JohnDB
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I can count on one hand the number of times I've ever had to spank my son.
It was only used for willful defiance.
But my "no" meant no and "yes" meant yes...they never meant "beg harder". So when I said "I love you" it was never up for arguments, discussion, maybe or only if...
Redirection at an infant stage is the best tool.
When the child can talk never give them the encouragement to lie. "Did you take a cookie?" When you know they did.
Of course the anger in your voice will terrify them into doing anything but disappoint their parents... meaning they won't tell the truth.
I remember the first time I had to inflict corporal punishment on my son...it wasn't severe in any sense of the word. But he was figuring out what "no" meant and it was kinda a game to him. He went from one thing and then to another that ellicited a "NO" from his parents. That was when I gave his hand a very slightly stinging slap...and the look on his face was sheer horror of what he had done once he figured it out.
He was always the best behaved child... really never tried our patience. Of course he made mistakes...kids do that. But each time it was met with consequences and forgotten. He has a good job in a bank today... trying to get into management. Loves coming over to hang out with Dad.
I do wish he would date a little more ending up to be married so I can get some grandkids. Otherwise he's a great son.
It was only used for willful defiance.
But my "no" meant no and "yes" meant yes...they never meant "beg harder". So when I said "I love you" it was never up for arguments, discussion, maybe or only if...
Redirection at an infant stage is the best tool.
When the child can talk never give them the encouragement to lie. "Did you take a cookie?" When you know they did.
Of course the anger in your voice will terrify them into doing anything but disappoint their parents... meaning they won't tell the truth.
I remember the first time I had to inflict corporal punishment on my son...it wasn't severe in any sense of the word. But he was figuring out what "no" meant and it was kinda a game to him. He went from one thing and then to another that ellicited a "NO" from his parents. That was when I gave his hand a very slightly stinging slap...and the look on his face was sheer horror of what he had done once he figured it out.
He was always the best behaved child... really never tried our patience. Of course he made mistakes...kids do that. But each time it was met with consequences and forgotten. He has a good job in a bank today... trying to get into management. Loves coming over to hang out with Dad.
I do wish he would date a little more ending up to be married so I can get some grandkids. Otherwise he's a great son.
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