Slim pickin's

[ido]

Just give it some time.....eventually it will.
How long have you been there? Same state or different?

When I was stressed about moving away from where we lived/grew up.....my mom told me that you can make ANYPLACE home with some love, just create it the way you will feel comfortable.

I moved 2 hours north to the same town my sister and her family live in. Having my sister here has definitely made it bearable. I just wish that I was established in a church - that has been the most difficult part for me. I feel like a boat that is adrift and missing its anchor.

 

[dluvs2trvl]

I moved 2 hours north to the same town my sister and her family live in. Having my sister here has definitely made it bearable. I just wish that I was established in a church - that has been the most difficult part for me. I feel like a boat that is adrift and missing its anchor.

Does your sister and her family attend church? If so, have you visited their church?

 

[ido]

I actually attended church with them for quite some time, it just wasn't the right fit for me. I have actually found a church that I like. It's just kind of daunting to get involved so that I can start meeting people. I'm still trying to find firm footing with the whole single mom thing, so I don't want to commit myself to too many things and get overwhelmed. I tend to do things all the way or not at all. When I was a SAHM, I was on church staff part-time - leading the SS program and children's ministry, I led a UMW circle/bible study and I was a regular member of a small group. I was also on the Education committee, the UMW committee, and attended monthly Leadership committee meetings, as well.

I miss it all but the thought of incorporating all of that into my schedule makes me want to hide under the blankets. So, I'm trying to re-train myself to take baby steps with getting involved.

 

[dluvs2trvl]

Sounds like you are on the right track! Just give yourself some more time and you'll figure out how to fit it all in...may not be the same that it was but you can still get involved and start meeting people!

 

[ido]

Yeah - like one of the talks at the WOF conference - this is my new kind of normal. I'm definitely making the best of it that I can. Just some days are harder than others.

 

[dluvs2trvl]

I completely understand! There are some days that I am happy that I'm single and can do anything I want, spend my money any way I want, do the dishes or not do the dishes, etc. And then there are days when I long to be married and ache to have that desire fulfilled.

I guess it's all about learning to be content during the happy times and the longing times...

 

[ido]

Bingo! I think that's why I've been so hesitant about dating since I left my ex. I wanted to be sure that I had my head on straight before delving into the next relationship. Things will be complicated enough with kids involved - no sense making things worse by not completing the healing process first!

So, that's actually how this whole thread started for me. I'm finally starting to dip into the dating pool again and it seems like all the guys I meet want to skip straight to the skinny-dipping. As if sex doesn't complicate things even more!

*sighs*

 

[dluvs2trvl]

Yep...it seems like I run across men who want to jump forward about 20 steps in the relationship without putting the emotional energy and time into actually developing the relationship...

Things aren't any better on this side of the country flnativegrl...

 

[ido]

Do you remember the movie Weird Science? Too bad we can't create the "perfect" man. LOL

 

[dluvs2trvl]

Yeah! That would be great!!!

But then again, it would take out that whole mystery and surprise element...

I don't want perfect - I just want perfect for me...

 

[AirForceTeacher]

<pokes head in, hears D and fl talking serious and backs away slowly>

 

[dluvs2trvl]

It's ok AFT...don't be scared...looks like flnativegrl has gone to sleep and I won't bite...that is unless you want me too!

 

[AirForceTeacher]

don't, I'm a bleeder.

 

[dluvs2trvl]

I'll see if I can resist... uh..yeah I can!

 

[AirForceTeacher]

Resist this:

 

[dluvs2trvl]

hmmm....let me see ...YEP! Still resisting!

 

[ido]

Yeah! That would be great!!!

But then again, it would take out that whole mystery and surprise element...

I don't want perfect - I just want perfect for me...

My friend and I say that all the time. There is no perfect anyone - we just want men that are perfect for us.

 

[ido]

<pokes head in, hears D and fl talking serious and backs away slowly>

*sighs* Typical man - women start talking about their feelings and the guys go run and hide. LOL

 

[dluvs2trvl]

My friend and I say that all the time. There is no perfect anyone - we just want men that are perfect for us.

Yep!!! Seems like such a simple wish...

 

[yourinnervoice]

I don't want perfect - I just want perfect for me...

This is why we see so many "odd" looking couples. How many times have we heard: "What did she see in him?" or "They don't match!"

Well, they found someone that was perfect for them!
They went beyond the physical appearance, beyond the "socially or politically correct couple" and went for what they knew; He/She is perfect for me!!!

And because he/she is perfect for me - They make up for my imperfections! And with him/her and GOD - We will never be without (Psalm 23) - Oh, come on now! I feel a preaching coming on!!!Can I get an AMEN from the CF Congregation??!!!