argyleman said:Hi,
I have been trying to stop it for years but somehow I never make it longer than maybe 1 week. The thing is that it's not even certain wether it's a sin or not.
In most cases I don't have dirty fantasies. I get the urge to do it mostly when I'm depressed, it's a way to release tension.
Actually I wish I could just stop it but it doesn't work! After a few days I get the urge to do it and then I do it and then I feel bad and then the whole thing starts again.
I have tried to stop it so often somehow I cannot even imagine that I succeed one day and after all what does succeeding mean? Doing it never again? I doubt this is possible and imagine you have not done it for month and then you fall, then the chances are pretty good that you will fall again after a few days cause you are demoralized.
And I don't even know how to be free. I mean is it all down to my own will? Do I have to fight this fight and really fight the urge in my own strength? I don't think this works. I mean sometimes I win and do not do it but in most cases I simply give in.
And another really huge problem is that I often have really filthy dreams!
I dream of having sex with girls and when I wake up I have this stuff in my mind! That's like having watched a inappropriate contento! It affects you! When I dream such stuff then the chances are high that I touch the next day simply because I have this stuff in my head.
I don't like these dreams but what shall I do? I cannot do anything against them. I also do not watch inappropriate content. I mean it's not that I have never watched a inappropriate contento but I don't have this stuff at home and I do not watch it regularly, so inappropriate content is not a problem in my case.
But often 1 pic of a woman is enough to directly tempt me and when you surf on the internet you always see something filthy even when you're not looking for it.
Masturbation in and of itself is not wrong. You can touch to whatever fantasies that you have - there is no such thing as a thought crime. However, masturbation can lead to something wrong and hurtful. Example.
Im married. I have a wonderful wife. I could be with her or I could touch. Masturbation, even when I have a wife is not wrong, but if I continue to touch and neglect my wife, thats when it becomes wrong. I shouldnt substitute my wife for me just masturbating. There is a difference. Part of the joy of being married is to be with your spouse.
The point is, dont let masturbation consume you to where you actually, in some way, harm someone else. Thats when it becomes wrong.
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