What is in the heart of a wife? How does she feel about her husband? What is he to her? What place does he have in her life? What is she, in her own mind, to him? I'm trying to get as comprehensive a look as I can at the heart of a wife not only for her husband, but also in relation to her husband. Any help you can give would be appreciated. Thanks!
Every women you ask these questions to will give you different answers, so Im not sure you will get a consensus, and dont forget that not all marriages are good or happy ones, which means that many women would provide disparaging answers to your questions.
But for myself.
My heart is for my husband and child, but this is probably because his heart is towards me. My MIL says that a womens attitude towards her husband is directly related to his attitude towards her - if he loves her, she will return the love, but if he is indifferent, she will become resentful.
Im not sure if you want any scriptures, but the one I always remember is in Genesis when God says that he will make Adam "a helper comparable to him" (NKJV). God didnt want "the helper" to be a slave to Adam, or a the master of Adam, but equal, sharing everything with Adam.
I was brought up a christian, and have heard many times from church leaders about wives "submit to your husband" ie do as you are told. But as far as I can see this is not what God intended in relationships. If fact this attitude has more to do with the Greek-Roman influence in christianity that it does with Gods ideal for marriage.
Paul, being Jewish would have had a different understanding as to the role of a wife. Although not scripture the Jewish writings of the Talmud give a broad understanding as far as women were concerned that Paul would have had, so if you dont mind Im going to quote a few snippets
"If your wife is short, bend down to listen to her" ie the man should not consider himself too superior to his wife to consult her.
"Honour your wife, for thereby you enrich yourself. A man should ever be careful about the honour due to his wife, because no blessing is experienced in his house except on her account"
I know that this may not be exactly what you were looking for in an answer, wanting things from a womens perspective, but as I have said, often it is the husbands attitude which is criticial to the relationship. My husband is a good and godly man, treats me with respect, even when I dont treat him in the same way, loves me even when Im angry and seeks always for my good. I have learnt this through 13 and half years of marriage that I can trust him with my life and that of my child, that he will lead me where I need to go, spiritually as well as physically even when I dont want to go, gently and with care, and now and again have strong words with me when I need to hear them. His attitude and care towards me directly related to how I feel about him.