this is sooooo true!Oh Barb....wishing you moments alone!
Anyone else noticing this. I have a friend who is a grandma now, but was a SAHM back "in the day". She and hubby used to even swap whole weekends with other SAHM families. She asked if I ever child-watch swap for dates and getaways with other SAHMs. But we don't. It seems the pool of SAHMs is so small, that none of who do have the same age kids, or the same schedule, so it would work for sleepovers and playdates for us to have time to ourselves.
DH and I are waiting for our oldest to turn a bit older for some more serious dates. She was the right grade to take the Y babysitter course last summer, but we feel 10 is too young to be alone for very long, so we go for a walk, or go put up business signs, or attend events that are only 5 minutes away for an hour or so, with her in charge. But we still don't go out to the movies (across town), or to any place that we can't get home quickly.
And even when the kids are older, I don't know if I will be ready to leave them overnight until at least one of them is 18, and a responsible 18 at that.
-And babysitters for 3 kids, who can make a meal, drive them around town, do what parents do etc. That is way way pricey.
Wish there were more moms to swap with.
Sometimes my 4yr old Stephen goes next door for a playdate with the 3yr old there. Then the 3yr old comes here another day.
I won't let Jake over there without me because of their coal stove....it's right in the middle of the living room with no gate around it. And Nick won't go there because of their dogs (he's afraid of them to the point where he actually shakes!).
She is the only SAHM i've found with a flexible schedule. and we haven't even been able to go to other places together yet. She also has an 8yr old into girlscouts and other things, so she drives her around town. I'm not quite there yet.
Also, and i know i am going on and on, I cannot take the 3yr old with me because my Explorer only has room for 3 car seats (and all three of my kids need one) and the 3yr old needs one. So it's difficult.
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