Endeavourer
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- Aug 30, 2017
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Thank you so much for taking the time this morning to show me all of these articles which are great reminders.
You're so welcome PeterJames. They were written by someone who has helps 1,000's of people ditch porn and change their marriages to sanctuaries of joy and romantic love. I follow his recommendations in my own marriage and they help reveal and maintain the amazing beauty of the institution that is marriage.
I shall do what I can to keep the account balance together, but it has to be a soft push. Completely 'hard' push is impossible because a) she is used to the way things are now b) we both work 40+ hours a week and a lot of times are tired.
Approach her with a proposal that would make your marriage wonderful and help you ditch porn. Tell her you found a method for great marriages and invite her to join with you. The two of you can post for free in the marriagebuilders.com forum (you'll each have your own thread) and the trained volunteers will help you overcome your problems, stay accountable to your next steps and enjoy the benefits of a dazzling, in love marriage.
The only other comment I would say is ... I have not found my 'sister-hole' in my heart filled by my spouse. That is no insult to the spouse; there's something else that I need to explore.
There is nothing else you need to explore. This simply means that you are not in love with your wife.
Are there certain behaviors your wife displays towards you that withdraws units from her account in your heart?
When you are in love with each other (invest the time to build up your deposits in the other's heart), and have integrated sexual and recreational lives, there is no room left for a sister-hole. Your wife will be your best friend, your confidant, your everything. You two will truly become one.
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