controlling? Let's get real, people are good or bad no matter their faith. He is good. That's it. If he ever gets controlling then I'll make a decision what to do then. However, to say ONLY a Muslim can be controlling is misleading on your behalf.

The best way to gauge what may be a good decision is other people who have gone through it, not your feelings.

Exactly why I'm here. No one has really given me a solid argument why I should go through with this. The only thing was that he might force me to convert which I've already said he's not allowed to. Is there any other reason?

 

[BitterLollipop]

As to your statement that marrying a Muslim will make you a better Christian, sorry to disappoint you - You will not be a better Christian, you will be a better Muslim. Muslims are not allowed to marry non-believers you will have to convert. Even if there is no legal obligation, theologically you're required to. If he allows you to remain Christian then he is not as religious as you describe him as. This is not to say he is not a great person.

No that is not true. A Muslim man can marry a women of the book which includes Christian women.

 

[IceJad]

No that is not true. A Muslim man can marry a women of the book which includes Christian women.

Maybe you should ask this of him and not blindly make that conclusion on your own. Until he give you a definite answer everything you might have read are but words.

I'm a Malaysian, I live in a Muslim majority country. We have a fair bit of marriage to Muslims. And all have to convert regardless whether they are from the people of the books Torah or Injil(Gospel).

I'm not quite sure what you are truly seeking here. I'm quite sure you have hear the opinions of the people here. Some strong some more diplomatic.

However you shouldn't been seeking absolution from others about your own choices. Listen to other view points if you must but you can't demand a reason for your own decisions. That has to come from you. If you're unable to convince yourself in going through with it then don't.

 

[BitterLollipop]

Maybe you should ask this of him and not blindly make that conclusion on your own. Until he give you a definite answer everything you might have read are but words.

Asked him and he said you can marry a devout Christian, Jew and some other group.

 

[Joined2krist]

He is allowed to marry four wives and their concept of heaven is a bit weird, they hope to be rewarded with 70 virgins.

 

[BitterLollipop]

He is allowed to marry four wives and their concept of heaven is a bit weird, they hope to be rewarded with 70 virgins.

when was the last time you saw a Muslim guy with 4 wives? Just cause it’s allowed doesn’t mean they do it.

Also if that thing is true about heaven, then I’d like to be his 71st

 

[Matt5]

I want to marry a Muslim man. Please do not send me any hateful, racial or culturally bigoted messages. I have spent time getting to know the Islamic faith and they are extremely devout, God-fearing people. Yes, they have some differences on Jesus but when it comes to their practices, I have seen nothing but good.

For the last almost 2 years, I have been friends with a Muslim guy. We met at college and he’s truly amazing. I love him very much. I’ve become a better person since meeting him. I’ve had a wild past. I used to go drinking and partying. I used to go to the beach. I used to do a lot of things I’m not proud of. Since meeting him, I’ve changed. I stopped drinking (almost), I’ve started dressing more modestly (like Elsa in Frozen), I’ve started spending most of my free time studying instead of posting endless selfies. I feel like I’ve gotten closer to God.

Christian guys are much different. I’ve been around them also and I have to say he is way better. This year, I also fasted when he was fasting. We did it to remember the poor and hungry who have much less than us. It humbled me. I don’t waste food nearly as much as I used to.

I want to marry him. I feel I’ve become a much better person because of him, and I want to continue to live this way. Is it allowed?

I think you are about to make a catastrophic mistake. Soon enough you'll be pressured to join Islam. You need to learn more about Islam in order that you might understand better what you are getting yourself into.

Note: If you leave Islam you could be subject to the death penalty.

The best and easiest way to learn about Islam is to learn about the life of Mohammad instead. Muslims are commanded to emulate the most perfect Muslim - Mohammad. They need to copy Mohammad.

Who was Mohammad?

Let's start by looking at how Mohammad died:

Who Killed Muhammad? - YouTube

"Who killed Muhammad? According to Islam’s most trusted sources, Muhammad was poisoned by a Jewish woman named Zaynab bint al-Harith, whose family had been slaughtered by Muslims at Khaybar. However, there’s a plot twist, because the Quran and Hadith show that Zaynab had a co-conspirator. Who helped Zaynab murder Muhammad? David Wood investigates and solves a 1400-year-old mystery."

 

[PloverWing]

I want to marry a Muslim man.

I'm glad you've found someone who makes you a better person.

Interfaith marriages are challenging, and I recommend that both of you think and plan carefully before marrying. Here are some things to think about:

1) Worship and prayer: Will you go with him to his place of worship? Will he go with you to church? Will you join him in his daily prayers? Will he join you in your personal devotions? If you decide to pray and worship entirely separately, are you comfortable with having this as a part of your life that you do not share with each other?

2) What will you teach your children about Jesus? Both of your religions are monotheistic, so you have similar views about God, but you have different views about who Jesus was.

3) What will you teach your children about the Bible and the Quran?

4) Will you baptize your children?

5) Will your children join their father in his daily prayers and in his times of fasting?

6) What religious holidays will you observe? What will you do at Christmas and Easter? During Advent and Lent, if you observe those? During Ramadan?

7) Learn very thoroughly about each other's religions, including the nuances of the particular variety of the religions that you practice. (As I assume you know, there are different sects of each faith, with significant differences between the beliefs and practices of the various sects.)

Interfaith marriages can work, but it's important to think and plan carefully in advance. Not just "do we love each other?", but "in practical day-to-day terms, what is the plan for how we are going to build a home and a family together?".

 

[BitterLollipop]

I think you are about to make a catastrophic mistake. Soon enough you'll be pressured to join Islam. You need to learn more about Islam in order that you might understand better what you are getting yourself"

No you are not allowed to force someone to convert in Islam. It’s literally forbidden. How will it be catastrophic?

I’m going to learn about the life of the Prophet, soon.

 

[BitterLollipop]

I'm glad you've found someone who makes you a better person.

Interfaith marriages are challenging, and I recommend that both of you think and plan carefully before marrying. Here are some things to think about:

1) Worship and prayer: Will you go with him to his place of worship? Will he go with you to church? Will you join him in his daily prayers? Will he join you in your personal devotions? If you decide to pray and worship entirely separately, are you comfortable with having this as a part of your life that you do not share with each other?

2) What will you teach your children about Jesus? Both of your religions are monotheistic, so you have similar views about God, but you have different views about who Jesus was.

3) What will you teach your children about the Bible and the Quran?

4) Will you baptize your children?

5) Will your children join their father in his daily prayers and in his times of fasting?

6) What religious holidays will you observe? What will you do at Christmas and Easter? During Advent and Lent, if you observe those? During Ramadan?

7) Learn very thoroughly about each other's religions, including the nuances of the particular variety of the religions that you practice. (As I assume you know, there are different sects of each faith, with significant differences between the beliefs and practices of the various sects.)

Interfaith marriages can work, but it's important to think and plan carefully in advance. Not just "do we love each other?", but "in practical day-to-day terms, what is the plan for how we are going to build a home and a family together?".

I will do my faith activities by myself. I’ll join him for fasting, etc. I don’t want kids so the rest doesn’t apply.

 

[Maria Billingsley]

I want to marry a Muslim man. Please do not send me any hateful, racial or culturally bigoted messages. I have spent time getting to know the Islamic faith and they are extremely devout, God-fearing people. Yes, they have some differences on Jesus but when it comes to their practices, I have seen nothing but good.

For the last almost 2 years, I have been friends with a Muslim guy. We met at college and he’s truly amazing. I love him very much. I’ve become a better person since meeting him. I’ve had a wild past. I used to go drinking and partying. I used to go to the beach. I used to do a lot of things I’m not proud of. Since meeting him, I’ve changed. I stopped drinking (almost), I’ve started dressing more modestly (like Elsa in Frozen), I’ve started spending most of my free time studying instead of posting endless selfies. I feel like I’ve gotten closer to God.

Christian guys are much different. I’ve been around them also and I have to say he is way better. This year, I also fasted when he was fasting. We did it to remember the poor and hungry who have much less than us. It humbled me. I don’t waste food nearly as much as I used to.

I want to marry him. I feel I’ve become a much better person because of him, and I want to continue to live this way. Is it allowed?

Welcome to CF. I guess there are a lot of unanswered questions. Let's start with these two:
1) Will you get married in your church or in his Mosque?
2) Will you raise your children Anglican or Muslim?

Thanks for sharing.

On a side note: I dont know if he is completely Americanized or if he has deep roots in a Muslim country but you should be aware that married women have no rights to their children and little rights to their own lives , outside the US. Lots of stories to share about this.
BEING A MUSLIM’S WIFE

 

[Maria Billingsley]

like what?

BEING A MUSLIM’S WIFE

 

[Maria Billingsley]

I'm saying he is a good godly man encouraging me to do the same. This is more than anyone else I've ever come across. Most wanted one thing. I don't know what you mean by "it's not worth it"

I'm not sure if you realize this but his god is not the same as the Christian God. Jesus Christ of Nazareth is God in the flesh. Muslims do not believe this nor do they believe He died and ressurected. He may be making you a better person in the flesh but your spiritual condition, as a Christian, will come at odds with him.
Blessings.

 

[Blade]

Allowed? Its not a sin but marrying someone that does not believe that Jesus Christ came in the flesh died on the cross for the worlds sin was buried rose the 3rd day is the only way to the Father. There is going to be some very hard times. Some Muslims do not treat woman in a good way. Some find this out only after being married. Many found them to be just as you said until they got married then everything changed.

For me married someone the loves Jesus Christ. So no its not a sin and you can marry anyone you want. The hard part is can we trust God to put the right person in our path? Do we want what He wants our our will? I asked Him before we got marred and all He said was "what do you want?". See He does not play games. I had already made up my mind

 

[tturt]

Seen programs about how they treat women Of course, that's not the life the women were promised.

But we always think our situation will be the exception.

 

[chevyontheriver]

I want to marry a Muslim man. Please do not send me any hateful, racial or culturally bigoted messages. I have spent time getting to know the Islamic faith and they are extremely devout, God-fearing people. Yes, they have some differences on Jesus but when it comes to their practices, I have seen nothing but good.

For the last almost 2 years, I have been friends with a Muslim guy. We met at college and he’s truly amazing. I love him very much. I’ve become a better person since meeting him. I’ve had a wild past. I used to go drinking and partying. I used to go to the beach. I used to do a lot of things I’m not proud of. Since meeting him, I’ve changed. I stopped drinking (almost), I’ve started dressing more modestly (like Elsa in Frozen), I’ve started spending most of my free time studying instead of posting endless selfies. I feel like I’ve gotten closer to God.

Christian guys are much different. I’ve been around them also and I have to say he is way better. This year, I also fasted when he was fasting. We did it to remember the poor and hungry who have much less than us. It humbled me. I don’t waste food nearly as much as I used to.

I want to marry him. I feel I’ve become a much better person because of him, and I want to continue to live this way. Is it allowed?

Will you be content when this Muslim man decides you will not attend church?
Will you be content when this Muslim man says his children will be Muslims?
Will you be content when this Muslim man says you will be Muslim?

I'm wondering what your understanding of Christianity is. It sounds like drinking and partying and immodesty and selfies and guys that aren't great. Do you know Jesus Christ? Your profile says you are Anglican. What does that mean to you?

 

[BitterLollipop]

1) Will you get married in your church or in his Mosque?
2) Will you raise your children Anglican or Muslim?

1) Both
2) I don't want children. If I had some, I'd teach both. Good values overlap and they can decide for himself.

Will you be content when this Muslim man decides you will not attend church?
Will you be content when this Muslim man says his children will be Muslims?
Will you be content when this Muslim man says you will be Muslim?

1) Islam is not a bad faith. These scare tactic don't work on me.
2) as above 3) Forced conversion is literally forbidden in Islam. This is what God says in the Quran in chapter 50, verse 45. Anyone who disagrees with God's commandment is no longer a Muslim. I will hold him to that.

(O Prophet), We are well aware of what they say; and you are not required to force things on them. So exhort with the Qur'an all those who fear My warning. - Chapter 50, verse 45

 

[BitterLollipop]

BEING A MUSLIM’S WIFE

Seen programs about how they treat women Of course, that's not the life the women were promised.

But we always think our situation will be the exception.

I read the article. I've also read the Bible which says the wife is property of her husband (Exodus 20:17). Also maybe you should update your article because it implies anal is allowed when it's not. I was a little disappointed when I found that out so I know. To say that Christian marriages won't be male dominant when that's what the Bible teaches is deceptive on your behalf. I've heard many good things about Islam and how they treat their wives. Thanks for the article though

 

[jacks]

I think it depends. My sister is married to a Muslim. He is a loving caring husband and father. You can't condemn someone, based on their religion. He was born and raised in Egypt, so it was natural for him to turn to the religion his country and family held. So if your fiancé is willing to respect your beliefs, I think it is workable.