This is a question which came up because I'm pregnant rigth now (6th month) and have been reading a lot about raising children and especially about babies - I guess that's what most soon-to-be parents do. One thing that came up in an article is that, at least in the United States, it is quite common to spank babies who are less than 12 months old.
I might have to be honest here - my husband and I have already decided against spanking. Not out of some blind idealism, but my own experience is that it was other forms of punishment which worked best for me as a child. Besides, we live in Germany where it is illegal. So, admittedly, I'm not asking about this because I'm wondering about whether we should spank our baby, but it is a topic I still think and read about a lot (even in Germany, people on Christian forums often tend to be in favour of spanking) - which has been important for me in making the decision not to spank our child. And even while we have made our decision, I'm still interested in knowing why parents do things differently.
What shocked me a little is the spaning of babies, though. My godchild is 18 months old and I do know that, to a certain extend, they understand that they are not supposed to do certain things, but I also know that, around 12 months old, he did not seem to have any concept of his actions having consequences. When I held him on my lap, he would happily try to dive headfirst down on the floor, probably inflicting major injuries to himself if I hadn't been holding him and kept him from falling. So I'm wondering - if parents do spank their babies at 12 months or younger, why? First, what are the reasons, or what have the babies done to deserve a spanking, and what do you think will be the effect? Do you think the baby will actually learn not to do certain things? Will it be pure fear that will make the baby stop doing certain things or really a lesson that they learn? Aren't you worried that it might do more damage than good in such a small child?
I might have to be honest here - my husband and I have already decided against spanking. Not out of some blind idealism, but my own experience is that it was other forms of punishment which worked best for me as a child. Besides, we live in Germany where it is illegal. So, admittedly, I'm not asking about this because I'm wondering about whether we should spank our baby, but it is a topic I still think and read about a lot (even in Germany, people on Christian forums often tend to be in favour of spanking) - which has been important for me in making the decision not to spank our child. And even while we have made our decision, I'm still interested in knowing why parents do things differently.
What shocked me a little is the spaning of babies, though. My godchild is 18 months old and I do know that, to a certain extend, they understand that they are not supposed to do certain things, but I also know that, around 12 months old, he did not seem to have any concept of his actions having consequences. When I held him on my lap, he would happily try to dive headfirst down on the floor, probably inflicting major injuries to himself if I hadn't been holding him and kept him from falling. So I'm wondering - if parents do spank their babies at 12 months or younger, why? First, what are the reasons, or what have the babies done to deserve a spanking, and what do you think will be the effect? Do you think the baby will actually learn not to do certain things? Will it be pure fear that will make the baby stop doing certain things or really a lesson that they learn? Aren't you worried that it might do more damage than good in such a small child?