You won't consider my struggle ridiculous if you've been in my shoes...thanks for ur suggestions anyway
It is funny how you address that last statement about how ridiculous this entire post is, but not any of the parts any of the reason I presented for how ridiculous it is! Are you not admittedly engaged in all of these other vial behaviors: masturbation, flirting with multiple women, talking dirty on the phone and through text? So what is the big deal with having sex - don't try to push this off as a "trying to be holy" thing! We already see that is not the case. You won't have sex with these girls, which is to say you won't commit to a relationship beyond flirting and playing games with any of these girls for a much bigger reason. You like to play games with these girls, yet you don't want to provide anything that a husband should be providing - emotional and spiritual support as well as physical intimacy. If some man was playing with my daughters like that, I'd come head hunting! In 10 years in and/or around the church there has been a young lady worth marrying, and you won't pursue marriage, but you'll pursue the activities that go along with being married! You make a decision everytime you touch, you make a decision everytime you pick up the phone and talk dirty, you make a decision everytime you flirt around with girls you have no intention of marrying...
WHY NOT MAKE THE DECISION TO LIVE HOLY! Because as I stated before the only problem going on in this post, is a grown man who will not make a decision, and wants to whine about the consequences of his indecisiveness!
What is ridiculous is the power you give your struggle. Don't you think everyone has something to conqueror? Are you the only one with a so-called addiction! Are you better than the alcoholic, meth-head, compulsive liar, kleptomaniac?
Everyone had something - or somethings - that we had to put away with the help of God.
This entire post is ridiculous because you frame this a question of not wanting to have sex because that would be adulterous, but you've already crossed 5 different lines! Do you think you are holy just because you didn't cross the 6th one?
This entire post is ridiculous because rather than turning it over to God, you come on here as a grown man whining about it. Change or don't change, but you don't need any advice or prayer from this forum - as I stated before God has given you every answer you need already!
This entire post is ridiculous because you present this like it is some huge problem, when it is something just about every grown person has had to wrestle with - don't you think it is hard for a husband or wife when their spouse is gone for a week on a business trip, deployed, or otherwise unable to have sex. You think you have it bad, imagine getting some everyday and then suddenly stopping! But we don't turn to masturbation and lust - we turn to God!
This entire post is ridiculous because you and these females you are "flirting" with are already crossing lines, that are producing these feelings and desires - you are playing with fire and crying foul when you get burned!
This entire post is ridiculous because the bottom line is you are a grown man with a decision to make - so make it... or don't - but you have all the information you need to be successful in Christ, or to fail - again you don't need our prayers or advice - Jesus already gave you both!
So yes, I've been in your shoes, I've sat where you sat, and I still declare this post is ridiculous!