What Does the Bible Say About Marrying a Muslim?

[BitterLollipop]

I want to marry a Muslim man. Please do not send me any hateful, racial or culturally bigoted messages. I have spent time getting to know the Islamic faith and they are extremely devout, God-fearing people. Yes, they have some differences on Jesus but when it comes to their practices, I have seen nothing but good.

For the last almost 2 years, I have been friends with a Muslim guy. We met at college and he’s truly amazing. I love him very much. I’ve become a better person since meeting him. I’ve had a wild past. I used to go drinking and partying. I used to go to the beach. I used to do a lot of things I’m not proud of. Since meeting him, I’ve changed. I stopped drinking (almost), I’ve started dressing more modestly (like Elsa in Frozen), I’ve started spending most of my free time studying instead of posting endless selfies. I feel like I’ve gotten closer to God.

Christian guys are much different. I’ve been around them also and I have to say he is way better. This year, I also fasted when he was fasting. We did it to remember the poor and hungry who have much less than us. It humbled me. I don’t waste food nearly as much as I used to.

I want to marry him. I feel I’ve become a much better person because of him, and I want to continue to live this way. Is it allowed?

 

[By_the_Book]

I want to marry a Muslim man. Please do not send me any hateful, racial or culturally bigoted messages. I have spent time getting to know the Islamic faith and they are extremely devout, God-fearing people. Yes, they have some differences on Jesus but when it comes to their practices, I have seen nothing but good.

For the last almost 2 years, I have been friends with a Muslim guy. We met at college and he’s truly amazing. I love him very much. I’ve become a better person since meeting him. I’ve had a wild past. I used to go drinking and partying. I used to go to the beach. I used to do a lot of things I’m not proud of. Since meeting him, I’ve changed. I stopped drinking (almost), I’ve started dressing more modestly (like Elsa in Frozen), I’ve started spending most of my free time studying instead of posting endless selfies. I feel like I’ve gotten closer to God.

Christian guys are much different. I’ve been around them also and I have to say he is way better. This year, I also fasted when he was fasting. We did it to remember the poor and hungry who have much less than us. It humbled me. I don’t waste food nearly as much as I used to.

I want to marry him. I feel I’ve become a much better person because of him, and I want to continue to live this way. Is it allowed?

I find it a little difficult to understand the true nature of the reason for your post. It certainly seems you're not interested at all in the truth and ultimately would only call any truth you're presented with as bigoted or racist, even if it's not.

A Muslim man cannot make you a better Christian.

A marital Union between a Muslim and a Christian would not be God's Will and would not be blessed, it will ultimately only bring heartache and destruction both in life and spiritually.

 

[BitterLollipop]

I find it a little difficult to understand the true nature of the reason for your post.

I'm asking if it's allowed or not. As in, will it be considered fornication/adultery? Also he's made me a better person, period.

 

[By_the_Book]

I'm asking if it's allowed or not. As in, will it be considered fornication/adultery? Also he's made me a better person, period.

Well the question of whether or not it would be allowed or not has already been addressed by me. For a Christian to marry a Muslim would be against God's Will, therefore it would be considered a sin.

 

[High Fidelity]

I'm asking if it's allowed or not. As in, will it be considered fornication/adultery? Also he's made me a better person, period.

No, it is not allowed.

I know some remarkable Muslims, as well as members of other faiths, but interfaith marriage as a Christian is a sin.

 

[ForHimbyHim]

I want to marry a Muslim man. Please do not send me any hateful, racial or culturally bigoted messages. I have spent time getting to know the Islamic faith and they are extremely devout, God-fearing people. Yes, they have some differences on Jesus but when it comes to their practices, I have seen nothing but good.

For the last almost 2 years, I have been friends with a Muslim guy. We met at college and he’s truly amazing. I love him very much. I’ve become a better person since meeting him. I’ve had a wild past. I used to go drinking and partying. I used to go to the beach. I used to do a lot of things I’m not proud of. Since meeting him, I’ve changed. I stopped drinking (almost), I’ve started dressing more modestly (like Elsa in Frozen), I’ve started spending most of my free time studying instead of posting endless selfies. I feel like I’ve gotten closer to God.

Christian guys are much different. I’ve been around them also and I have to say he is way better. This year, I also fasted when he was fasting. We did it to remember the poor and hungry who have much less than us. It humbled me. I don’t waste food nearly as much as I used to.

I want to marry him. I feel I’ve become a much better person because of him, and I want to continue to live this way. Is it allowed?

Marriage has many ups and downs, it has many difficulties and joys. Basing your decision to marry someone on how you alone feel about him, minus others around, especially those who are spirit led and care for us is tricky. That is because feelings change.

Secondly, Muslim faith is different from Christian faith. Dressing like Elsa would be important in the Muslim faith, it counts toward your salvation. However, the Christian faith is based on what Jesus has done for us, that's what counts for salvation, secondly it is based on being led by the spirit.

Lastly, are you aware that your current man is free to marry other women, thee more to be precise.

Anyway, you do not sound like you are looking for any advice, you sound like you want validation. Unfortunately, I can not offer you any as a woman who has been married for 10 years.

Lastly, it is not fornication or adultery, its putting together light and darkness. It's not about whether or not its allowed, its about whether it is wise and whether it honors God and others around you.

 

[By_the_Book]

Anyway, you do not sound like you are looking for any advice, you sound like you want validation.

I completely agree.

As a woman also who was married for 37 years to a man who dearly loved me and I dearly loved him till the moment he died this year, both of us Christians, both of us best friends but marriage, long-term marriage is tough in the best of circumstances, what this woman is proposing will be a disaster.

 

[By_the_Book]

I want to marry a Muslim man. Please do not send me any hateful, racial or culturally bigoted messages. I have spent time getting to know the Islamic faith and they are extremely devout, God-fearing people. Yes, they have some differences on Jesus but when it comes to their practices, I have seen nothing but good.

For the last almost 2 years, I have been friends with a Muslim guy. We met at college and he’s truly amazing. I love him very much. I’ve become a better person since meeting him. I’ve had a wild past. I used to go drinking and partying. I used to go to the beach. I used to do a lot of things I’m not proud of. Since meeting him, I’ve changed. I stopped drinking (almost), I’ve started dressing more modestly (like Elsa in Frozen), I’ve started spending most of my free time studying instead of posting endless selfies. I feel like I’ve gotten closer to God.

Christian guys are much different. I’ve been around them also and I have to say he is way better. This year, I also fasted when he was fasting. We did it to remember the poor and hungry who have much less than us. It humbled me. I don’t waste food nearly as much as I used to.

I want to marry him. I feel I’ve become a much better person because of him, and I want to continue to live this way. Is it allowed?

Your username is quite intriguing. Bitter Lollipop?
Might I ask why you would select such a name? If you don't want to share that's fine, it just seems like such an odd choice.

 

[BitterLollipop]

Might I ask why you would select such a name?

I wanted to use Lollipop but it was used so I used its antonym which is befitting of humans. We may judge them based on how they look from the outside but once we get to know them, we find something that's completely different.

 

[BitterLollipop]

what this woman is proposing will be a disaster.

Disaster in what way? I literally told you I became a better person because of him. Before I used to hang around with a lot of Christians and the things we did were definitely not right.

Lastly, are you aware that your current man is free to marry other women, thee more to be precise.

So? Just because it's allowed doesn't mean anyone does it. When was the last time you saw a Muslim man with 4 wives? Maybe in the news but I'm asking you about real life.

Lastly, it is not fornication or adultery, its putting together light and darkness. It's not about whether or not its allowed, its about whether it is wise and whether it honors God and others around you.

Thank you. That's what I was asking. Thanks for being honest. I don't think he is darkness otherwise he would take me towards evil. He has done nothing but take me out of darkness and towards good

 

[BitterLollipop]

Anyway, you do not sound like you are looking for any advice, you sound like you want validation. Unfortunately, I can not offer you any as a woman who has been married for 10 years.

Just because I said don't send me any hate filled messages, you think I'm looking for validation? If that was the case, I'd ask atheists' cause they don't care about any of this. They'd support me right away

 

[dzheremi]

Still no, just like in the other thread on this question.

 

[timothyu]

He has done nothing but take me out of darkness and towards good

We can understand that, but are you comfortable with the rules changing once you are are part of the new system.

 

[ForHimbyHim]

Disaster in what way? I literally told you I became a better person because of him. Before I used to hang around with a lot of Christians and the things we did were definitely not right.



So? Just because it's allowed doesn't mean anyone does it. When was the last time you saw a Muslim man with 4 wives? Maybe in the news but I'm asking you about real life.



Thank you. That's what I was asking. Thanks for being honest. I don't think he is darkness otherwise he would take me towards evil. He has done nothing but take me out of darkness and towards good

Those who are in Christ are in the light and those who are in darkness are those who are not in Christ.
Anyone can make you do better. If you were hanging around christians who were making you practice things that don't show the transformation it does not validate this situation.

Don't do this, it's not worth it.

 

[BitterLollipop]

We can understand that, but are you comfortable with the rules changing once you are are part of the new system.

like what?

 

[BitterLollipop]

Don't do this, it's not worth it.

I'm saying he is a good godly man encouraging me to do the same. This is more than anyone else I've ever come across. Most wanted one thing. I don't know what you mean by "it's not worth it"

 

[timothyu]

like what?

You might want to ask... perhaps what your status/rights will be and what status you have concerning kids and the like. Are you prepared to give up secular rights to abide by religious ones? Learn all you can. You know the old saying? Love is blind but marriage is an eye opener.

 

[BitterLollipop]

You might want to ask... perhaps what your status/rights will be and what status you have concerning kids and the like. Are you prepared to give up secular rights to abide by religious ones? Learn all you can. You know the old saying? Love is blind but marriage is an eye opener.

Yes I am learning. It's mostly traditional conservative values like women being stay at home mum, etc. However, I'll continue to explore. Feel free to point me in a direction you feel I should know more about.

 

[ForHimbyHim]

I completely agree.

As a woman also who was married for 37 years to a man who dearly loved me and I dearly loved him till the moment he died this year, both of us Christians, both of us best friends but marriage, long-term marriage is tough in the best of circumstances, what this woman is proposing will be a disaster.

37 years is goals, I am sorry for your loss.

 

[ForHimbyHim]

Those who are in Christ are in the light and those who are in darkness are those who are not in Christ.
Anyone can make you do better. If you were hanging around christians who were making you practice things that don't show the transformation it does not validate this situation.

Don't do this, it's not worth it.

Bitter the more people talk to you, the more I feel like you do not want to hear anything except 'go for it!'. You wanted to know if it was a sin, not whether if not, then you go for it, because it feels good. Unfortunately, as someone who has experienced marriage, I would never advise anyone to do what you want to do. What might appear to be good leading today, may turn out to be controlling behaviour in marriage.

The best way to gauge what may be a good decision is other people who have gone through it, not your feelings. Imagine I really felt like I wanted to go up Mount Everest and decided to not take advice about decisions about what to wear or which route to take because I felt good in that moment and "anyway I have already come this far on my own why should I listen to you."

There are Christian men out there who are not worldly. The people who were your friends that you hang with, was more a reflection of you and your choices, rather than what Christians are like.