Right train, wrong track....

[bluegreysky]

So, I have someone in my life, and he's special.
We had our ups and downs,
but he stuck by me through it all.
Recently, I've seen him mature alot more
and gain qualities that I would want to see if there was a future.
We aren't really officially anything,
but want to pursue something
we just need to get on the right track.

We were best friends and so we love to just go anywhere
and hang out and do whatever
but if we were in a relationship,
someone older and wiser said that would have to change
we'd have to exercise caution not to get in situations
where we're tempted,
and we'd have to really get God in the middle.
We tried to do that when we dated last year,
but we kinda failed at it.

I have a feeling that if its REALLY gonna work,
we gotta set down some major guidelines for each other,
but to committ to that is hard.
How do you work up the strength to always do the right thing
when another person is involved?

The reason we took a break from our relationship in the first place was due to something like this- God wasnt in the center and it showed because we weren't really following the
"love is patient, love is kind..." (1 cor 13:4-8)
thing very well ...

Now we want to,
but it seems like doing it right would take more than just a little prayer.

Suggestions?
Comments?

 

[OceanFloor4]

Sound like you're talking about being tempted sexually?
You have to be accountable to each other. Which means you have to directly talk about it together and determine what you think is appropriate/right and what is not appropriate/right. Understand that the whole issue can be a very gray area, but it's very difficult to stop yourselves from crossing a line if you don't actually set a line. Set a line, agree upon it, and watch out for loopholes. Pray through the process.

 

[TheOrthodoxOne]

So, I have someone in my life, and he's special.
We had our ups and downs,
but he stuck by me through it all.
Recently, I've seen him mature alot more
and gain qualities that I would want to see if there was a future.
We aren't really officially anything,
but want to pursue something
we just need to get on the right track.

We were best friends and so we love to just go anywhere
and hang out and do whatever
but if we were in a relationship,
someone older and wiser said that would have to change
we'd have to exercise caution not to get in situations
where we're tempted,
and we'd have to really get God in the middle.
We tried to do that when we dated last year,
but we kinda failed at it.

I have a feeling that if its REALLY gonna work,
we gotta set down some major guidelines for each other,
but to committ to that is hard.
How do you work up the strength to always do the right thing
when another person is involved?

The reason we took a break from our relationship in the first place was due to something like this- God wasnt in the center and it showed because we weren't really following the
"love is patient, love is kind..." (1 cor 13:4-8)
thing very well ...

Now we want to,
but it seems like doing it right would take more than just a little prayer.

Suggestions?
Comments?

Just get married!
Seriously, if you can figure this out, tell us how you did it.

 

[kranberrydude]

I'm happy that you have met your ideal match but the meaning of sex is the highest form love from a human to another human and God wants to take that example so you can visualize yourself and God like that (not in sexual physical way, just the emotional part). Try to wait to God's time and take the advice of the first poster.