I would love to hear what it is you need help with, CIC.
Well, Ill go through the bible to see whats God's role for women is
We see in Genesis that God intented to create woman as a helpmeet for man as he says in Genesis 2:18
Then the LORD God said, "It is not good for the man to be alone; I will make him a help meet suitable for him." - Genesis 2:18
So we see God created woman as a supporting and nurturing role in the order of creation.
We see in 1 Corinthians 11:9 that woman was indeed created for mans sake. Due to her supporting and childbearing role in the world as the Apostle Paul says
for indeed man was not created for the woman's sake, but woman for the man's sake - 1 Corinthians 11:9
We see regards to man and woman as regards to the trinity in Corinthians 11:13
Now I want you to realize that the Messiah is the head of every man, and man is the head of the woman, and God is the head of the Messiah. - 1 Corinthians 11:3
Now this dosen't mean oppression or like the woman is on a leech. But rather shows the nature of God's order of both genders in regards to the trinity. Just because Christ is second of the Trinity dosen't make him any less than God himself, as they are equal in essence, but still God is head of Christ as Man is head of Woman. In general human nature this can be seen between wife and husband, where husband is head provider and head of household, while the wife is caretaker, childbearer and supporter. Neither role makes anyone less than the other but the roles still exist just as they exist in the Trinity. Both men and women respond to authority in different ways and It was deemed by God that the husband be the main authority of the family. Most husbands and wives naturally fall into this role, so it is clear this is written on our heart and what God intended. As God says in Genesis
To the woman He said, "I will greatly multiply Your pain in childbirth, In pain you will bring forth children; Yet your desire will be for your husband, And he will rule over you." - Genesis 3:16
So by Gods plan, he wants womans desire to be for their husbands and proprogate the family. Now any modern western woman would take this as outright sexism. But then again she is ignorant to the plan of God nor has guidance from the Holy Spirit so she cannot understand the true meaning of this. Job tells us
"Whenever a woman is in labor she has pain, because her hour has come; but when she gives birth to the child, she no longer remembers the anguish because of the joy that a child has been born into the world - Job 16:21
This shows that a womans joy is in her children. And as we can see a child is priceless to a good decent mother and is the center of her world. No job or worldly things will ever replace the love and importance she has for her children, unless she is ungodly.
We show through Timothy that a main womans role is her bearing of Children as he says in 1 Timothy 2:15
But women will be preserved through the bearing of children if they continue in faith and love and sanctity with self-restraint - 1 Timothy 2:15
This shows that the bearing of children is a most important role because humans would not be able to propagate. We see a woman is preserved through her bearing of children thus showing God's plan
How are women supposed to act in marriage and in general. Well lets look at what Peter says
In the same way, you wives, be submissive to your own husbands so that even if any of them are disobedient to the word, they may be won without a word by the behavior of their wives as they observe your chaste and respectful behavior - 1 Peter 3:1
This here shows the power of a true God fearing woman. Because just by her submissiveness and dedication to her husband and family she is able to show the holiness and sancity of God by her actions. The husband sees what a wonderful wife he has married and makes an effort to be more like her and thus be won by the word of God..
God intended woman to be the weaker vessel of the family as Peter says in 1 Peter 3:7
You husbands in the same way, live with your wives in an understanding way, as with someone weaker, since she is a woman; and show her honor as a fellow heir of the grace of life, so that your prayers will not be hindered. - 1 Peter 3:7
Does this mean women are weaker in mind and intellect? Of course not, it mostly has to do with physical weakness as well as feminity, since femininity is seen as soft, nuturing and caring. Hence weaker being that women are softer and more prone to injury showing that the husband has to care and protect their wives at all costs.
Husband must love their wives at all costs. Even if they stray or become snappy or rude. Granted a good god fearing woman won't act out in the way most western women do, but even good women sometimes have bad days. So husbands must have compassion and never EVER use physical violence or abuse against their wives
Husbands, love your wives and do not be embittered against them - Colossians 3:19
What plan does God have for women in general in how they should act and work. Titus 2:5 answers us
to be sensible, pure, workers at home, kind, being subject to their own husbands, so that the word of God will not be dishonored - Titus 2:5
So we see God intends for women to be workers at home, and in general thats why most women seem to prefer to be housewives in the first place since its by God's natural law. It isn't because of oppression, its because women by nature gravitate towards the home because that is naturally whats God planned for them, and only by an unnatural denial of ones feminity would a woman begin to hate motherhood(which is why feminism is so dangerous to future familys today). We see a woman should be pure, kind, and subject to their husbands. Any good God fearing woman would understand this as almost second nature
In general the Godly way for women to act is in a meek, quiet, modest manner. Which is quite a rare thing for today(but then again most people are on their way to hell). But we see that a meek, humble god fearing woman tends to recieve much more respect for her husband as well as people in general. They should also dress modest and meek. As timothy states
Women, for their part, should display their beauty by dressing modestly and decently in appropriate clothes, not by braiding their hair or by wearing gold, pearls, or expensive clothes, - 1 Timothy 2:9
A woman must quietly receive instruction with entire submissiveness - 1 Timothy 2:11
A God fearing woman naturally recieves instruction with quietness and meekness. Being humble is a good thing! And it was only till second wave feminism came into play that a meek humble woman was considered a foul word. Now today,telling a woman to be humble is considering the same as calling her a 4 letter word. No wonder why we have such horrid divorce rates! I can almost guarantee if people used Gods word as a guidance to their marriages and familys we would see a huge improvement in the stability of familys today