I have not met many (any?) spoiled pastors. I have met many in danger of burnout, or who have been bullied by their congregations, though. The stresses of being a pastor are many, and often hidden.
***What I meant by spoiled pastors are ones who had easy childhoods and had never worked in secular environments. Most of them were just carrying on the family pastor heritage.
Did you know that several true Christian USA evangelists wanted to start Restoration Centers for the burned-out troubled pastors and they were not permitted to do so. I grieved about those failures.
C -- Christ-likeness, unselfish concerns, & consideration
O -- observations
M -- mercy & money sharing
P -- perseverance, prayer, & patience
A -- attentiveness
S -- specific needs fulfilling
S -- spiritual reasons
I -- ideas & inspiration
O -- obedience to the Holy Spirit
N -- necessary or needed attitudes, actions, & aspirations
R -- respect for one another and receiving of them
E -- emotions (listening to) and exhorting in a caring/teaching way
S -- Scripture sharing: what does the Bible say about the situation needing restoration?
T -- teaching from a Holy Spirit-led pastor, Biblical counselor, or an appropriate Scripture-filled book
O -- obedience to God's Word and the Holy Spirit encouragement
R -- repentance encouragement: proper changes of thinking and behavior habits
A -- appreciation and adoration (not flattery)
T -- trusting again help
I -- intertwine souls encouragement
O -- outreach encouragement: sharing good news and lessons with others
N -- notify relatives encouragement about the new ways of thinking and behavior
I don't think I've come across the work of any of those authors. But I am not a qualified counsellor, and I refer people on to others if they need that kind of in-depth work. ***Biblical counseling and Biblical counselors are a rarity. Most people go to secular psychologists and psychoanalysts who only want to help their patients to blame some individuals and events in their pasts to blame for their current problems. Even hypnosis is used. Instead the only way to learn from our pasts is to seek Holy Spirit help to help one to understand the mistakes and sins in one's past and and how to make changes to the appropriate righteousness. Dr. Adams said usually patients were healed within months when such counseling was done.
If I may, part of the difficulty in this thread might be that this area is not usually used for one member to "teach" others, but for mutual sharing and encouragement. People can feel looked down upon when others presume to teach them without that being sought.
***Arguments do not bear fruit; good discussions do bear fruit when participants want to learn. The word “opinion” is found only 3 times in the KJV Bible, all in Job 32 in one of Job's friend's exhortation speeches. And modern media (especially the talk shows) and gossip times (especially in Christian churches) are mostly negative opinions. Philippians 2:1-5 and Ephesians 4:11-16 indicates a top priority of Christians should be learning Jesus Christ, how He thinks and how He ministered when He was in human form. And God said, “So shall My Word be that goes forth out of My mouth: it shall not return unto Me void, but it shall accomplish that which I please, and it shall prosper in the thing whereto I sent it.” [Isaiah 55:11] My suggestions are in the following Scripture passages: Ephesians 2:1-10, 1 Corinthians 3:11-15, Proverbs 3:5-6, Philippians 2:1-5, Ephesians 4:11-16, and Jude 20-25.
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