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It was a slow dance.What this a pause in a regular dance, or was it really a slow dance?
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It was a slow dance.What this a pause in a regular dance, or was it really a slow dance?
It sounds to me lie you're being childish. Dancing and having fun is not sinful or sexual in and of itself. I train BJJ\MMA and I am touching other guys, occasionally they are teenagers, between their legs (closed guard). But it is not sexual or gay at all and neither is dancing sexual just because their bodies are close.
You were sick and needed rest, but that doesn't mean you need to ruin his night too. You should be happy that he had some fun. You weren't suffering from a severe illness, just a normal illness that takes you a few days to recover.
My biggest concern is how you only talk about your feelings. If this is your husband you love s why don't his feelings matter? Can't you be happy he had fun? Why not say "I saw the pictures and it looked like a lot of fun, lets go together when I feel better"? There is nothing wrong with dancing and it jus makes you look insecure and selfish when you only talk about your own feelings.
You didn't answer the question at all. No one said anything about a husband not loving his wife. You gave no explanation as to how you started at "love your wife" and then ended at "your wife is asleep in the other room resting but you're not allowed to do anything fun because she'll be jealous and get upset with you".
Another non-answer. Why can't the wife be happy her husband is having fun while she rests? I know if I was sick I would never tell my girlfriend she needs to come over and sit in the other room while I sleep, but then again I'm not a selfish helpless jerk who cares nothing about other people's time.One writer has said: "Love means your own happiness is incomplete without the happiness of the person you're in love with."
I guess that's something that someone who is actually in love with another human understands that can't be understood otherwise.
I'm not making any judgements, just observations based on what you wrote. Like I said, you wrote almost entirely about your own feelings, which is selfish. I'm not saying that one forum post is an accurate reflection of who you are as a person, just that the post you wrote was selfish.Making a lot of judgements? Wow! This was a slow, romantic dance. I am not the least bit jealous, but believe in boundaries. When I asked how he would have felt if it was me in another man's arms (without his knowledge or okay) he told me that he would have felt that I betrayed and disrespected him. He had a hard time looking at me, which broke my heart. I let him know that I understood the misstep and that we both know that neither one of us will step over the line intentionally again.
As a sidebar...I watched an entire church implode when I was on staff, because the married head pastor and a much loved & respected married member of the church overstepped boundaries. Long story short, it was a very bad time.
Correct. And that was the reason that ALL dancing was considered sinful by the Holiness crowd back 50 and more years ago.Slow dancing is a kind of touching that goes further than a handshake. I do not see how a man would do that with someone else than his wife. That just transgresses the boundary towards fornication right there.
Hi friends,
What are your thoughts regarding one spouse slow, romantic dancing with someone who is not their spouse? Add into the mix, the spouse was home sick, completely bummed that she(me) could not attend the event that she looks forward to all year. I happened to check into Facebook and found a picture of my husband of 35 years holding a friend up tight & personal to his body, with a comment that "others were stepping in to take my place" with the two of them having silly grins on their faces. I should also point out that I had sent him a text asking if he was planning on dancing, which he never responded to. I was fine with him fast dancing the night away, but would have reminded him that slow dancing was off limits, but he disregarded my text, stating later that he didn't want to be controlled. I'm so angry at the two of them and am struggling to forgive them for having bad judgement. Any thoughts of what I can do personally to eliminate the anger I feel towards both of them?
*living in adultery with that woman. He is married to you. Jesus words are quite clear.Wise woman.
My ex husband is now married to that "friend." Marriage is to be protected at all cost. Lack of boundaries is the first thing to go...
*living in adultery with that woman. He is married to you. Jesus words are quite clear.
That also happens to be the same generation of people who's votes started unfunded government programs that have forced 20 trillion dollars in debt onto their great-grandchildren and their children. How can a generation of people so blinded by greed and selfishness possibly have an opinion on what is sinful that is even remotely credible?Correct. And that was the reason that ALL dancing was considered sinful by the Holiness crowd back 50 and more years ago.
That also happens to be the same generation of people who's votes started unfunded government programs that have forced 20 trillion dollars in debt onto their great-grandchildren and their children. How can a generation of people so blinded by greed and selfishness possibly have an opinion on what is sinful that is even remotely credible?
Hi friends,
What are your thoughts regarding one spouse slow, romantic dancing with someone who is not their spouse? Add into the mix, the spouse was home sick, completely bummed that she(me) could not attend the event that she looks forward to all year. I happened to check into Facebook and found a picture of my husband of 35 years holding a friend up tight & personal to his body, with a comment that "others were stepping in to take my place" with the two of them having silly grins on their faces. I should also point out that I had sent him a text asking if he was planning on dancing, which he never responded to. I was fine with him fast dancing the night away, but would have reminded him that slow dancing was off limits, but he disregarded my text, stating later that he didn't want to be controlled. I'm so angry at the two of them and am struggling to forgive them for having bad judgement. Any thoughts of what I can do personally to eliminate the anger I feel towards both of them?