S.a.h.m.

[marezee]

boy! that seems like a slap in the face to me!
I would definitely be offended by that!

She has no right to do that unless you asked. whew!
I would have to pray not to respond to her in a negative way.
i think you made a great choice to be a SAHM!

 

[CoolMom6]

Ok, now I forgot the kicker:
She is/was a parenting teacher/counselor...something.
BUT, the things I have seen and heard her do to her kids since I've known my H are WAY outta line, and I would have already called CPS on her by now if I was a neighbor.
H says he's being "kind" for the sake of the kids, but I think he just hopes she'll get "better."
(Not after 10+ years of being like this, fat chance w/o Christ)

 

[marezee]

amen to that coolmom!
I know i'm not the best mom in the world, but without Christ in my heart, i could be a mean you know what!

Have to go! dinner is on!

 

[CoolMom6]

amen to that coolmom!
I know i'm not the best mom in the world, but without Christ in my heart, i could be a mean you know what!

Have to go! dinner is on!

Me too, sometimes, but I know you're a GREAT mom, I can see it and feel it in your spirit.
I know I am too.
It's the only thing I'm committed to doing well, besides serving the Lord and my husband.

 

[KristiLee]

Although it would bug me because I am passionate about the job of being a wife and mom, I would try to remember that for most people it is finding a job that would help us be "successful" that would be the blessing. Try to take it gracefully and thank her but that you find no greater place in life than to be a SAHM! Don't allow it to offend you even if that was the intent -you let Satan win when you do.

Just my .02 cents!

 

[CoolMom6]

Although it would bug me because I am passionate about the job of being a wife and mom, I would try to remember that for most people it is finding a job that would help us be "successful" that would be the blessing. Try to take it gracefully and thank her but that you find no greater place in life than to be a SAHM! Don't allow it to offend you even if that was the intent -you let Satan win when you do.

Just my .02 cents!

Thank you, KristiLee. I did not after I posted, I let it go, since my husband said it was a misunderstanding anyway. You are gonna like this. Now, my stepson thought, when we went to go look at new houses, that we were going to look for new jobs, I guess (he's 10, how'd he get that from that??), but it's so funny, I could not get mad.
Also, I tend to KNOW in my heart that I am a good mom, and even if that's the ONLY thing I do well, then, I am by golly gonna do it.
Hehe.

 

[CaseyK]

I am a sahm and have been since my oldest,almost 4, was born. I was a manager at a store before that. I never really missed working but after having a miscarriage in August and going through depression I went to work part time in retail and I think it was a big mistake. i mainly did it because my parents never really approved of me being a sahm and my family doesnt think I do anything important as a sahm. Anyways, I quit my j ob because it wasn't for our family and actually made me worse. Being with my g irls is where I need to be and with my Dh. I couldn't imagine doing anything else. I have hard days and struggle but I know God will get me through it.

 

[faithmom]

Yes he will, and you come here any time to not feel alone....o.k.?

 

[marezee]

Yes, we are all great moms! Because God made us their mothers!
Welcome CaseyK!

 

[CaseyK]

Thank you ladies!

 

[CoolMom6]

I am a sahm and have been since my oldest,almost 4, was born. I was a manager at a store before that. I never really missed working but after having a miscarriage in August and going through depression I went to work part time in retail and I think it was a big mistake. i mainly did it because my parents never really approved of me being a sahm and my family doesnt think I do anything important as a sahm. Anyways, I quit my j ob because it wasn't for our family and actually made me worse. Being with my g irls is where I need to be and with my Dh. I couldn't imagine doing anything else. I have hard days and struggle but I know God will get me through it.

What beautiful baby girls you have and you and they are blessed!!!!

 

[faithmom]

Almost time to go get the kids from school....here comes motherhood rushing back in the door! Whooohooo!

 

[CaseyK]

Can I ask a ?

What do you say or how do you deal with comments from family who don't think being a sahm means anything. My family thinks I do nothing all day long and that I am available anytime they need s omething but that just isn't the case. I work just as much and just as hard as them even though I am not leaving the house.

My parents and my sister are workaholics. they work until late hours in the evening and leave early in the morning and most of the time other people are watching their children. When I was younger my parents were always working and we never had "family" meals and that isn't what I want for my family but I am the only one who is a believer and thinks my place is at home and not working just so I can go buy everything I want

 

[faithmom]

You'll find it only gets worse, not only will your family monopolize your time, but every entity that needs volunteers sees you as a great comodity. Start practicing saying "No" politely to your family, so you are in good form for other things as the kids get older. Only say Yes to the things that excite you or invigorate you or you will have no energy left for your more than full-time job of being a mother. I've learned this lesson the hard way.

Also, with family...screen calls, keep return calls to a limit, if they arrive at your house, have an errand you need to go do. If you answer to their every demand, because you want to be polite, you give the messege that you are, in fact, available. Again, a hard lesson for me (it was with the inlaws).

Protect your time with your kids, it is why you are home.

Later, you will also have to protect your family life from the mega-programming for kids.

Hugs, come to us any time. Hope this helps.

 

[LovesEnduringPromise]

Can I ask a ?

What do you say or how do you deal with comments from family who don't think being a sahm means anything. My family thinks I do nothing all day long and that I am available anytime they need s omething but that just isn't the case. I work just as much and just as hard as them even though I am not leaving the house.

My parents and my sister are workaholics. they work until late hours in the evening and leave early in the morning and most of the time other people are watching their children. When I was younger my parents were always working and we never had "family" meals and that isn't what I want for my family but I am the only one who is a believer and thinks my place is at home and not working just so I can go buy everything I want

God bless you or staying home. Dont let what other people think of you being a SAHM get you down. You have the best, most important, hardest, busiet job around! Take pride in that. I want to be a SAHM one day. I think its wonderful of those moms that can stay home and raise their children. *hugs*

 

[marezee]

caseyK! the other gals in the thread have the right idea! you made the choice to be a SAHM! God bless you for that!
Everyone is different and everyone has different goals for their family.
Just tell your family and friends that this is your choice and to respect that. Tell them that being a SAHM fulfills you just as going to work fulfills them.
Let them know that being there for your kids is your top priority and it doesn't matter if they don't understand it...just accept it and move on. After all...God made you their mother!! YOU are the best mom for YOUR children!
BTW...God bless you for having your girls so close together! I think that is very hard...I know, because my boys are close in age as well. sometimes, i think it's harder than having twins! you have one baby latching or bottle feeding, while having a toddler running around getting into things and wanting your attention...not to mention nap time being all over the place!
If you can get out for errands, it's crazy because one child always falls asleep in the car...then what do you do? wait in the car until they wake up? wake them up and go do your errand? then have a miserable kid on your hands!
I can empathize with you! It does get a bit easier when one goes to school full time!
You go girl! have fun and enjoy your time with your girls while they are young. you never get this time back, and they will remember it later in life! So poo on those who think you don't do anything all day! What do they know? if they stayed at home, they would know...
But that's a different story!

 

[CaseyK]

Thanks everyone. i do need to start learning to say no. I just hate having people mad at me

 

[marezee]

Thanks everyone. i do need to start learning to say no. I just hate having people mad at me

with children as cute as yours, they won't stay mad for long...'cause they would want to see them! hugs!

 

[CaseyK]

aww, thanks. I do think my girls are pretty darn cute! I am so glad to have found t his thread!

 

[KristiLee]

I am seldom met with those questions of working outside the home (dh and I made the decision for me to stay at home and homeschool before we married), but when I have been I make it a point to direct the conversation to the benefits for the kids of having me at home.

Great sacrifice is only great treasure when you find value in it! Just put on your best smile and say "I'd be miserable doing anything BUT staying at home with my children!" {{HUGS}}