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I get to sleep with hunky hunky men .What possible advantages are their to being gay in this society?
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I get to sleep with hunky hunky men .What possible advantages are their to being gay in this society?
It's not about morals, it's about politics. Anti-gay groups justify their attacks in part because of their belief in a changeable sexual orientation, so it hurts their cause to demonstrate that sexual orientation is static. I'm guessing the people who take a hard-line on sexual orientation being static are perfectly content with alienating a few by-choice people in order to politically defend gays from their political opponents. Not that it changes the truth at all. But the statistics posted earlier in the thread indicate that the odds of changing sexual orientation, even via intense conditioning, are vanishingly small.
I based that off a comment from the author of the study in a different article, looks like the author was ambiguous and I didn't catch it. 'Most' is still a lot, though, so I still think it's relevant.
The point was that females and males have different physiological sexual arousal patterns, which makes it irresponsible to use a female's sexual behavior to make a general statement about both male and female behavior. It doesn't matter whether that difference is caused by genes or socialization.
The evidence indicates that social pressure doesn't work very well on sexual orientation. It is almost completely useless, according to the numbers posted.
Quoting: "Most human sexuality researchers believe that one's orientation is fixed and unchangeable."
Because of your example, it must be possible for at least a small number of females, ages 14-17, to go from straight to bi if they want to. But that doesn't imply anything about the effectiveness of socialization. It does open the possibility that females change if they meet the same criteria you did, although it would take more examples like it to be very meaningful.
I know of no evidence for seperating positive social pressure from negative, nor do I know of any evidence that positive pressure is more effective that negative. Like you've already said, attempts to un-gay people are made with both kinds of pressure. And these attempts fail.
Pragmatically, it's more effective to use science and statistics to change the political attitudes of voters in order to secure legal rights than it is to try and engage moralists on their own terms and change the morals. The path to legal and social freedom can be won with either method, but the political path is more effective, so I tend to think of it as a political matter moreso than moral.
No evidence to support this.
Given the stats, I'm going to stick with my belief that orientation cannot be changed, except in cases so few as to be negligible.
But who determines the latter authority? The state.It has nothing to do with whether sexuality is fluid, static, or any of that. The point that people should be driving at is this: As marriage is a legal contract, does the state have any authority to place conditions on who can enter into this legal agreement, assuming they have the authority to enter such a contract?
So you don't think the state should interfere if a man employs a four-year-old for 30p an hour?I don't care if a man and woman, two men, two women, three men, eight women and one man, one woman and three men - whatever combination you can imagine - want to get married out of love, sex, tax breaks, or because they give you free drinks at the nickle slots in Vegas (ohhh, the free drinks...), I don't think the state has the authority to say who can enter into a legal contract with whom.
While I agree with the most of what you say (NPH wallpaper is mandatory in my house), I think the state should have some say in who can or cannot engage in a contract. If MS don't want to sell their product to someone, that's their business. If a religious minister doesn't want to marry an interracial couple, that's their business. But no contract should broker an illegal activity (child labour, murder, theft, etc).To me, it makes as much sense as a ruling that an individual with MS can't privately sell a car to a person with neurofibromitosis, or that a dwarf can't form a limited-liability corporation with someone with acromegaly, or that a redhead can't contract a brunette to build their house. If a law was passed to that effect, it would be considered stupid and arbitrary, when all it is is saying two people with different genetic structures can't enter into a legal agreement. Why are the X and Y chromosomes exempt from being considered a stupid and arbitrary reason to prohibit two (or more) individuals from signing a legal agreement?
Focusing on the fluid v. static arguments around sexuality isn't the issue. It's whether the state has any authority to make arbitrary restrictions on the ability for consenting adults to enter into legal agreements.
Personally, I think every man and woman in the country should be entered into a plural marriage with Neil Patrick Harris.
Ah, but herein lies the flaw in the argument.
It has nothing to do with whether sexuality is fluid, static, or any of that. The point that people should be driving at is this: As marriage is a legal contract, does the state have any authority to place conditions on who can enter into this legal agreement, assuming they have the authority to enter such a contract?
I don't care if a man and woman, two men, two women, three men, eight women and one man, one woman and three men - whatever combination you can imagine - want to get married out of love, sex, tax breaks, or because they give you free drinks at the nickle slots in Vegas (ohhh, the free drinks...), I don't think the state has the authority to say who can enter into a legal contract with whom. To me, it makes as much sense as a ruling that an individual with MS can't privately sell a car to a person with neurofibromitosis, or that a dwarf can't form a limited-liability corporation with someone with acromegaly, or that a redhead can't contract a brunette to build their house. If a law was passed to that effect, it would be considered stupid and arbitrary, when all it is is saying two people with different genetic structures can't enter into a legal agreement. Why are the X and Y chromosomes exempt from being considered a stupid and arbitrary reason to prohibit two (or more) individuals from signing a legal agreement?
Focusing on the fluid v. static arguments around sexuality isn't the issue. It's whether the state has any authority to make arbitrary restrictions on the ability for consenting adults to enter into legal agreements.
Personally, I think every man and woman in the country should be entered into a plural marriage with Neil Patrick Harris.
What does that have to do with anything? There are no advantages in sexuality!
But who determines the latter authority? The state.
So you don't think the state should interfere if a man employs a four-year-old for 30p an hour?
While I agree with the most of what you say (NPH wallpaper is mandatory in my house), I think the state should have some say in who can or cannot engage in a contract. If MS don't want to sell their product to someone, that's their business. If a religious minister doesn't want to marry an interracial couple, that's their business. But no contract should broker an illegal activity (child labour, murder, theft, etc).
Basically, so long as a contract doesn't break any laws, it should be allowed. But that begs the question: does a same-sex marriage break any laws?
Why is it an issue if one or both individuals are underage?As long as the two individuals are of legal age to enter the contract, no issue.
Except those laws that forbid same-sex marriage, of course.And a same-sex marriage doesn't violate any laws, no harm, no foul.
Agreed. Though I'm still curious about the consent/accountability thing. Is it not as arbitrary as sexual orientation, stature, religion, etc?On some of the other issues you raised, those are kinda strawmen to what I was saying. Any individual has the right to refuse to enter into a contract with someone else, but the state (apart from laws governing age of consent/accountability) has no right to say who someone cannot enter a contract with. If a midget wants to only extend their legally binding services to other midgets, fine. If the Baptist church up the street doesn't want to hold a polyamorous pagan wedding, great. But the state shouldn't say that, in the case of a legal contract, neither is possible to occur.
Why not? While we may find it appalling and disgusting for a restaurant to refuse service to people deemed 'too Middle-Eastern', I think you'd agree that this isn't enough to force our 'be tolerant' mantra upon them.I specify "legal agreement" here, because a restaurant or other service industry establishment shouldn't be able to kick someone out on the basis of sexual preference, race, etc., unless they're establishing a contractual relationship with each customer, i.e. a private club membership.
But again, I think you're oversimplifying outside influences. I'm not saying that it's as simple as society saying "Do this" and people saying "Okay". I'm saying that various extremely personal and individual factors in people's early life tend to have an effect on the way they turn out as adults. This is nothing new or revolutionary. Everyone knows that children's environments have all sorts of effects on how they turn out. That's why we have notions of good and bad parenting.
For sure; and when Freud was in fashion, most human sexuality researchers believed that non-heterosexual orientations were a result of unresolved penis envy or a distant father. There are fashions in psychology. Psychological studies are much less conclusive than other kinds of studies, because they use external effects and "symptoms" to measure what's going on inside someone's head. It's not like doing a blood test to see if someone has a particular chemical in their blood, say. Researchers are inclined to extrapolate from psychological studies to fit their pet hypotheses.
Sure. Again, I'm not trying to generalise from my experience alone. I actually know quite a few queer-by-choice people; all our stories are different. We changed for different reasons and with different results. I also know some people whose sexual orientation changed naturally as they got older.
The thing that worries me about the idea that sexuality is (and must be) static is that it encourages people to find a label for themselves and stick to it their whole lives. I would prefer that people didn't feel the need to do that. I would like people to have a more relaxed attitude about who and what they are; about "how they identify". I think it would cause everyone less angst in the long run.
Attempts to un-gay people are usually rooted in guilt.
Do you find it surprising that people who "want" to change because they're terrified of an angry god generally find that they can't manage it?
Well, no, because no one's done the studies.
I have never seen a study in which attempts were made to change sexual orientation for "positive" reasons - like, say, because someone feels that they'd prefer not to limit the group of people that they can have relationships with on the basis of the shape of their genitals. I have also never seen a controlled study of attempting to change orientation. I have seen lots of studies which show that ex-gay ministries don't work, and that doesn't surprise me. They don't know what they're doing. Could a hypnotherapist or NLP expert help someone change their orientation? Maybe. Generally speaking, reputable people don't try. And therein lies the problem.
Sorry, but the Christian's I hang with, love Jews and have no problem with Traditional Jewish marriages. The Orthodox Rabbi isn't going to consider a "homosexual couple" married either. What I'm saying is that you seem to care more about being at one's side when they die, but could care less where they will spend eternity. If GOD doesn't exist, then FRANKLY you standing around at someone's bedside is rather worthless, don't you think? What exactly was gained --- if GOD doesn't exist? If it's all about you, then the act becomes rather selfish, don't you think?